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  • Imogen1991
  • Hero of Waygookistan

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    • March 18, 2015, 12:26:47 am
    • Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4420 on: April 03, 2017, 06:53:35 pm »
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About the same or less, because a girl who says she has a boyfriend is normally not interested

Most girls, especially young ones have 'a boyfriend' but are still looking around to trade up. They're quite happy to use the boyfriend as an excuse to make a guy keep his distance until they're more sure about him. Just from my own experience and seeing how other relationships seem to pan out.

wahhh? i don't know any of my friends who have boyfriends that are 'looking around to trade up'  :undecided: :huh:


Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4421 on: April 03, 2017, 06:56:30 pm »
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I beg to differ, but it isn't important enough for me to go digging around for them.

Nice, is that how you argue with people IRL? 'I think you're trying to be a fuckboy troll, or a fuckboy (whatever they mean) but I can't be bothered to remember what you said that made me think that.  If you can't remember, maybe it wasn't that big a deal and you shouldn't say it?

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And as for what really matters, I think how a relationship ends does matter. Some ends are far more painful than others and can make it more difficult for a dumpee to move on or come to terms with it.

Endings are generally only worse because the person has stronger feelings for the person who dumps them. If the person dumps them in a nasty way, if anything it'll make them get over that person more quickly.





  • The Arm
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    • March 09, 2015, 09:15:02 am
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4422 on: April 03, 2017, 07:00:50 pm »
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Especially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!

Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?
I know I'm a GEN-X gray hair, but are you guys telling me that as millennials, you would consider/label that sort of message as "hitting on girl"?

I can't believe that THAT approach would ever bear fruit.

I'm only able to see it as offensive and producing negative results.

It translates as "I'm drunk'n horny and want to use you as a semen receptacle."

Educate me ;)

Pretty much. There are a couple of guys in my area who are like this, and they're pretty notorious among the expats (male and female). It kind of ruins their shot at a lot of girls who might have been interested in them before. Doesn't mean that they don't get lucky from time to time... but they don't get nearly as lucky as they could.

Using this kind of tactic just kind of sets you up for failure. It rarely works because it's such a huge turnoff. Makes you look desperate and scuzzy.

I totally see what you're saying and doing something so overt like this rarely works, but I understand why guys do it and it has more to do with wanting a casual encounter with an attractive member of the opposite sex and less to do with anything scuzzy.  For men, our first thought is 'oh she's attractive and I'm not looking for anything serious..' It's as simple as that.  Women obviously don't see it that way so taking that approach doesn't bear fruit so to speak, but coming from a guy's perspective, I sympathize with but don't condone the moonshot approach.

Great post by the way turningsteel. 

Acknowledging the differences between men and women is relevant.  Women can't ever fully understand how men think about sex because they can never experience it.

Completely agree with you here; I sympathize with but don't condone it.


Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4423 on: April 03, 2017, 07:25:58 pm »
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I beg to differ, but it isn't important enough for me to go digging around for them.

Nice, is that how you argue with people IRL? 'I think you're trying to be a fuckboy troll, or a fuckboy (whatever they mean) but I can't be bothered to remember what you said that made me think that.  If you can't remember, maybe it wasn't that big a deal and you shouldn't say it?

Or maybe you should take greater care in what you say to begin with. I stand by everything I've said, including the apology if I'm wrong about any of it.

In that regard, it's probably best to think a little more before you post. It's not hard to see where I'm coming from. Like, at all. And it's high time you start being able to take a little of what you dish out. If you don't like people pointing fingers at you, maybe you should stop wagging yours at others so much, especially where it doesn't belong.

If you can't accept that, then we can agree to disagree.

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Endings are generally only worse because the person has stronger feelings for the person who dumps them. If the person dumps them in a nasty way, if anything it'll make them get over that person more quickly.

I disagree. A breakup is always worse when one person is being especially nasty about it, no matter how serious or not-serious a relationship was to begin with. Just look at the way you react to how I engage with you on this forum. You don't take it very well when I get nasty with you, and I'm pretty sure you don't really "care" about me in real life one way or the other.

While the lack of strong feelings can make it easier to walk away from a nasty breakup, a "good" breakup will still be easier and be less likely to leave a bitter taste in your mouth.


Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4424 on: April 03, 2017, 07:30:29 pm »
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I beg to differ, but it isn't important enough for me to go digging around for them.

Nice, is that how you argue with people IRL? 'I think you're trying to be a fuckboy troll, or a fuckboy (whatever they mean) but I can't be bothered to remember what you said that made me think that.  If you can't remember, maybe it wasn't that big a deal and you shouldn't say it?

Or maybe you should take greater care in what you say to begin with. I stand by everything I've said, including the apology if I'm wrong about any of it.

In that regard, it's probably best to think a little more before you post. It's not hard to see where I'm coming from. Like, at all. And it's high time you start being able to take a little of what you dish out. If you don't like people pointing fingers at you, maybe you should stop wagging yours at others so much, especially where it doesn't belong.

If you can't accept that, then we can agree to disagree.

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Endings are generally only worse because the person has stronger feelings for the person who dumps them. If the person dumps them in a nasty way, if anything it'll make them get over that person more quickly.

I disagree. A breakup is always worse when one person is being especially nasty about it, no matter how serious or not-serious a relationship was to begin with. Just look at the way you react to how I engage with you on this forum. You don't take it very well when I get nasty with you, and I'm pretty sure you don't really "care" about me in real life one way or the other.

While the lack of strong feelings can make it easier to walk away from a nasty breakup, a "good" breakup will still be easier and be less likely to leave a bitter taste in your mouth.

Yawn, not the old 'you're more offended than me spiel' that crops up in every internet argument ever had.  :rolleyes:


Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4425 on: April 03, 2017, 07:35:17 pm »
Yawn, not the old 'you're more offended than me spiel' that crops up in every internet argument ever had.  :rolleyes:

I take it that you're still mad at me then? xD

Mmk, the olive branch is still there for you. I'll leave you alone for if and when you're ready to accept it.


Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4426 on: April 03, 2017, 07:39:03 pm »
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wahhh? i don't know any of my friends who have boyfriends that are 'looking around to trade up'  :undecided: :huh:

If they haven't decided they want to spend the rest of their lives with the person in question, they'll be keeping their options open, you can bet on it.


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  • The Legend

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    • January 19, 2015, 10:16:48 am
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4427 on: April 04, 2017, 07:01:58 am »
I totally see what you're saying and doing something so overt like this rarely works, but I understand why guys do it and it has more to do with wanting a casual encounter with an attractive member of the opposite sex and less to do with anything scuzzy.  For men, our first thought is 'oh she's attractive and I'm not looking for anything serious..' It's as simple as that.  Women obviously don't see it that way so taking that approach doesn't bear fruit so to speak, but coming from a guy's perspective, I sympathize with but don't condone the moonshot approach.

Am I the only traditional guy around here, who attracts a girl's attention by throwing small rocks to them?
Try using food. 


  • Pennypie
  • Expert Waygook

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    • July 26, 2014, 08:16:47 pm
    • Koreaaa
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4428 on: April 04, 2017, 07:19:00 am »
I totally see what you're saying and doing something so overt like this rarely works, but I understand why guys do it and it has more to do with wanting a casual encounter with an attractive member of the opposite sex and less to do with anything scuzzy.  For men, our first thought is 'oh she's attractive and I'm not looking for anything serious..' It's as simple as that.  Women obviously don't see it that way so taking that approach doesn't bear fruit so to speak, but coming from a guy's perspective, I sympathize with but don't condone the moonshot approach.

Am I the only traditional guy around here, who attracts a girl's attention by throwing small rocks to them?
Try using food.

I remember all the traditional things my boyfriend did to woo me. Whispering sweet nothings, being a gentleman, going on fun dates, following me to my lair,  laying down a trail of seeds, throwing a pokeball at my face. Nice memories. <3


  • yirj17
  • The Legend

    • 2782

    • September 16, 2015, 02:23:16 am
    • Korealand
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4429 on: April 04, 2017, 07:57:42 am »
I totally see what you're saying and doing something so overt like this rarely works, but I understand why guys do it and it has more to do with wanting a casual encounter with an attractive member of the opposite sex and less to do with anything scuzzy.  For men, our first thought is 'oh she's attractive and I'm not looking for anything serious..' It's as simple as that.  Women obviously don't see it that way so taking that approach doesn't bear fruit so to speak, but coming from a guy's perspective, I sympathize with but don't condone the moonshot approach.

Am I the only traditional guy around here, who attracts a girl's attention by throwing small rocks to them?

Chocolate rocks are good. Or are you pelting them at the window in the dark night?


  • The Arm
  • Expert Waygook

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    • March 09, 2015, 09:15:02 am
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4430 on: April 04, 2017, 08:04:09 am »
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Especially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!

Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?
I know I'm a GEN-X gray hair, but are you guys telling me that as millennials, you would consider/label that sort of message as "hitting on girl"?

I can't believe that THAT approach would ever bear fruit.

I'm only able to see it as offensive and producing negative results.

It translates as "I'm drunk'n horny and want to use you as a semen receptacle."

Educate me ;)

Pretty much. There are a couple of guys in my area who are like this, and they're pretty notorious among the expats (male and female). It kind of ruins their shot at a lot of girls who might have been interested in them before. Doesn't mean that they don't get lucky from time to time... but they don't get nearly as lucky as they could.

Using this kind of tactic just kind of sets you up for failure. It rarely works because it's such a huge turnoff. Makes you look desperate and scuzzy.

I totally see what you're saying and doing something so overt like this rarely works, but I understand why guys do it and it has more to do with wanting a casual encounter with an attractive member of the opposite sex and less to do with anything scuzzy.  For men, our first thought is 'oh she's attractive and I'm not looking for anything serious..' It's as simple as that.  Women obviously don't see it that way so taking that approach doesn't bear fruit so to speak, but coming from a guy's perspective, I sympathize with but don't condone the moonshot approach.

Great post by the way turningsteel. 

Acknowledging the differences between men and women is relevant.  Women can't ever fully understand how men think about sex because they can never experience it.

Completely agree with you here; I sympathize with but don't condone it.


So dumb.

Women can be just as into casual sex as men, the difference is men seem to be unable to discern whether or not the girl they are talking to wants it. You can't just go around saying that stuff to someone who is not into you. We don't care how you think about sex, it's nothing special, y'all are just lacking common social skills and don't seem to know how to go after casual sex while still respecting social norms & the person you're talking to.

It's not that hard, just don't be an idiot.

Ok, newsflash.  Guys who do this sort of thing tend not to mind their Ps and Qs and keep their elbows off the table do they?  Social skills/social norms go out of the window pretty quickly if you're just looking for sex and you're hedging your bets.

Yea women are into casual sex, but they can get it any time they want so it's COMPLETELY different.


Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4431 on: April 04, 2017, 08:31:21 am »
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Ok, newsflash.  Guys who do this sort of thing tend not to mind their Ps and Qs and keep their elbows off the table do they?  Social skills/social norms go out of the window pretty quickly if you're just looking for sex and you're hedging your bets.

Yep, it's the numbers game. A bit like spammers who might send a million emails to get one sucker ready to part with his cash.


Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4432 on: April 04, 2017, 08:36:55 am »
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Women can be just as into casual sex as men, the difference is men seem to be unable to discern whether or not the girl they are talking to wants it. You can't just go around saying that stuff to someone who is not into you. We don't care how you think about sex, it's nothing special, y'all are just lacking common social skills and don't seem to know how to go after casual sex while still respecting social norms & the person you're talking to

Speak for yourself. I've seen plenty of drunk women at parties/night clubs with all the social skills of a walrus, propositioning men for sex.  Had it happen to me a few times as well


  • zola
  • The Legend

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    • September 30, 2012, 06:56:11 am
    • Korea
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4433 on: April 04, 2017, 08:46:49 am »
Yeah, beleive it or not, different women have different ways of doing things. The scatter gun method that some men use is used becuase it has success. More than you would think. I haven't done that in like 8 years and I honestly couldn't bring myself to do it now, but it was easily the period of my life where I was pulling down the highest numbers. And there were PLENTY of women doing the same thing. Granted you have to leave your ego at the door as it will take a beating, but it works.

NB: This wasn't in Korea. I don't think it would fly here like it does in the west. Though I've never tried it here so I wouldn't know for sure.
Kpip! - Martin 2018


Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4434 on: April 04, 2017, 09:27:30 am »
No, at night I just stand around the street corners beating my chest like an ape.  You'd be surprised at how successful that can be in Itaewon. 



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAhIg5Dy3uA

Always sexy.


Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4435 on: April 04, 2017, 09:41:07 am »

Great post by the way turningsteel. 

Acknowledging the differences between men and women is relevant.  Women can't ever fully understand how men think about sex because they can never experience it.

Completely agree with you here; I sympathize with but don't condone it.


So dumb.

Women can be just as into casual sex as men, the difference is men seem to be unable to discern whether or not the girl they are talking to wants it. You can't just go around saying that stuff to someone who is not into you. We don't care how you think about sex, it's nothing special, y'all are just lacking common social skills and don't seem to know how to go after casual sex while still respecting social norms & the person you're talking to.

It's not that hard, just don't be an idiot.

+1

But, please, regale me oh wise one of the differences between men and women. We just can't *possibly* understand your arcane Boner Physics. I think what you're trying to say is that you want to bang a lot of chicks without any of them expecting to be treated like people. And, yeah sure, I don't understand that.



  • CO2
  • Waygook Lord

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    • March 02, 2015, 03:41:14 pm
    • Uiwang
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4436 on: April 04, 2017, 09:42:00 am »
What the hell did I start? hahaha


  • yirj17
  • The Legend

    • 2782

    • September 16, 2015, 02:23:16 am
    • Korealand
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4437 on: April 04, 2017, 09:50:40 am »
What the hell did I start? hahaha


Pages of fine popcorn reading.


No, at night I just stand around the street corners beating my chest like an ape.  You'd be surprised at how successful that can be in Itaewon. 




Have you also tried searching scalps for lice? What's your success rate?


Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4438 on: April 04, 2017, 10:01:20 am »
What the hell did I start? hahaha

What didn't you start?

Next time think of the children.


  • Kayos
  • The Legend

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    • March 31, 2016, 07:13:57 pm
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4439 on: April 04, 2017, 10:09:23 am »
Just got strong-armed into doing something that I don't want to do.

I was able to negotiate a bit and get a little something in return, so it's not a lose-lose situation.

Still pisses me off that I can't just simply say "no" without it turning into a big deal here, though.

This happened to me last week too.
Co-T: "The kindergarten teacher complained you having been showing up to teach Kindergarten."
Me: "Kindergarten isn't a class on my schedule, and you only asked me to introduce myself to that class on my first week."
Co-T: "Yeah, but, the old teacher would do it, and we're not allowed to add it to your schedule..."
Me: "Why aren't you allowed to add it to my schedule?"
Co-T: "Yes. I'll tell the kindergarten teacher that you are going to come every week now. This will be off the records..."
Me: "Uhhh.... What???????"

I tried to fight it a little more, but he still told the kindergarten teacher I'd be doing a kindergarten class once a week. I heard it's illegal for NETs to teach kindergarten, unless it's in an afterschool class AND they agreed to it. That info could be wrong however, I eventually pointed it out, but even still, I don't understand how he thought I agreed to it
though.