Especially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!
QuoteEspecially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?
Quote from: eggieguffer on April 03, 2017, 01:08:28 pmQuoteEspecially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?I know I'm a GEN-X gray hair, but are you guys telling me that as millennials, you would consider/label that sort of message as "hitting on girl"?I can't believe that THAT approach would ever bear fruit.I'm only able to see it as offensive and producing negative results.It translates as "I'm drunk'n horny and want to use you as a semen receptacle."Educate me ;)
Teachers in the US have been reprimanded or even fired/forced to resign over photos on social media of them with alcohol. Can you imagine if teachers in Korea were fired for getting caught drinking? There'd be hardly any teachers left.
I was raised to treat the girl you are with like you would want your future wife to be treated by the man she is currently with (if you can follow that).Perhaps it's too profound, but if a man wants his future wife to be treated respectfully, he should treat the girls he dates likewise.It's kind of a no-brainer, no?
Quote from: yirj17 on April 03, 2017, 09:44:49 amTeachers in the US have been reprimanded or even fired/forced to resign over photos on social media of them with alcohol. Can you imagine if teachers in Korea were fired for getting caught drinking? There'd be hardly any teachers left. If you bring someone's personal life into a workplace and try to get them fired, YOU should be fired. If they're an elected representative, I get it. Anyone remember dongle disaster?http://techcrunch.com/2013/03/21/a-dongle-joke-that-spiraled-way-out-of-control/
About the same or less, because a girl who says she has a boyfriend is normally not interested
Yeah, based on a lot of eggie's previous comments regarding rape and sex,
Quote from: CO2 on April 03, 2017, 01:49:43 pmQuote from: yirj17 on April 03, 2017, 09:44:49 amTeachers in the US have been reprimanded or even fired/forced to resign over photos on social media of them with alcohol. Can you imagine if teachers in Korea were fired for getting caught drinking? There'd be hardly any teachers left. If you bring someone's personal life into a workplace and try to get them fired, YOU should be fired. If they're an elected representative, I get it. Anyone remember dongle disaster?http://techcrunch.com/2013/03/21/a-dongle-joke-that-spiraled-way-out-of-control/One of the articles I read was about a teacher who was forced to choose between being fired or "voluntarily" resigning because some parent had found a photo of her holding glasses of alcohol on her social media page. The teacher had no idea how the parent got access to the page because all the settings were set to highly private and she didn't befriend any students. The teacher ended up suing the school for her job back and I'm not sure what happened thereafter.
QuoteAbout the same or less, because a girl who says she has a boyfriend is normally not interestedMost girls, especially young ones have 'a boyfriend' but are still looking around to trade up. They're quite happy to use the boyfriend as an excuse to make a guy keep his distance until they're more sure about him. Just from my own experience and seeing how other relationships seem to pan out.
What kind of people are you hanging around? Most of the people I know are not like that. The type you've found to be common are really uncommon from what I've seen.
QuoteWhat kind of people are you hanging around? Most of the people I know are not like that. The type you've found to be common are really uncommon from what I've seen. Come on, how many people these days end up marrying the person they're dating in their early to mid twenties? Most women know they're going to be playing the field when they're young.
You made it sound like overtly cheating though. Most decent people break up with someone before making a new attachment.
QuoteYou made it sound like overtly cheating though. Most decent people break up with someone before making a new attachment. Just hasn't been my experience generally.
Come on, how many people these days end up marrying the person they're dating in their early to mid twenties? Most women know they're going to be playing the field when they're young. Also a lot of women don't like being on their own for extended periods of time, so they wait till they've found the next guy before breaking up with the previous one. It's pretty normal behaviour.
Quote from: eggieguffer on April 03, 2017, 03:04:31 pmCome on, how many people these days end up marrying the person they're dating in their early to mid twenties? Most women know they're going to be playing the field when they're young. Also a lot of women don't like being on their own for extended periods of time, so they wait till they've found the next guy before breaking up with the previous one. It's pretty normal behaviour. What is "playing the field" to you? Because to me, it means talking to more than one guy to see who you click with, without being exclusive with anyone, so that you can eventually choose a guy to be exclusive with*. It doesn't mean, be a gross cheater that dates with every intention to mess around with other people if someone more interesting comes along. Or am I in the minority here?*To be clear: TALKING TO. Potentially doing that at a cafe or restaurant or while doing some innocuous fun thing like noraebang, but just getting to know a person via conversation. Not being physically intimate with.
Quote from: scpru on April 03, 2017, 03:16:58 pmQuote from: eggieguffer on April 03, 2017, 03:04:31 pmCome on, how many people these days end up marrying the person they're dating in their early to mid twenties? Most women know they're going to be playing the field when they're young. Also a lot of women don't like being on their own for extended periods of time, so they wait till they've found the next guy before breaking up with the previous one. It's pretty normal behaviour. What is "playing the field" to you? Because to me, it means talking to more than one guy to see who you click with, without being exclusive with anyone, so that you can eventually choose a guy to be exclusive with*. It doesn't mean, be a gross cheater that dates with every intention to mess around with other people if someone more interesting comes along. Or am I in the minority here?*To be clear: TALKING TO. Potentially doing that at a cafe or restaurant or while doing some innocuous fun thing like noraebang, but just getting to know a person via conversation. Not being physically intimate with.I always heard "playing the field" used in terms of someone being a cheater. Like that's where being a player stemmed from is how I always saw it.
That's kinda what I mean-- I find that unfortunate. Most people I know are of the decent sort.
Quote from: Pecan on April 03, 2017, 01:26:57 pmQuote from: eggieguffer on April 03, 2017, 01:08:28 pmQuoteEspecially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?I know I'm a GEN-X gray hair, but are you guys telling me that as millennials, you would consider/label that sort of message as "hitting on girl"?I can't believe that THAT approach would ever bear fruit.I'm only able to see it as offensive and producing negative results.It translates as "I'm drunk'n horny and want to use you as a semen receptacle."Educate me ;)Pretty much. There are a couple of guys in my area who are like this, and they're pretty notorious among the expats (male and female). It kind of ruins their shot at a lot of girls who might have been interested in them before. Doesn't mean that they don't get lucky from time to time... but they don't get nearly as lucky as they could. Using this kind of tactic just kind of sets you up for failure. It rarely works because it's such a huge turnoff. Makes you look desperate and scuzzy.