RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0

****, dude.

I was trying to get something shipped to my school but Gmarket didn't like the address format, so I had to ship it to my apartment.

It got there while I was still in class but I ran home ASAP to get it.

Get to the door, it's gone.

Nobody will answer their phone so I can't get hold of my landlord to ask if she knows where it is.

A N G R Y

On the plus side, by not having it shipped to your zoo school, you avoided the inevitable situation of your co-teacher opening the package and having the students urinate all over half the contents while stealing the rest for herself.

She gave me the info and called the landlord and tbh if she can find this box I will take back literally everything I've said about her, and also give someone my left foot.

****, dude.

I was trying to get something shipped to my school but Gmarket didn't like the address format, so I had to ship it to my apartment.

It got there while I was still in class but I ran home ASAP to get it.

Get to the door, it's gone.

Nobody will answer their phone so I can't get hold of my landlord to ask if she knows where it is.

A N G R Y

On the plus side, by not having it shipped to your zoo school, you avoided the inevitable situation of your co-teacher opening the package and having the students urinate all over half the contents while stealing the rest for herself.

She gave me the info and called the landlord and tbh if she can find this box I will take back literally everything I've said about her, and also give someone my left foot.

Hmm..we did just have that post about getting a bong shipped...

holds my package like a newborn

Does anyone have a hacksaw and a time machine? 

holds my package like a newborn

Does anyone have a hacksaw and a time machine?

Just explain that it is an English idiom for kicking somebody in the butt.

****, dude.

I was trying to get something shipped to my school but Gmarket didn't like the address format, so I had to ship it to my apartment.

It got there while I was still in class but I ran home ASAP to get it.

Get to the door, it's gone.

Nobody will answer their phone so I can't get hold of my landlord to ask if she knows where it is.

A N G R Y

Our Coupang guy (I assume it’s one guy) puts our packages on the step right in front of our gate literally every time, requiring that we knock the packages off the stairs in order to open the gate in order to retrieve the packages.

Same?

Also, just got a message from the guy I ordered my air purifier from that, despite already forking over 15k for delivery at point of purchase from Auction, I will need to pay the delivery guy extra because the weight is more than 1kg. He didn’t even specify how much more it would be. Feel like I should cancel the sale even though it’s probably still cheaper than the next lowest price just to take righteous stand.

I ****** hate the nearby high school boys. They're lazy, useless, gross pieces of shit.

The ****** bus driver had to yell at them for one to give up his seat to a 90+ year old lady who was having a hard time even standing up straight let alone keeping her balance in the aisle. Why the ****** hell does anyone need to shame them into doing something like that? AND THEY ALL STILL ****** HESITATED UNTIL I MADE EYE CONTACT WITH ONE OF THEM AND BASICALLY ENDED THAT STANDOFF

****** hell. How can they all be so selfish and lack so much empathy for other people? I don't ****** care if they've got exams now, cramming during a test on the bus ride to school isn't going to help you pass, but giving up your seat to an old woman will make you a decent human being.

And I keep hearing these same guys complaining about not having girlfriends or being unable to keep one. Meanwhile, they treat people who don't benefit them in some way like shit and they try to rub their shoulders against my breasts or their crotches against my shoulder (if I'm sitting). GOD

Navigating sidewalks filled with people who don't know how to walk in a straight line or watch where they're going is awkward enough when they don't have umbrellas doubling the amount of space they take up. It needs to stop raining.

they try to rub their shoulders against my breasts or their crotches against my shoulder (if I'm sitting). GOD

Ew. Gross.

And it's only going to get worse as they get older and become adults out in the world.

Pretty much.

What's worse is that at the beginning of each semester there are always a group of these type of boys who wait near my school gate around when they KNOW I'll be leaving for the day because they get it in their heads that if they tell me they're virgins that I'll leap at the chance to pop their cherries for them. And they don't grow out of this. I could be chatting with a guy in his mid to late 20s about thermodynamics, and he'll randomly state in the middle of all that that he's a virgin (normally a lie, but it's somehow common belief here among certain types of young men that this is a surefire way of getting women into bed). Like, thanks for stating that, but what does that have anything to do with traveling to Japan or what's currently going on in Daegu? *eyeroll*

These are the same kind of guys who go on to think that it's their looks that get in between them and girls. It couldn't POSSIBLY be because they're disrespectful, entitled, gross assholes. I just can't even some days.

Wait - what? High school kids are literally hitting on you that flagrantly? That's messed up. Like - extremely messed up. I'm not sure what other men's experiences were like when they were in high school, but I would've been too intimidated to pull that kind of thing with girls a few years older, nevertheless a grown ass teacher.

Do they creep this hard on other women that you've noticed, or is it just you?

It's just me that I've seen so far, and I'm pretty sure it's because they buy into the stereotype that foreign women are all sex-crazed and will sleep with anyone who compliments and expresses interest in them. And the fact that their school is located so close to my school is like an open opportunity for them, especially since they know I leave before my students do so they have a chance to speak privately with me (it's still safe, though, it's by a busy road).

It doesn't happen all year round, but it's literally at the beginning of every semester that a group of boys (never less than five) will slink around my school hoping for a chance to chat me up. If I don't manage to avoid them, and if I don't somehow manage to shut down their attempts before then, it inevitably leads into them telling me that they're virgins and that I'm very pretty. I haven't told my school about it because it only happens once or twice every semester, and it's always different boys, but I'm thinking that maybe I should. Sometimes I get discouraged about saying anything about this sort of thing, though, because people here are so quick to tell me that I'm probably only misunderstanding the situation. And also because I don't want to stress my coTs out over something that I've managed to handle on my own so far. xD

Females here don't understand how pervasive the "foreign slut/whore" stereotype is.
I have heard some absolutely disgusting things from Korean guys about western women. Things they would never say about Korean women. When I first moved here I hung out with a group of Korean guys who were in the same social soccer league as me. They were fuckin filthy. "I heard in Canada you can just go to a night club and girls will grab your dick. If you touch their breasts in public they like it. Anal sex is normal for every time. In America life is easy becuase if you want sex you can just meet a girl in a coffe shop or supermarket and have sex within a few hours."

My wife was a high school teacher and she was pretty young when she started, like 24 and beautiful (though I may be biased). I've asked her about her experience and she said no student would even think of saying something sexually suggestive to a female teacher. They were all ultra polite to her. Her friends of a similar age and also working as teachers said the same thing.

So when she returned to work after our kid was born she worked at a high school hagwon place part time and there were a bunch of western female teachers and she was shocked by what the students said to the foreign girls. All the western females just thought it was part of being a teacher here. It really, really isn't. And shouldn't be.

It's the same way kids will try out there swear words with NETs, but wouldn't dare with a Korean teacher.

Wait - what? High school kids are literally hitting on you that flagrantly? That's messed up. Like - extremely messed up. I'm not sure what other men's experiences were like when they were in high school, but I would've been too intimidated to pull that kind of thing with girls a few years older, nevertheless a grown ass teacher.

Do they creep this hard on other women that you've noticed, or is it just you?

It's just me that I've seen so far, and I'm pretty sure it's because they buy into the stereotype that foreign women are all sex-crazed and will sleep with anyone who compliments and expresses interest in them. And the fact that their school is located so close to my school is like an open opportunity for them, especially since they know I leave before my students do so they have a chance to speak privately with me (it's still safe, though, it's by a busy road).

It doesn't happen all year round, but it's literally at the beginning of every semester that a group of boys (never less than five) will slink around my school hoping for a chance to chat me up. If I don't manage to avoid them, and if I don't somehow manage to shut down their attempts before then, it inevitably leads into them telling me that they're virgins and that I'm very pretty. I haven't told my school about it because it only happens once or twice every semester, and it's always different boys, but I'm thinking that maybe I should. Sometimes I get discouraged about saying anything about this sort of thing, though, because people here are so quick to tell me that I'm probably only misunderstanding the situation. And also because I don't want to stress my coTs out over something that I've managed to handle on my own so far. xD

When my ex cheated on me a co-worker suggested it was because I was a foreigner, so perhaps he thought I would be okay with it. 

When my ex cheated on me a co-worker suggested it was because I was a foreigner, so perhaps he thought I would be okay with it. 

Is your coworker male or female?

Because Korean males are all very much aware of how rampant the cheating is here, even with K-girlfriends/wives. But while at least half of them think cheating is fine, they're also aware of how the rest of the world views it so they try to keep it secret outside of their male/friend groups.

So I'd only buy that particular explanation if the ex was really open about cheating on you, as if he expected you to be okay with that. xD

When my ex cheated on me a co-worker suggested it was because I was a foreigner, so perhaps he thought I would be okay with it. 

Is your coworker male or female?

Because Korean males are all very much aware of how rampant the cheating is here, even with K-girlfriends/wives. But while at least half of them think cheating is fine, they're also aware of how the rest of the world views it so they try to keep it secret outside of their male/friend groups.

So I'd only buy that particular explanation if the ex was really open about cheating on you, as if he expected you to be okay with that. xD

Female. I think that made it worse

Female. I think that made it worse

Yeah, I kind of figured. xD They either buy into the stereotype, too, or are at least aware of it, and that can/does affect their judgment and critical thinking perspectives in given situations. But they're also usually a lot more naive about how bad the cheating is here, too.

I don't think it ever occurred to your coworker that the kind of person who would cheat on his/her foreign partner would also be the same kind of person to cheat on his/her Korean partner, and that there's no misunderstanding there. It's the same across the board. If she honestly believes that your nationality/ethnicity had any part in your ex's decision and actions then maybe she has a lot of things she needs to work through about how people in general work.

they try to rub their shoulders against my breasts or their crotches against my shoulder (if I'm sitting). GOD

Ew. Gross.

And it's only going to get worse as they get older and become adults out in the world.

Or it could be that, as what usually happens in societies, people become more responsible and better behaved the older they get.

Or it could be that, as what usually happens in societies, people become more responsible and better behaved the older they get.

No, you're a poopoo face. I'm telling mom.

Or it could be that, as what usually happens in societies, people become more responsible and better behaved the older they get.

Most teenagers who rub their crotches against women (or anyone, for that matter) aren't doing it because of a lack of maturity, same as for teenagers who end up torturing animals or who get involved in gang life. They're doing it because they have severe personality and social problems which are often rooted in other problematic influences (such as home life) completely unrelated to their maturity levels. The only thing their maturity levels have in that fight is in impulse control and in how susceptible they are to outside influences that could end up leading them down that road in the first place, but once that trait has been established in their personalities, it's normally there to stay. So they don't just grow out of it. They just better learn how to hide it, and to become quite a bit more calculating about it.

There's no excusing this as a lack of maturity as this is not considered a normal process in development. Most people, male or female, would never ever think to do something like this, even when they're young and immature. It's actually legally and medically recognized as a deviation from normal development, and is classified as dysfunctional behavior. Some people are just worse than others. People who sexually harass as adults started out sexually harassing people as teenagers first. That's where they started testing it.

To illustrate, most of the gross behavior I experience in this country are from full-grown men. I know they didn't suddenly become that way as adults. It started when they were young. They were basically the kids I was describing in my previous posts.

Or it could be that, as what usually happens in societies, people become more responsible and better behaved the older they get.

Most teenagers who rub their crotches against women (or anyone, for that matter) aren't doing it because of a lack of maturity, same as for teenagers who end up torturing animals or who get involved in gang life. They're doing it because they have severe personality and social problems which are often rooted in other problematic influences (such as home life) completely unrelated to their maturity levels. The only thing their maturity levels have in that fight is in impulse control and in how susceptible they are to outside influences that could end up leading them down that road in the first place, but once that trait has been established in their personalities, it's normally there to stay. So they don't just grow out of it. They just better learn how to hide it, and to become quite a bit more calculating about it.

There's no excusing this as a lack of maturity as this is not considered a normal process in development. Most people, male or female, would never ever think to do something like this, even when they're young and immature. It's actually legally and medically recognized as a deviation from normal development, and is classified as dysfunctional behavior. Some people are just worse than others. People who sexually harass as adults started out sexually harassing people as teenagers first. That's where they started testing it.

To illustrate, most of the gross behavior I experience in this country are from full-grown men. I know they didn't suddenly become that way as adults. It started when they were young. They were basically the kids I was describing in my previous posts.

My two year old likes whipping his penis out in public occasionally, so I guess that's him f--cked for life 

My two year old likes whipping his penis out in public occasionally, so I guess that's him f--cked for life 

Your two-year-old is ****** two, and he's not doing it for sexual gratification. I can guaran-******-tee you that if your two-year-old started furtively rubbing his erect penis against a woman in a sexual manner while giving her lurid glances that child services would be pretty ****** quick to take your kid away from you.

False equivalency, and obnoxious as shit. Quit trying to excuse predatory behavior from people old enough to know better. There are literally decades of professionals who have established this.

Females here don't understand how pervasive the "foreign slut/whore" stereotype is.
I have heard some absolutely disgusting things from Korean guys about western women. Things they would never say about Korean women. When I first moved here I hung out with a group of Korean guys who were in the same social soccer league as me. They were fuckin filthy. "I heard in Canada you can just go to a night club and girls will grab your dick. If you touch their breasts in public they like it. Anal sex is normal for every time. In America life is easy becuase if you want sex you can just meet a girl in a coffe shop or supermarket and have sex within a few hours."

My wife was a high school teacher and she was pretty young when she started, like 24 and beautiful (though I may be biased). I've asked her about her experience and she said no student would even think of saying something sexually suggestive to a female teacher. They were all ultra polite to her. Her friends of a similar age and also working as teachers said the same thing.

So when she returned to work after our kid was born she worked at a high school hagwon place part time and there were a bunch of western female teachers and she was shocked by what the students said to the foreign girls. All the western females just thought it was part of being a teacher here. It really, really isn't. And shouldn't be.

It's the same way kids will try out there swear words with NETs, but wouldn't dare with a Korean teacher.

Ah, Korean education system, where it's unthinkable for a 14yr old boy to not know the derivative of In(x) but perfectly acceptable for him to think all white girls are sluts, all black people are violent and hocking loogies is the pinnacle of sophistication. Education where it matters. Fighting!