RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0

Sorry, me again~

As of last night, I am back on the market after very nearly two years. My bf broke up with me because he wasn't feeling it anymore. It was honestly a long time coming (for both of us), but it still hurts. And now I have to go to the post office and pick up the birthday present I ordered for him for next week. 

Ceremonial burning time? Or the less dramatic re-gifting?

Nah, it was a somewhat pretty penny, so probably a mid-drama selling.

Sorry, me again~

As of last night, I am back on the market after very nearly two years. My bf broke up with me because he wasn't feeling it anymore. It was honestly a long time coming (for both of us), but it still hurts. And now I have to go to the post office and pick up the birthday present I ordered for him for next week. 

On the bright side you're only 24 posts away from 1000. 

Sorry, me again~

As of last night, I am back on the market after very nearly two years. My bf broke up with me because he wasn't feeling it anymore. It was honestly a long time coming (for both of us), but it still hurts. And now I have to go to the post office and pick up the birthday present I ordered for him for next week. 

On the bright side you're only 24 posts away from 1000. 

For that reason alone, I shall keep posting my woes.

Winter camp. I'm so glad it is over. For the most part, it was pretty good. Except for day 2.
Day 2 was the start of the arts and crafts + snacks day.
5 of the students show up on time, and are happily working away. 2 of the boys aren't really enjoying the activities, but they are being quiet, and just talking together while making some little things.

Then 1 of the boys shows up really late. Takes a look at what we are doing, then flat out refuses to do it, puts some Korean into his translator app which translates to: "This isn't worth my time."
So I said, he could play a board / card game if he wants, and to ask the boys that aren't really enjoying the arts and crafts. They don't want to play a board or card game, and are happy doing what they are doing. So I offer to play with the kid. "NO TEACHER. NO PLAY UNLESS 4 PEOPLE." (He meant, he won't play a board / card game unless there is a total of 4 people or more).
He then puts on headphones and tries to listen to music. I told him, no listening to music, and to either: keep his phone in his pocket, unless using it for translating; or to put it on the desk with the others until the end of the camp day.

"I f%^&ING HATE YOU, TEACHER!! f%^&ING f%^&ING f%^&ING f%^&ING" (he literally said that 4 times after telling me he hates me).
I dealt with that swiftly, and calmly, right away. And then got the Korean co-teacher, who was relaxing in the teachers office, while talking to their partner or child on the phone (non-important personal call) to which I get "you interrupted me for this..." so, I searched for a list of bad Korean words and said, what if the student, or myself, just started saying.. *points to a word on the list*. The teacher then saw my point, and came to deal with the student.
The student then just proceeds to do the exact same thing a few minutes later. And myself, and the other students got pretty mad this time. While I still dealt with it calmly, the students were angry and yelling at him because the bad student was ruining their good time.

Luckily for me, the student didn't come back for the rest of the camp.

Luckily for me, the student didn't come back for the rest of the camp.

I hate talking like this about students, but what a little shit.

Good on you for not allowing him to take control of the situation at no time.

Luckily for me, the student didn't come back for the rest of the camp.

I hate talking like this about students, but what a little shit.

Good on you for not allowing him to take control of the situation at no time.

I do as well. That's the only time I've probably come close to actually getting angry with a student in my time teaching.

And yeah, I know middle schoolers love to use English curse words, but it's one of the few things I really crack down on here.

Luckily for me, the student didn't come back for the rest of the camp.

I hate talking like this about students, but what a little shit.

Good on you for not allowing him to take control of the situation at no time.

I do as well. That's the only time I've probably come close to actually getting angry with a student in my time teaching.

And yeah, I know middle schoolers love to use English curse words, but it's one of the few things I really crack down on here.

Yeah, same here. They know it's disrespectful and they would NEVER say those things to a Korean teacher. It's not even about what they say but how they say it -- the tone they're giving you, the attitude. They don't even have to be cursing. But when they're tossing in curse words in to go along with that behavior, they're purposely trying to upset you, and that goes double when they know it's against your rules and you've made it very clear that it's disrespectful. They don't forget that shit. And I have no problem with letting them know that I'm upset with their behavior. But it normally plays out in a way that they didn't anticipate, lol. They want you to yell at them while they stay smug. When you stay calm but stern and react in a way where it results in them losing control of the situation, it throws them off.

Good for you that the kid didn't return. Battle won, lol.

Luckily for me, the student didn't come back for the rest of the camp.

I hate talking like this about students, but what a little shit.

Good on you for not allowing him to take control of the situation at no time.

I do as well. That's the only time I've probably come close to actually getting angry with a student in my time teaching.

And yeah, I know middle schoolers love to use English curse words, but it's one of the few things I really crack down on here.

Yeah, same here. They know it's disrespectful and they would NEVER say those things to a Korean teacher. It's not even about what they say but how they say it -- the tone they're giving you, the attitude. They don't even have to be cursing. But when they're tossing in curse words in to go along with that behavior, they're purposely trying to upset you, and that goes double when they know it's against your rules and you've made it very clear that it's disrespectful. They don't forget that shit. And I have no problem with letting them know that I'm upset with their behavior. But it normally plays out in a way that they didn't anticipate, lol. They want you to yell at them while they stay smug. When you stay calm but stern and react in a way where it results in them losing control of the situation, it throws them off.

Good for you that the kid didn't return. Battle won, lol.

Yeah, that's true. I think I have only yelled 1 time, and it's because the class was so noisy, any non-yelling I used to try get them to quieten down wasn't working. However, it was also loud and scary enough, that the students in that class never got that loud again haha. (though, I didn't mean to sound scary haha - once I said that to the students, they had a laugh though!)

And yeah, the rest of the camp was rather enjoyable, especially without that student: he missed out on pancakes day, and fast food and movies day

Fidget spinners need and the person who invented them need to be cast off into the same pit reserved for people who use the term "adulting".

Whatever happened to teaching kids not to fidget and if they did, smacking them across the head and threatening them with chores?

Fidget spinners need and the person who invented them need to be cast off into the same pit reserved for people who use the term "adulting".

Whatever happened to teaching kids not to fidget and if they did, smacking them across the head and threatening them with chores?

From what I've read/heard, they were originally intended and made for kids with autism and ADHD, then got taken over into the mainstream, where they became the super annoying toys that all kids used during class. I am in no way a fan, but had they stayed in their original intended use, they would be good. However, I'm certainly not a therapist, so I'm just going off what I've heard.

Fidget spinners need and the person who invented them need to be cast off into the same pit reserved for people who use the term "adulting".

Whatever happened to teaching kids not to fidget and if they did, smacking them across the head and threatening them with chores?

From what I've read/heard, they were originally intended and made for kids with autism and ADHD, then got taken over into the mainstream, where they became the super annoying toys that all kids used during class. I am in no way a fan, but had they stayed in their original intended use, they would be good. However, I'm certainly not a therapist, so I'm just going off what I've heard.

I have no idea what is behind the Western (American?) trend to try and be as infantilized/victimized as possible. Refusing to grow up. Refusing to bathe because you're still angry at mom and dad when they told you to take a bath. Toys for those with conditions. Cry-ins. Adult Coloring books (not just for the artsy/fashion students anymore). Man rompers. 24 is the new 18 (and they want to lower the voting age!). Adulting. The pursuit of happiness above all else.

Then these same people whine and moan when you treat them like the kids they act like.

so what are some mr.demartino-sanctioned activities then, apart from defending everything korea on the internet?

Fidget spinners need and the person who invented them need to be cast off into the same pit reserved for people who use the term "adulting".

Whatever happened to teaching kids not to fidget and if they did, smacking them across the head and threatening them with chores?

From what I've read/heard, they were originally intended and made for kids with autism and ADHD, then got taken over into the mainstream, where they became the super annoying toys that all kids used during class. I am in no way a fan, but had they stayed in their original intended use, they would be good. However, I'm certainly not a therapist, so I'm just going off what I've heard.

I have no idea what is behind the Western (American?) trend to try and be as infantilized/victimized as possible. Refusing to grow up. Refusing to bathe because you're still angry at mom and dad when they told you to take a bath. Toys for those with conditions. Cry-ins. Adult Coloring books (not just for the artsy/fashion students anymore). Man rompers. 24 is the new 18 (and they want to lower the voting age!). Adulting. The pursuit of happiness above all else.

Then these same people whine and moan when you treat them like the kids they act like.

I'd certainly like to think that there is a difference between people with diagnosed conditions like autism and people who chose to wear male rompers. Therapists were saying that the act of "fidgeting" was helping those with autism focus more on what they were supposed to be focused on. If it helps them, then who are we to belittle them and the methods that help?

so what are some mr.demartino-sanctioned activities then, apart from defending everything korea on the internet?

A lot of "Get Off My Lawn" type of stuff. People need to learn how to age gracefully and accept when one phase of life is over and another has begun.

Fidget spinners need and the person who invented them need to be cast off into the same pit reserved for people who use the term "adulting".

Whatever happened to teaching kids not to fidget and if they did, smacking them across the head and threatening them with chores?

From what I've read/heard, they were originally intended and made for kids with autism and ADHD, then got taken over into the mainstream, where they became the super annoying toys that all kids used during class. I am in no way a fan, but had they stayed in their original intended use, they would be good. However, I'm certainly not a therapist, so I'm just going off what I've heard.

I have no idea what is behind the Western (American?) trend to try and be as infantilized/victimized as possible. Refusing to grow up. Refusing to bathe because you're still angry at mom and dad when they told you to take a bath. Toys for those with conditions. Cry-ins. Adult Coloring books (not just for the artsy/fashion students anymore). Man rompers. 24 is the new 18 (and they want to lower the voting age!). Adulting. The pursuit of happiness above all else.

Then these same people whine and moan when you treat them like the kids they act like.

I'd certainly like to think that there is a difference between people with diagnosed conditions like autism and people who chose to wear male rompers. Therapists were saying that the act of "fidgeting" was helping those with autism focus more on what they were supposed to be focused on. If it helps them, then who are we to belittle them and the methods that help?

The problem is that the ADHD diagnostic criteria looks a lot like “being a boy”.

Fidget spinners need and the person who invented them need to be cast off into the same pit reserved for people who use the term "adulting".

Whatever happened to teaching kids not to fidget and if they did, smacking them across the head and threatening them with chores?

From what I've read/heard, they were originally intended and made for kids with autism and ADHD, then got taken over into the mainstream, where they became the super annoying toys that all kids used during class. I am in no way a fan, but had they stayed in their original intended use, they would be good. However, I'm certainly not a therapist, so I'm just going off what I've heard.

I have no idea what is behind the Western (American?) trend to try and be as infantilized/victimized as possible. Refusing to grow up. Refusing to bathe because you're still angry at mom and dad when they told you to take a bath. Toys for those with conditions. Cry-ins. Adult Coloring books (not just for the artsy/fashion students anymore). Man rompers. 24 is the new 18 (and they want to lower the voting age!). Adulting. The pursuit of happiness above all else.

Then these same people whine and moan when you treat them like the kids they act like.

I'd certainly like to think that there is a difference between people with diagnosed conditions like autism and people who chose to wear male rompers. Therapists were saying that the act of "fidgeting" was helping those with autism focus more on what they were supposed to be focused on. If it helps them, then who are we to belittle them and the methods that help?

The problem is that the ADHD diagnostic criteria looks a lot like “being a boy”.

Well yes, I do think a lot of the ADHD diagnoses are a load of hooey.

If I were a capable internet user, I would insert a gif or video of Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt when Jacqueline puts her kid on "Dyziplene" because he is too active.

I'd certainly like to think that there is a difference between people with diagnosed conditions like autism and people who chose to wear male rompers. Therapists were saying that the act of "fidgeting" was helping those with autism focus more on what they were supposed to be focused on. If it helps them, then who are we to belittle them and the methods that help?

Good for the people with autism.

Everyone else that's using them can eff off. Stop fidgeting. Sit up straight. Tuck in that shirt. Clean your room.

Stop fidgeting. Sit up straight. Tuck in that shirt. Clean your room.

I'll be picking up his new book on Saturday.

I'd certainly like to think that there is a difference between people with diagnosed conditions like autism and people who chose to wear male rompers. Therapists were saying that the act of "fidgeting" was helping those with autism focus more on what they were supposed to be focused on. If it helps them, then who are we to belittle them and the methods that help?

Good for the people with autism.

Everyone else that's using them can eff off. Stop fidgeting. Sit up straight. Tuck in that shirt. Clean your room.

I personally hate wearing shirts tucked in, they are extremely uncomfortable D:

I'd certainly like to think that there is a difference between people with diagnosed conditions like autism and people who chose to wear male rompers. Therapists were saying that the act of "fidgeting" was helping those with autism focus more on what they were supposed to be focused on. If it helps them, then who are we to belittle them and the methods that help?

Good for the people with autism.

Everyone else that's using them can eff off. Stop fidgeting. Sit up straight. Tuck in that shirt. Clean your room.

I personally hate wearing shirts tucked in, they are extremely uncomfortable D:

Well it does depend on the shirt. Tucking in apolo is just silly looking.