RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0

Yea CO2 I completely agree with you!  That leap made by some people makes no sense at all.

I think it has to do with the idea that teachers are kind of like parents, and nobody wants to think of their parents having sex.

I don't understand the "You teach public school, shame on you" argument. It happened on here a week ago when I made an off-colour, sexual joke. "You teach kids, I can't believe it, OMG."

A better example would have been this weekend. As many of you know, I'm recently single, so on Friday night I had a bit too much beer. I texted this 10/10 Korean girl that I met years ago and told her that I would love to take her to a love motel and have some fun with her. NOW, if you want to criticise me for being a complete moron, go for it. It was a stupid thing to do and I apologised later to her and her BF, however, I got a message saying, "You teach elemenetary school, shame on you, you pervert."

I will never understand this. Do they think my sex drive will transfer over onto 11 year olds?
Unless they make posters of the chat and put them up all over the neighbourhood around the school, the kids and community are free from this. (They live in North rural Incheon, me I'm well south of Seoul.)

If a teacher is clubbing and dancing with a guy/girl, are they to be shamed for that? Are teachers not allowed to have sex with people?

I'm an idiot, but it doesn't bleed over into a "Where are you from?" lesson.

It probably goes back to the old pillars of community idea. The school teacher, the priest, the councilor etc...I guess the downside was they were supposed to behave in a more restrained, respectable manner but the upside was you wouldn't have got parents coming to the school threatening to beat them up, as you do nowadays.

CO2,

If you are not actually a licensed teacher, carry on.

However, if you are, then you would be fully aware of the standards, the professional ethics, codes of conduct, professional boundaries, etc. that we are required to maintain inside and outside of the school.

It is 24/7.

Teachers in the US have been reprimanded or even fired/forced to resign over photos on social media of them with alcohol. 

Can you imagine if teachers in Korea were fired for getting caught drinking?  There'd be hardly any teachers left. 

Just thinking about it a bit more...

Teachers shouldn't be shamed for doing things that every adult does (sex, drinking alcohol etc).

But on the other hand I wouldn't want people to know that I "texted this 10/10 Korean girl that I met years ago and told her that I would love to take her to a love motel and have some fun with her".  That reflects badly on you if you are a teacher I suppose.

Just thinking about it a bit more...

Teachers shouldn't be shamed for doing things that every adult does (sex, drinking alcohol etc).

But on the other hand I wouldn't want people to know that I "texted this 10/10 Korean girl that I met years ago and told her that I would love to take her to a love motel and have some fun with her".  That reflects badly on you if you are a teacher I suppose.

Basically.  But this forum can be an outlet with anonymity and I think CO2 was just being detailed in ranting to make a point.  I doubt he's telling people in real life.  Most all of us have done stupid stuff in our lives that we'd rather not make public. 

EDIT:  While I would hate to be the recipient of such a message, I can also sympathize with the frustration of "you are a teacher so you must be pious and perfect" attitude. 

Just thinking about it a bit more...

Teachers shouldn't be shamed for doing things that every adult does (sex, drinking alcohol etc).

But on the other hand I wouldn't want people to know that I "texted this 10/10 Korean girl that I met years ago and told her that I would love to take her to a love motel and have some fun with her".  That reflects badly on you if you are a teacher I suppose.

Basically.  But this forum can be an outlet with anonymity and I think CO2 was just being detailed in ranting to make a point.  I doubt he's telling people in real life.  Most all of us have done stupid stuff in our lives that we'd rather not make public. 

EDIT:  While I would hate to be the recipient of such a message, I can also sympathize with the frustration of "you are a teacher so you must be pious and perfect" attitude.

Oh yea I agree with you, I'm sure he isn't.  CO2, are you?! 

I can understand that girl's reaction because it probably is a little shocking to hear that from a teacher but I completely understand the rant about us having to be nuns and monks generally in the eyes of Koreans.

I completely understand the rant about us having to be nuns and monks generally in the eyes of Koreans.

Exaggerating for argument's sake?

I completely understand the rant about us having to be nuns and monks generally in the eyes of Koreans.

Exaggerating for argument's sake?

I slipped in the word 'generally' because I know "not all Koreans think..."

EDIT:  While I would hate to be the recipient of such a message,

Even if it was from someone you wanted to have sex with?

EDIT:  While I would hate to be the recipient of such a message,

Even if it was from someone you wanted to have sex with?

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
- Wayne Gretzky

Rant one for the day: I hate it when people on here are talking about things Koreans have said and they will put an accent on....if that's the right way to describe it. Like: Teacher you like the kimchi? So spicy!

I mean, i've probably done it in the past myself but I regret it if I have. It's just not very nice. We all know what Koreans speaking English sound like.

Rant two: Eggieguffer. Everytime I see your username I feel a little bit sick. It's grim   

Rant two: Eggieguffer. Everytime I see your username I feel a little bit sick. It's grim   

Oh dear, did I hurt your ickle feelings? 

EDIT:  While I would hate to be the recipient of such a message,

Even if it was from someone you wanted to have sex with?

YES. A mere text message?? How crude! I require a handwritten letter imbued with perfume and delivered by courier.  Proper courtship, thanks! 

EDIT:  While I would hate to be the recipient of such a message,

Even if it was from someone you wanted to have sex with?

YES. A mere text message?? How crude! I require a handwritten letter imbued with perfume and delivered by courier.  Proper courtship, thanks! 

Fair do's

In all honesty though, a text message propositioning sex would be a major turn off. 

So you want a handwritten letter delivered by a courier late Friday night? Do such services exist?

Friday night I had a bit too much beer. I texted this 10/10 Korean girl that I met years ago and told her that I would love to take her to a love motel and have some fun with her.

You can get everything delivered in Korea!

In all honesty though, a text message propositioning sex would be a major turn off.

Exactly. Unless I'm already in a serious and sexually active relationship with the person in question, a text message asking for sex would completely kill any desire I might have had.

When I mom first heard I wanted to come teach in Korea she laughed and was like "YOU're gunna teach kids...?" But that's cuz she knows what a jerkbag student I was up until university. She had a point tho but w.e...

I think, really, most of this comes down to the amount of good judgment that a person has, and a lot of people don't like the idea of someone who apparently has bad judgment teaching kids. We're all adults here, and most normal people don't expect adults to be prudish saints. But at the same time, there's a minimum amount of appropriate conduct that's also expected of what most people would label a responsible adult because irresponsible decision-making can often bleed into other areas of life. And people are hyper-sensitive when kids are involved.

This is at the heart of a lot of the mud-slinging.

So, yeah, there's nothing wrong with having a sex drive. It's how you go about feeding that sex drive that might raise a few eyebrows. It's all about how you play the game.

But at the same time, a lot of people just use the association as a cheap shot that doesn't really make a whole lot of sense in the way that it's being used. Like with sevenpm's example.

Either way, it's a learning experience. You learn, you move on.