RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0

Bingsu I have been in exactly your position, my second year here was hell on earth. I had a co-teacher who quite literally was the laziest person I have ever met, and I brought it up politely by merely asking if she would help me with class preparation etc. It was an afterschool/normal school situation the school part was okay I used the textbook but for after school, each level had their own textbook, not found on waygook, so I had to prepare everything from scratch.

The minute I asked for help, she started sabotaging me instead. She made my life hell at school and outside of school, spreading the most god awful rumours about me and sabotaging me in such a way that I honestly thought I was a terrible teacher (I was gaslighted), and every person in my foreigner community had questions about my sanity, my personal life, she destroyed me. I very luckily had great students, a tiny saving grace.

I got through the first semester. I had vacation (I did nothing but sleep, eat, cry and watch series). Then the second semester, I made up my mind to speak to nobody, I went to my job, I did my work, I left. I would only answer yes or no to things. I went numb. 

The second semester is nice and short. I knew I wouldn't renew with the school, and because EPIK had placed me in a school hire position, I had to re-apply with them. I got hold of the co-ordinator for the area and told her I wanted to stay in the district just not be at that school, I also told my EPIK co-ordinator. I explained to both of them what had happened (I had kept the POE coordinator updated through the year as to what was transpiring, even though she could do nothing about it because I was a school hire). It worked. Also Karma is a bitch, that CT was relieved of her position 5 months after I left.

It is tough and I can't tell you how to deal with it, I can tell you that if it weren't for my pets and SO I would have done a midnight run. No question. I understand completely. I just don't have the answers for you. Take care of yourself, and only you know the decisions you have to make to do that.

Pretty much on agreement that documenting in both written and recorded forms need to take place, and that the POE needs to be kept regularly updated on what's going on (that's what the documentation is meant for -- reference AND evidence). Definitely push for a transfer because that's part of your defense strategy. Just keep documenting to help make your case.

No you're not wrong, at the moment I am very weak. I am extremely mentally unwell from this and I honestly don't know where to turn anymore. I was always told that I had to go up the chain of command and I shouldn't break it, I did what I was supposed to do. I went to the highest person I could and nothing came of it and it just got worse for me. I'm scared to ask for help again because if they fall through again I honestly don't know what's going to happen to me here. If I asked to leave and the school doesn't want to let me or they don't want to help me, I know my life is going to get ten times worse until I break and run. And I don't want to be put in a position where everything I worked so hard for is taken away from me because other people are assholes.
And I didn't do nothing when the kid hit me, I immediately reported it like I was supposed to do. I kept pushing the issue and when I realized they weren't going to take me seriously, I went to the highest of command.

 at the start whenever kids were harassing me I would report it and again nothing ever came of it. It was essentially one of those quit Making Waves situations. I started realizing the more I complain the worse it got, so why would I continue to complain to them if they didn't care

You can think I'm trolling if you want but I'm really really not, I wouldn't have thought of this in my wildest dreams. I wouldn't have thought that I did all of this to get...here.

 I just sent an email to my coordinator asking if I could transfer and move.

No you're not wrong, at the moment I am very weak. I am extremely mentally unwell from this and I honestly don't know where to turn anymore. I was always told that I had to go up the chain of command and I shouldn't break it, I did what I was supposed to do. I went to the highest person I could and nothing came of it and it just got worse for me. I'm scared to ask for help again because if they fall through again I honestly don't know what's going to happen to me here. If I asked to leave and the school doesn't want to let me or they don't want to help me, I know my life is going to get ten times worse until I break and run. And I don't want to be put in a position where everything I worked so hard for is taken away from me because other people are assholes.
And I didn't do nothing when the kid hit me, I immediately reported it like I was supposed to do. I kept pushing the issue and when I realized they weren't going to take me seriously, I went to the highest of command.

 at the start whenever kids were harassing me I would report it and again nothing ever came of it. It was essentially one of those quit Making Waves situations. I started realizing the more I complain the worse it got, so why would I continue to complain to them if they didn't care

You can think I'm trolling if you want but I'm really really not, I wouldn't have thought of this in my wildest dreams. I wouldn't have thought that I did all of this to get...here.

 I just sent an email to my coordinator asking if I could transfer and move.

Okay, just don't accept "no" for an answer, and don't get discouraged if they try to push back. Stand your ground, and send vids/audio if they try to dig their heels in.

Short post because on phone but:

Aside from the kid who headbutted me, none of them are my kids. I have no power at all over them and they know it. When I reported it, I just got pathetic answers like "oh kids being kids lol" "they're only curious!"

And on the freezing part, I've never been invited anywhere by the teachers, they froze me out at the start. The only thing I do here is teach, be ignored, be harassed and leave.

I stopped trying to stick to rigid plans because the standard here is to give a movie when you're ahead of schedule or don't know what to do, so I just wing it with games and the kids seem okay with that and don't fight me as hard anymore. It was more for my sanity than anything else tbh. They see me as the game clown now because of curriculum classes and it's okay I guess. They're happy to see me in curriculum and In the hall but not my class, for them after school is free time lol.

Ugh.... it sucks even more if they aren't your kids. At least then, you'd have some recourse, in theory.

This is definitely sounding more and more like it is an issue that may very well have nothing to do with you personally. Maybe they disliked the previous NET for some reason and they're taking it out on you. Maybe it could have something to do with the attitude of your co-teacher, principal, or VP when it comes to foreign teachers.... who knows?

In general, I never stick to rigid planning ever these days. When I first came to Korea, I tried it.... my type-A personality just couldn't get by without rigid planning. I've actually been conditioned into a type-B personality at this point, because I didn't want to lose my damn mind.

I know they'll tell you to follow the chain of command.... and they may not like the results when you go over there head.... but sometimes you have to. Don't feel bad about it.

This day hasn't fully gotten out of bed yet and I'm already done. The kids are so ****** moody today what with exams around the corner and the bad, humid weather.

Coffee isn't going to salvage this bad start.

I was delighted with Korea's victory over Germany but now my morning commute has made me hate all the annoying Koreans again.

a giant F you to any individual in the world that thinks a fan will do in this weather.

It.will.not.do.

 

I was delighted with Korea's victory over Germany but...

You were? I was awoken to the sound of cheering, shouting, singing, and soju bottles being smashed in the street. "Oh, God, I hope Korea doesn't advance; I want peaceful sleep going forward," I thought to myself.

a giant F you to any individual in the world that thinks a fan will do in this weather.

It.will.not.do.

 

Don't you want to save the Dodo?

a giant F you to any individual in the world that thinks a fan will do in this weather.

It.will.not.do.

 

Amen.

a giant F you to any individual in the world that thinks a fan will do in this weather.

It.will.not.do.

 

Amen.

Half the A/C units in my apartment are not working.

This morning the tech came back for the second time, and got the one in my son's room back in service... Kitchen, MBR and office still without A/C.

Waiting for parts.
 

I was delighted with Korea's victory over Germany but...

You were? I was awoken to the sound of cheering, shouting, singing, and soju bottles being smashed in the street. "Oh, God, I hope Korea doesn't advance; I want peaceful sleep going forward," I thought to myself.

I woke up to a powercut at 3:30. Because, when the power came back on, my sensor light turned on and woke me up. I'm super tired right now because of a short amount of sleep that was also interrupted. :'(

a giant F you to any individual in the world that thinks a fan will do in this weather.

It.will.not.do.

 

Amen.

I taught at one school for a few months, years ago. The principal was incredibly cheap, he lorded the aircon on 24/7 in has office but refused to let anyone use it in for more than a few minutes in the classrooms. He had the "brilliant" idea of pouring water on the floor, in the classroom, so it would evaporate and "cool" the room.

a giant F you to any individual in the world that thinks a fan will do in this weather.

It.will.not.do.

 

I literally just bought a brand new 2,000,000 stand and wall aircon set for my apartment. They installed it. It worked for a few days. Then all the coolant must have leaked out or something, because now it just blows air. And now it's going to take like ten days for them to send someone to fix it. Miserable.

a giant F you to any individual in the world that thinks a fan will do in this weather.

It.will.not.do.

 

I literally just bought a brand new 2,000,000 stand and wall aircon set for my apartment. They installed it. It worked for a few days. Then all the coolant must have leaked out or something, because now it just blows air. And now it's going to take like ten days for them to send someone to fix it. Miserable.

10 days!!!
My sympathies, brother.

a giant F you to any individual in the world that thinks a fan will do in this weather.

It.will.not.do.

 

I literally just bought a brand new 2,000,000 stand and wall aircon set for my apartment. They installed it. It worked for a few days. Then all the coolant must have leaked out or something, because now it just blows air. And now it's going to take like ten days for them to send someone to fix it. Miserable.

10 days!!!
My sympathies, brother.

To be fair, last year I lived in a top-floor villa apartment with no aircon at all, and I survived with just a fan, even though it sucked. And this apartment is much cooler than that, so it's still been doable. It's just the humidity that gets me.

a giant F you to any individual in the world that thinks a fan will do in this weather.

It.will.not.do.

 

Amen.

I taught at one school for a few months, years ago. The principal was incredibly cheap, he lorded the aircon on 24/7 in has office but refused to let anyone use it in for more than a few minutes in the classrooms. He had the "brilliant" idea of pouring water on the floor, in the classroom, so it would evaporate and "cool" the room.

Very few education/engineering double majors out there.

a giant F you to any individual in the world that thinks a fan will do in this weather.

It.will.not.do.

 

Amen.

I taught at one school for a few months, years ago. The principal was incredibly cheap, he lorded the aircon on 24/7 in has office but refused to let anyone use it in for more than a few minutes in the classrooms. He had the "brilliant" idea of pouring water on the floor, in the classroom, so it would evaporate and "cool" the room.

yep. in my old school,  there was brand new samsung aircon units installed in every classroom. it was a big school, maybe 60 classrooms. naturally, the principal deemed these new units too expensive to run, so nobody was allowed to use them all summer, apart from himself in his office, of course. he would walk around the school and shout at any teachers who turned the aircon on, then stroll back to his lovely air-conditioned office

the previous principal would let teachers use the air con, but only in the afternoon when it was hotter (which was by the time all classes had finished, and students had gone home). made no sense

a giant F you to any individual in the world that thinks a fan will do in this weather.

It.will.not.do.

 

I literally just bought a brand new 2,000,000 stand and wall aircon set for my apartment. They installed it. It worked for a few days. Then all the coolant must have leaked out or something, because now it just blows air. And now it's going to take like ten days for them to send someone to fix it. Miserable.

10 days!!!
My sympathies, brother.

To be fair, last year I lived in a top-floor villa apartment with no aircon at all, and I survived with just a fan, even though it sucked. And this apartment is much cooler than that, so it's still been doable. It's just the humidity that gets me.

Me too, last summer I was in a 5th floor place with no aircon. Tbh it wasn't too bad because I could walk around with  with summer stuff on and during the hottest days we slept on the floor because it was cooler. Don't think I'd get away with that at work though