Seriously... finding someone to bang isn't so hard that you just have to start propositioning randoms who show no interest in you. Desperate people abound just go to any club.
QuoteSeriously... finding someone to bang isn't so hard that you just have to start propositioning randoms who show no interest in you. Desperate people abound just go to any club. There's a club if you'd like to goYou could meet somebody who really loves youSo you go and you stand on your ownAnd you leave on your ownAnd you go home and you cry and you want to die
Quote from: Chinguetti on April 04, 2017, 10:01:20 amQuote from: CO2 on April 04, 2017, 09:42:00 amWhat the hell did I start? hahahaWhat didn't you start? Next time think of the children.Children? That's only if he finished, surely?
Quote from: CO2 on April 04, 2017, 09:42:00 amWhat the hell did I start? hahahaWhat didn't you start? Next time think of the children.
What the hell did I start? hahaha
They didn't say yes, or no, to that, so we'll see what happens. However, I'm leaving a note, for if there is a teacher replacing me, letting them know that it is probably illegal, so they have the choice to do it or not.
Quote from: Kayos on April 04, 2017, 10:42:51 amThey didn't say yes, or no, to that, so we'll see what happens. However, I'm leaving a note, for if there is a teacher replacing me, letting them know that it is probably illegal, so they have the choice to do it or not.These are the types of problems that come with replacing people, especially when they do things that they shouldn't be doing.I inherited a situation created by the previous foreigner here, which took me more than a year to rectify.I would love to slap him upside the head, if he were to ever show his face around here again ;)
Quote from: kyndo on April 04, 2017, 10:34:22 amQuote from: Kayos on April 04, 2017, 10:09:23 amCo-T: "The kindergarten teacher complained you haven't been showing up to teach Kindergarten."Me: "Kindergarten isn't a class on my schedule, and you only asked me to introduce myself to that class on my first week."Co-T: "Yeah, but, the previous NET would do it, and we're not allowed to add it to your schedule..."Me: "Why aren't you allowed to add it to my schedule?"Co-T: "Yes. I'll tell the kindergarten teacher that you are going to come every week now. This will be off the records..."Me: "Uhhh.... What???????"I tried to fight it a little more, but he still told the kindergarten teacher I'd be doing a kindergarten class once a week. I heard it's illegal for NETs to teach kindergarten, unless it's in an afterschool class AND they agreed to it. That info could be wrong however, I eventually pointed it out, but even still, I don't understand how he thought I agreed to itthough.The fact that it's "off the record" means that your school darn well knows that theyre not supposed to be doing it. Lol I thought that too! and only reinforced the info of "it's illegal to do this in Korea."
Quote from: Kayos on April 04, 2017, 10:09:23 amCo-T: "The kindergarten teacher complained you haven't been showing up to teach Kindergarten."Me: "Kindergarten isn't a class on my schedule, and you only asked me to introduce myself to that class on my first week."Co-T: "Yeah, but, the previous NET would do it, and we're not allowed to add it to your schedule..."Me: "Why aren't you allowed to add it to my schedule?"Co-T: "Yes. I'll tell the kindergarten teacher that you are going to come every week now. This will be off the records..."Me: "Uhhh.... What???????"I tried to fight it a little more, but he still told the kindergarten teacher I'd be doing a kindergarten class once a week. I heard it's illegal for NETs to teach kindergarten, unless it's in an afterschool class AND they agreed to it. That info could be wrong however, I eventually pointed it out, but even still, I don't understand how he thought I agreed to itthough.The fact that it's "off the record" means that your school darn well knows that theyre not supposed to be doing it.
Co-T: "The kindergarten teacher complained you haven't been showing up to teach Kindergarten."Me: "Kindergarten isn't a class on my schedule, and you only asked me to introduce myself to that class on my first week."Co-T: "Yeah, but, the previous NET would do it, and we're not allowed to add it to your schedule..."Me: "Why aren't you allowed to add it to my schedule?"Co-T: "Yes. I'll tell the kindergarten teacher that you are going to come every week now. This will be off the records..."Me: "Uhhh.... What???????"I tried to fight it a little more, but he still told the kindergarten teacher I'd be doing a kindergarten class once a week. I heard it's illegal for NETs to teach kindergarten, unless it's in an afterschool class AND they agreed to it. That info could be wrong however, I eventually pointed it out, but even still, I don't understand how he thought I agreed to itthough.
Quote from: Pecan on April 04, 2017, 11:46:13 amQuote from: Kayos on April 04, 2017, 10:42:51 amThey didn't say yes, or no, to that, so we'll see what happens. However, I'm leaving a note, for if there is a teacher replacing me, letting them know that it is probably illegal, so they have the choice to do it or not.These are the types of problems that come with replacing people, especially when they do things that they shouldn't be doing.I inherited a situation created by the previous foreigner here, which took me more than a year to rectify.I would love to slap him upside the head, if he were to ever show his face around here again ;)Yeah totally agree. You need to nip it in the bud now Kayos, even more so because youre leaving. You'll only have to put up with the school being annoyed at you for a few weeks. And it means they have less reason to strong arm the new teacher into it. I replaced someone who agreed to do TONNES of extra, unpaid work and it was such a struggle to get out of because i just got 'the old teacher did it.' And I know it's nice to think the newbie will be able to say no but, when you're brand new to Korea and someone tells you the previous teacher did it, you feel like you have to. I also got NO support from my office of education. It was really difficult. Put your foot down now, it will make things so much easier for the new teacher!
Quote from: Kayos on April 04, 2017, 10:44:01 amQuote from: kyndo on April 04, 2017, 10:34:22 amQuote from: Kayos on April 04, 2017, 10:09:23 amCo-T: "The kindergarten teacher complained you haven't been showing up to teach Kindergarten."Me: "Kindergarten isn't a class on my schedule, and you only asked me to introduce myself to that class on my first week."Co-T: "Yeah, but, the previous NET would do it, and we're not allowed to add it to your schedule..."Me: "Why aren't you allowed to add it to my schedule?"Co-T: "Yes. I'll tell the kindergarten teacher that you are going to come every week now. This will be off the records..."Me: "Uhhh.... What???????"I tried to fight it a little more, but he still told the kindergarten teacher I'd be doing a kindergarten class once a week. I heard it's illegal for NETs to teach kindergarten, unless it's in an afterschool class AND they agreed to it. That info could be wrong however, I eventually pointed it out, but even still, I don't understand how he thought I agreed to itthough.The fact that it's "off the record" means that your school darn well knows that theyre not supposed to be doing it. Lol I thought that too! and only reinforced the info of "it's illegal to do this in Korea."AFAIK, the issue is that at many (most?) schools, the kindergarten is actually a separate entity from the rest of the school. They might be in a building that's attached to the school, but they're technically not the same employer (perhaps they aren't even under the purview of the local POE, but that's just guesswork on my part). That means that doing work for them in addition to your school counts as working for multiple employers, which is a violation of the terms of your visa.I was in the same situation once. I actually taught at the Kindy attached to my main school for a full year, but then when I randomly mentioned it at an NET meeting early the following year, my POE liaison was like "Uh... what?", and explained why that's a no-no. My school was resistant at first when I said I had to stop ("What's wrong? Don't you like the children?"), but I insisted. Sh!tty thing is I actually did like those kids. They were my favorite classes. It was a bummer having to stop teaching them, but it'd have been an even bigger bummer to somehow get on a spiteful person's bad side and be reported for visa violations.
Quote from: Mister Tim on April 04, 2017, 12:40:31 pmQuote from: Kayos on April 04, 2017, 10:44:01 amQuote from: kyndo on April 04, 2017, 10:34:22 amQuote from: Kayos on April 04, 2017, 10:09:23 amCo-T: "The kindergarten teacher complained you haven't been showing up to teach Kindergarten."Me: "Kindergarten isn't a class on my schedule, and you only asked me to introduce myself to that class on my first week."Co-T: "Yeah, but, the previous NET would do it, and we're not allowed to add it to your schedule..."Me: "Why aren't you allowed to add it to my schedule?"Co-T: "Yes. I'll tell the kindergarten teacher that you are going to come every week now. This will be off the records..."Me: "Uhhh.... What???????"I tried to fight it a little more, but he still told the kindergarten teacher I'd be doing a kindergarten class once a week. I heard it's illegal for NETs to teach kindergarten, unless it's in an afterschool class AND they agreed to it. That info could be wrong however, I eventually pointed it out, but even still, I don't understand how he thought I agreed to itthough.The fact that it's "off the record" means that your school darn well knows that theyre not supposed to be doing it. Lol I thought that too! and only reinforced the info of "it's illegal to do this in Korea."AFAIK, the issue is that at many (most?) schools, the kindergarten is actually a separate entity from the rest of the school. They might be in a building that's attached to the school, but they're technically not the same employer (perhaps they aren't even under the purview of the local POE, but that's just guesswork on my part). That means that doing work for them in addition to your school counts as working for multiple employers, which is a violation of the terms of your visa.I was in the same situation once. I actually taught at the Kindy attached to my main school for a full year, but then when I randomly mentioned it at an NET meeting early the following year, my POE liaison was like "Uh... what?", and explained why that's a no-no. My school was resistant at first when I said I had to stop ("What's wrong? Don't you like the children?"), but I insisted. Sh!tty thing is I actually did like those kids. They were my favorite classes. It was a bummer having to stop teaching them, but it'd have been an even bigger bummer to somehow get on a spiteful person's bad side and be reported for visa violations.Oo. Yeah, the kindergarten is just in a regular classroom on the first floor of the school.The school is really, really tiny. While I enjoy interacting with the students, I see them at lunchtime most days I'm there, I just don't want to do the additional classes; especially not if it's "off the record."
Quote from: The Arm on April 04, 2017, 08:04:09 amQuote from: sevenpm on April 04, 2017, 07:56:12 amQuote from: The Arm on April 03, 2017, 07:00:50 pmQuote from: turningsteel on April 03, 2017, 04:00:25 pmQuote from: Chinguetti on April 03, 2017, 01:29:54 pmQuote from: Pecan on April 03, 2017, 01:26:57 pmQuote from: eggieguffer on April 03, 2017, 01:08:28 pmQuoteEspecially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?I know I'm a GEN-X gray hair, but are you guys telling me that as millennials, you would consider/label that sort of message as "hitting on girl"?I can't believe that THAT approach would ever bear fruit.I'm only able to see it as offensive and producing negative results.It translates as "I'm drunk'n horny and want to use you as a semen receptacle."Educate me ;)Pretty much. There are a couple of guys in my area who are like this, and they're pretty notorious among the expats (male and female). It kind of ruins their shot at a lot of girls who might have been interested in them before. Doesn't mean that they don't get lucky from time to time... but they don't get nearly as lucky as they could. Using this kind of tactic just kind of sets you up for failure. It rarely works because it's such a huge turnoff. Makes you look desperate and scuzzy.I totally see what you're saying and doing something so overt like this rarely works, but I understand why guys do it and it has more to do with wanting a casual encounter with an attractive member of the opposite sex and less to do with anything scuzzy. For men, our first thought is 'oh she's attractive and I'm not looking for anything serious..' It's as simple as that. Women obviously don't see it that way so taking that approach doesn't bear fruit so to speak, but coming from a guy's perspective, I sympathize with but don't condone the moonshot approach.Great post by the way turningsteel. Acknowledging the differences between men and women is relevant. Women can't ever fully understand how men think about sex because they can never experience it.Completely agree with you here; I sympathize with but don't condone it.So dumb.Women can be just as into casual sex as men, the difference is men seem to be unable to discern whether or not the girl they are talking to wants it. You can't just go around saying that stuff to someone who is not into you. We don't care how you think about sex, it's nothing special, y'all are just lacking common social skills and don't seem to know how to go after casual sex while still respecting social norms & the person you're talking to.It's not that hard, just don't be an idiot.Ok, newsflash. Guys who do this sort of thing tend not to mind their Ps and Qs and keep their elbows off the table do they? Social skills/social norms go out of the window pretty quickly if you're just looking for sex and you're hedging your bets.Yea women are into casual sex, but they can get it any time they want so it's COMPLETELY different.That sounds like a YOU problem. Seriously... finding someone to bang isn't so hard that you just have to start propositioning randoms who show no interest in you. Desperate people abound just go to any club. This just sounds like you guys are socially awkward/lazy.It is mildly interesting to hear from you what exactly is going on in your brains when you do stuff like this though. Reminds me of this loser who thought he could get with me or my friends by asking via google translate if we wanted to go home with him. He's "hedging his bets" I guess. Maybe you guys are right and this tactic works sometimes, but guaranteed he's getting laid way less often than a good looking guy who has decent social skills. AND the attractive guy with decent social skills doesn't have to throw his pride out the window/become a creep just to get laid.People make mistakes/read cues wrong sometimes but you don't have to become an offensive pervert in order to get some. If that's the case, you're doing something else wrong.
Quote from: sevenpm on April 04, 2017, 07:56:12 amQuote from: The Arm on April 03, 2017, 07:00:50 pmQuote from: turningsteel on April 03, 2017, 04:00:25 pmQuote from: Chinguetti on April 03, 2017, 01:29:54 pmQuote from: Pecan on April 03, 2017, 01:26:57 pmQuote from: eggieguffer on April 03, 2017, 01:08:28 pmQuoteEspecially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?I know I'm a GEN-X gray hair, but are you guys telling me that as millennials, you would consider/label that sort of message as "hitting on girl"?I can't believe that THAT approach would ever bear fruit.I'm only able to see it as offensive and producing negative results.It translates as "I'm drunk'n horny and want to use you as a semen receptacle."Educate me ;)Pretty much. There are a couple of guys in my area who are like this, and they're pretty notorious among the expats (male and female). It kind of ruins their shot at a lot of girls who might have been interested in them before. Doesn't mean that they don't get lucky from time to time... but they don't get nearly as lucky as they could. Using this kind of tactic just kind of sets you up for failure. It rarely works because it's such a huge turnoff. Makes you look desperate and scuzzy.I totally see what you're saying and doing something so overt like this rarely works, but I understand why guys do it and it has more to do with wanting a casual encounter with an attractive member of the opposite sex and less to do with anything scuzzy. For men, our first thought is 'oh she's attractive and I'm not looking for anything serious..' It's as simple as that. Women obviously don't see it that way so taking that approach doesn't bear fruit so to speak, but coming from a guy's perspective, I sympathize with but don't condone the moonshot approach.Great post by the way turningsteel. Acknowledging the differences between men and women is relevant. Women can't ever fully understand how men think about sex because they can never experience it.Completely agree with you here; I sympathize with but don't condone it.So dumb.Women can be just as into casual sex as men, the difference is men seem to be unable to discern whether or not the girl they are talking to wants it. You can't just go around saying that stuff to someone who is not into you. We don't care how you think about sex, it's nothing special, y'all are just lacking common social skills and don't seem to know how to go after casual sex while still respecting social norms & the person you're talking to.It's not that hard, just don't be an idiot.Ok, newsflash. Guys who do this sort of thing tend not to mind their Ps and Qs and keep their elbows off the table do they? Social skills/social norms go out of the window pretty quickly if you're just looking for sex and you're hedging your bets.Yea women are into casual sex, but they can get it any time they want so it's COMPLETELY different.
Quote from: The Arm on April 03, 2017, 07:00:50 pmQuote from: turningsteel on April 03, 2017, 04:00:25 pmQuote from: Chinguetti on April 03, 2017, 01:29:54 pmQuote from: Pecan on April 03, 2017, 01:26:57 pmQuote from: eggieguffer on April 03, 2017, 01:08:28 pmQuoteEspecially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?I know I'm a GEN-X gray hair, but are you guys telling me that as millennials, you would consider/label that sort of message as "hitting on girl"?I can't believe that THAT approach would ever bear fruit.I'm only able to see it as offensive and producing negative results.It translates as "I'm drunk'n horny and want to use you as a semen receptacle."Educate me ;)Pretty much. There are a couple of guys in my area who are like this, and they're pretty notorious among the expats (male and female). It kind of ruins their shot at a lot of girls who might have been interested in them before. Doesn't mean that they don't get lucky from time to time... but they don't get nearly as lucky as they could. Using this kind of tactic just kind of sets you up for failure. It rarely works because it's such a huge turnoff. Makes you look desperate and scuzzy.I totally see what you're saying and doing something so overt like this rarely works, but I understand why guys do it and it has more to do with wanting a casual encounter with an attractive member of the opposite sex and less to do with anything scuzzy. For men, our first thought is 'oh she's attractive and I'm not looking for anything serious..' It's as simple as that. Women obviously don't see it that way so taking that approach doesn't bear fruit so to speak, but coming from a guy's perspective, I sympathize with but don't condone the moonshot approach.Great post by the way turningsteel. Acknowledging the differences between men and women is relevant. Women can't ever fully understand how men think about sex because they can never experience it.Completely agree with you here; I sympathize with but don't condone it.So dumb.Women can be just as into casual sex as men, the difference is men seem to be unable to discern whether or not the girl they are talking to wants it. You can't just go around saying that stuff to someone who is not into you. We don't care how you think about sex, it's nothing special, y'all are just lacking common social skills and don't seem to know how to go after casual sex while still respecting social norms & the person you're talking to.It's not that hard, just don't be an idiot.
Quote from: turningsteel on April 03, 2017, 04:00:25 pmQuote from: Chinguetti on April 03, 2017, 01:29:54 pmQuote from: Pecan on April 03, 2017, 01:26:57 pmQuote from: eggieguffer on April 03, 2017, 01:08:28 pmQuoteEspecially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?I know I'm a GEN-X gray hair, but are you guys telling me that as millennials, you would consider/label that sort of message as "hitting on girl"?I can't believe that THAT approach would ever bear fruit.I'm only able to see it as offensive and producing negative results.It translates as "I'm drunk'n horny and want to use you as a semen receptacle."Educate me ;)Pretty much. There are a couple of guys in my area who are like this, and they're pretty notorious among the expats (male and female). It kind of ruins their shot at a lot of girls who might have been interested in them before. Doesn't mean that they don't get lucky from time to time... but they don't get nearly as lucky as they could. Using this kind of tactic just kind of sets you up for failure. It rarely works because it's such a huge turnoff. Makes you look desperate and scuzzy.I totally see what you're saying and doing something so overt like this rarely works, but I understand why guys do it and it has more to do with wanting a casual encounter with an attractive member of the opposite sex and less to do with anything scuzzy. For men, our first thought is 'oh she's attractive and I'm not looking for anything serious..' It's as simple as that. Women obviously don't see it that way so taking that approach doesn't bear fruit so to speak, but coming from a guy's perspective, I sympathize with but don't condone the moonshot approach.Great post by the way turningsteel. Acknowledging the differences between men and women is relevant. Women can't ever fully understand how men think about sex because they can never experience it.Completely agree with you here; I sympathize with but don't condone it.
Quote from: Chinguetti on April 03, 2017, 01:29:54 pmQuote from: Pecan on April 03, 2017, 01:26:57 pmQuote from: eggieguffer on April 03, 2017, 01:08:28 pmQuoteEspecially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?I know I'm a GEN-X gray hair, but are you guys telling me that as millennials, you would consider/label that sort of message as "hitting on girl"?I can't believe that THAT approach would ever bear fruit.I'm only able to see it as offensive and producing negative results.It translates as "I'm drunk'n horny and want to use you as a semen receptacle."Educate me ;)Pretty much. There are a couple of guys in my area who are like this, and they're pretty notorious among the expats (male and female). It kind of ruins their shot at a lot of girls who might have been interested in them before. Doesn't mean that they don't get lucky from time to time... but they don't get nearly as lucky as they could. Using this kind of tactic just kind of sets you up for failure. It rarely works because it's such a huge turnoff. Makes you look desperate and scuzzy.I totally see what you're saying and doing something so overt like this rarely works, but I understand why guys do it and it has more to do with wanting a casual encounter with an attractive member of the opposite sex and less to do with anything scuzzy. For men, our first thought is 'oh she's attractive and I'm not looking for anything serious..' It's as simple as that. Women obviously don't see it that way so taking that approach doesn't bear fruit so to speak, but coming from a guy's perspective, I sympathize with but don't condone the moonshot approach.
Quote from: Pecan on April 03, 2017, 01:26:57 pmQuote from: eggieguffer on April 03, 2017, 01:08:28 pmQuoteEspecially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?I know I'm a GEN-X gray hair, but are you guys telling me that as millennials, you would consider/label that sort of message as "hitting on girl"?I can't believe that THAT approach would ever bear fruit.I'm only able to see it as offensive and producing negative results.It translates as "I'm drunk'n horny and want to use you as a semen receptacle."Educate me ;)Pretty much. There are a couple of guys in my area who are like this, and they're pretty notorious among the expats (male and female). It kind of ruins their shot at a lot of girls who might have been interested in them before. Doesn't mean that they don't get lucky from time to time... but they don't get nearly as lucky as they could. Using this kind of tactic just kind of sets you up for failure. It rarely works because it's such a huge turnoff. Makes you look desperate and scuzzy.
Quote from: eggieguffer on April 03, 2017, 01:08:28 pmQuoteEspecially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?I know I'm a GEN-X gray hair, but are you guys telling me that as millennials, you would consider/label that sort of message as "hitting on girl"?I can't believe that THAT approach would ever bear fruit.I'm only able to see it as offensive and producing negative results.It translates as "I'm drunk'n horny and want to use you as a semen receptacle."Educate me ;)
QuoteEspecially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?
Especially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!
Pretty sure this was all understood along time ago.How to get laid as a guy.1. Be attractive.2. Don't be ugly.3. Be attractive.
Yea it isn't hard because, once again, you're a woman and not a man. Just to stress again, I'm not condoning any of that kind of creepy behaviour, just stating that it's easier for a woman to find casual sex than a man. That's it.
Nope!Women think the same way as men about this stuff. They just have more social skillz to get sex
Quote from: zola on April 04, 2017, 02:00:01 pmNope!Women think the same way as men about this stuff. They just have more social skillz to get sex Who are you talking to?
Quote from: CO2 on April 04, 2017, 02:02:51 pmQuote from: zola on April 04, 2017, 02:00:01 pmNope!Women think the same way as men about this stuff. They just have more social skillz to get sex Who are you talking to?You. And all the dudebros here who can't accept. Women use their social skills to get some sex, while men are fumbling around blindly with terrible social skills, getting none. If you were attractive AND had social skills you would understand this kind of stuff.
Quote from: zola on April 04, 2017, 02:13:44 pmQuote from: CO2 on April 04, 2017, 02:02:51 pmQuote from: zola on April 04, 2017, 02:00:01 pmNope!Women think the same way as men about this stuff. They just have more social skillz to get sex Who are you talking to?You. And all the dudebros here who can't accept. Women use their social skills to get some sex, while men are fumbling around blindly with terrible social skills, getting none. If you were attractive AND had social skills you would understand this kind of stuff.So you're saying it's easier for women to get sex. Which is what we were saying. Thanks for playing. You really didn't think this through. Also, just quote me next time if you're talking to me. Much easier for all Waygook users that way.