RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0

I hate it that there's something that makes some guys feel like losers because they can't "get any." Though, I don't want to say it's just guys, I know that there are probably a lot of girls who get shamed over the same kinds of things too. Maybe there are differences...I'm not sure, but I think the same principle still applies.

Generally males have been/are encouraged to "get laid" and "become a man" whereas generally females have been/are shamed for losing their virginity [before marriage].  Though this is changing somewhat these days. 

As if having sex somehow makes you become a mature adult. 

Anyway, at some point you have to learn to stand on your personal ideals rather than seeking for mainstream society's approval.  Perhaps I've just been fortunate but the people I grew up/chose to hang out with didn't shame each other for such a thing as silly as whether or not you've had sex or how often or whatever.  I like to think that the majority of people are not douchetards who bully each other for any random reason.  Other than an occasional prick, I feel as though most people I grew up with were pretty mild mannered. 

If you want sex and/or a relationship, fine, I get that.  But the moment anyone starts to view their desire as more important than another's right to decline said desire is very problematic.  It's normal to want such things-- just don't feel as if you are entitled. 

(I'm just speaking general thoughts based on your comment and not personally directing any of this at you, fyi.)

EDIT:  Also, if this has become such a big thing in one's life then maybe one is in need of more hobbies and ways to find personal fulfillment/betterment other than seeking to score. 

Has anyone in this debate ever said at any stage that it was OK to continue pestering/grabbing a woman  after she's turned you down? if they did I can't remember. The original issue I seem to remember was about propositioning someone for sex. I assumed if the woman in question said no, you'd move on to the next one. I've never tried this myself but I guess the idea behind it is to cut to the chase. Getting the nod to buy her a drink, have a dance, go back to yours etc...still might ultimately come to nothing so you try to save yourself the bother of going though those stages.

I made a comment about 'hitting' on women with boyfriends but I didn't actually mean in the stranger in a night club type scenario. I was thinking of the type of situation when you try it on with someone you already know, they tell you they have a boyfriend but keep giving off signals/flirting so you have another go.

Dance practice next to my classroom. For the past hour now: "NONG NONG NONG NONG NONG ON MA DOE NONG NONG NONG NONG NONG ON MAH DOE" over and over and over and over and over. I'm losing my mind!

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Thanks for the link, but still no luck

Let me just boil down this whole argument:

Situation 1:
"Hey you're pretty cool, wanna come back to mine?"

"No, I'm not interested like that."

*Man walks away.*

Conversely, "Yes, that sounds great. Let's go to your place." Two consenting adults and all that...

There is nothing wrong with this interaction. The man isn't a scuzz, or a loser.

Situation 2:
"Hey wanna get sum fuk?"

This is wrong. If men have approached you like this, I understand your anger, that's not what I was saying I understand about.

Ok so I am actually looking for some guidance and clarity. I have a school that is insisting that they need my stamp. I have advised that I dont have a stamp, and I have been told that I must get one., because everyone has a stamp and that my signature just isn't enough. I have been here 3 years and this is a first for me. But before I argue, I just want to know if there is something I am missing, perhaps I truly am being the ignorant foreigner.

Ok so I am actually looking for some guidance and clarity. I have a school that is insisting that they need my stamp. I have advised that I dont have a stamp, and I have been told that I must get one., because everyone has a stamp and that my signature just isn't enough. I have been here 3 years and this is a first for me. But before I argue, I just want to know if there is something I am missing, perhaps I truly am being the ignorant foreigner.

That is pretty funny.

20+ years ago, I was told I needed one.  It's nonsense.

Because I used it then, the bank still requires the same stamp today...

Don't don't do it.

Ok so I am actually looking for some guidance and clarity. I have a school that is insisting that they need my stamp. I have advised that I dont have a stamp, and I have been told that I must get one., because everyone has a stamp and that my signature just isn't enough. I have been here 3 years and this is a first for me. But before I argue, I just want to know if there is something I am missing, perhaps I truly am being the ignorant foreigner.

You can stick your thumb in the ink and use your fingerprint instead.

Ok so I am actually looking for some guidance and clarity. I have a school that is insisting that they need my stamp. I have advised that I dont have a stamp, and I have been told that I must get one., because everyone has a stamp and that my signature just isn't enough. I have been here 3 years and this is a first for me. But before I argue, I just want to know if there is something I am missing, perhaps I truly am being the ignorant foreigner.

You can stick your thumb in the ink and use your fingerprint instead.

This is accurate. I did this years ago when signing my first housing contract.

Or you could just go buy a stamp. They're like 5,000-20,000 won. They're dirt cheap.

I asked to use my stamp and they said no. hahahaa

My anxiety is so bad today I wasn't able to plan the second half of my elementary 3/4 double-lesson.

Getting real sick of this shit.

Ok so I am actually looking for some guidance and clarity. I have a school that is insisting that they need my stamp. I have advised that I dont have a stamp, and I have been told that I must get one., because everyone has a stamp and that my signature just isn't enough. I have been here 3 years and this is a first for me. But before I argue, I just want to know if there is something I am missing, perhaps I truly am being the ignorant foreigner.

You can stick your thumb in the ink and use your fingerprint instead.

This is accurate. I did this years ago when signing my first housing contract.

Or you could just go buy a stamp. They're like 5,000-20,000 won. They're dirt cheap.

I asked to use my stamp and they said no. hahahaa

You see this confuses me, it's a dirt cheap stamp that anyone can get and I assume replicate, so how is this more official than my scrawl signature which cannot be replicated unless you are a skilled forger?

I'm gonna listen to Pecan here and just not get one.  Thanks everyone.

On a side note though - if they are that cheap I might get a bunch made up as gifts for when I go home.

My anxiety is so bad today I wasn't able to plan the second half of my elementary 3/4 double-lesson.

Getting real sick of this shit.

I am so sorry to hear this. I can relate.

I now understand the trope of the annoying gf who always says fine when she is actually angry or irritated about something. My bf is doing that now. 

Ok so I am actually looking for some guidance and clarity. I have a school that is insisting that they need my stamp. I have advised that I dont have a stamp, and I have been told that I must get one., because everyone has a stamp and that my signature just isn't enough. I have been here 3 years and this is a first for me. But before I argue, I just want to know if there is something I am missing, perhaps I truly am being the ignorant foreigner.

You can stick your thumb in the ink and use your fingerprint instead.

This is accurate. I did this years ago when signing my first housing contract.

Or you could just go buy a stamp. They're like 5,000-20,000 won. They're dirt cheap.

I asked to use my stamp and they said no. hahahaa

You see this confuses me, it's a dirt cheap stamp that anyone can get and I assume replicate, so how is this more official than my scrawl signature which cannot be replicated unless you are a skilled forger?

I'm gonna listen to Pecan here and just not get one.  Thanks everyone.

On a side note though - if they are that cheap I might get a bunch made up as gifts for when I go home.

Take a gander at some of the nicer ones if you feel like splurging on a fancy one for yourself or someone!  When my brother studied abroad in Korea he brought me back a nice carved one that's pretty cool.  It did cost like 30 or 40 man won but I was the only one he got one for, hahah. 

Ok so I am actually looking for some guidance and clarity. I have a school that is insisting that they need my stamp. I have advised that I dont have a stamp, and I have been told that I must get one., because everyone has a stamp and that my signature just isn't enough. I have been here 3 years and this is a first for me. But before I argue, I just want to know if there is something I am missing, perhaps I truly am being the ignorant foreigner.

You can stick your thumb in the ink and use your fingerprint instead.

This is accurate. I did this years ago when signing my first housing contract.

Or you could just go buy a stamp. They're like 5,000-20,000 won. They're dirt cheap.

I asked to use my stamp and they said no. hahahaa

You see this confuses me, it's a dirt cheap stamp that anyone can get and I assume replicate, so how is this more official than my scrawl signature which cannot be replicated unless you are a skilled forger?

I'm gonna listen to Pecan here and just not get one.  Thanks everyone.

On a side note though - if they are that cheap I might get a bunch made up as gifts for when I go home.

Take a gander at some of the nicer ones if you feel like splurging on a fancy one for yourself or someone!  When my brother studied abroad in Korea he brought me back a nice carved one that's pretty cool.  It did cost like 30 or 40 man won but I was the only one he got one for, hahah.

I've been wanting to get one of those for a while now, but never seriously looked into it and I only saw them at Insadong.

I think he had to place an order and pick it up a few days later, if I recall correctly.  It was some time ago!

I think he had to place an order and pick it up a few days later, if I recall correctly.  It was some time ago!

I have a sizable coupan at 11st, I should look and see if they have them there~

Take a gander at some of the nicer ones if you feel like splurging on a fancy one for yourself or someone!  When my brother studied abroad in Korea he brought me back a nice carved one that's pretty cool.  It did cost like 30 or 40 man won but I was the only one he got one for, hahah.

 

I can fly to Tokyo for that much.

Take a gander at some of the nicer ones if you feel like splurging on a fancy one for yourself or someone!  When my brother studied abroad in Korea he brought me back a nice carved one that's pretty cool.  It did cost like 30 or 40 man won but I was the only one he got one for, hahah.

 

I can fly to Tokyo for that much.

Lol, my bad.  I was thinking in dollars then for some reason threw in man won.  Strike the zeroes!

Or you could just go buy a stamp. They're like 5,000-20,000 won. They're dirt cheap.

Beware. I spent 70'000won on a nice one hand carved out of stone and local city hall would not accept it because English names on a dojang must be printed in a specific font for certain documents. I had to get an uglier, cheaper one printed in all capital letters in some generic PC font deemed acceptable.