RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0

EDIT:  While I would hate to be the recipient of such a message,

Even if it was from someone you wanted to have sex with?

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
- Wayne Gretzky

Rant one for the day: I hate it when people on here are talking about things Koreans have said and they will put an accent on....if that's the right way to describe it. Like: Teacher you like the kimchi? So spicy!

I mean, i've probably done it in the past myself but I regret it if I have. It's just not very nice. We all know what Koreans speaking English sound like.

Rant two: Eggieguffer. Everytime I see your username I feel a little bit sick. It's grim   

Rant two: Eggieguffer. Everytime I see your username I feel a little bit sick. It's grim   

Oh dear, did I hurt your ickle feelings? 

EDIT:  While I would hate to be the recipient of such a message,

Even if it was from someone you wanted to have sex with?

YES. A mere text message?? How crude! I require a handwritten letter imbued with perfume and delivered by courier.  Proper courtship, thanks! 

EDIT:  While I would hate to be the recipient of such a message,

Even if it was from someone you wanted to have sex with?

YES. A mere text message?? How crude! I require a handwritten letter imbued with perfume and delivered by courier.  Proper courtship, thanks! 

Fair do's

In all honesty though, a text message propositioning sex would be a major turn off. 

So you want a handwritten letter delivered by a courier late Friday night? Do such services exist?

Friday night I had a bit too much beer. I texted this 10/10 Korean girl that I met years ago and told her that I would love to take her to a love motel and have some fun with her.

You can get everything delivered in Korea!

In all honesty though, a text message propositioning sex would be a major turn off.

Exactly. Unless I'm already in a serious and sexually active relationship with the person in question, a text message asking for sex would completely kill any desire I might have had.

When I mom first heard I wanted to come teach in Korea she laughed and was like "YOU're gunna teach kids...?" But that's cuz she knows what a jerkbag student I was up until university. She had a point tho but w.e...

I think, really, most of this comes down to the amount of good judgment that a person has, and a lot of people don't like the idea of someone who apparently has bad judgment teaching kids. We're all adults here, and most normal people don't expect adults to be prudish saints. But at the same time, there's a minimum amount of appropriate conduct that's also expected of what most people would label a responsible adult because irresponsible decision-making can often bleed into other areas of life. And people are hyper-sensitive when kids are involved.

This is at the heart of a lot of the mud-slinging.

So, yeah, there's nothing wrong with having a sex drive. It's how you go about feeding that sex drive that might raise a few eyebrows. It's all about how you play the game.

But at the same time, a lot of people just use the association as a cheap shot that doesn't really make a whole lot of sense in the way that it's being used. Like with sevenpm's example.

Either way, it's a learning experience. You learn, you move on.

Especially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!

Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?

@#basedcowboyshirt: Yeah, based on a lot of eggie's previous comments regarding rape and sex, he's either trying to be a fuckboy troll, or he is a fuckboy with an agenda. Proceed with snark.

Especially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!

Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?

About the same or less, because a girl who says she has a boyfriend is normally not interested. You can take "not interested" and double that if she's lying about the boyfriend. If other girls are around and you gain a reputation as a result of this behavior, your chances of sleeping with x number of girls go down. But a guy this dumb probably wouldn't know any different.

If a girl says she has a boyfriend, but she's made suggestive remarks indicating that she's either lying or that she's willing to cheat on said boyfriend (and these suggestions are normally very forward, if made at all), then that guy MIGHT have a chance at sleeping with her (in most cases, though, if a girl tells a guy she's got a boyfriend, that's a pretty strong indication that she's not interested in him EVEN IF she were willing to cheat on her boyfriend).

But the suggestion would still have to be made in some way, and this suggestion is normally very obvious and forward (in most cases if a girl doesn't know you and she's interested in cheating on her boyfriend with you, said boyfriend doesn't get mentioned at all).

If a girl says she has a boyfriend and she's neither said or done anything to indicate that she would be interested in cheating, and you ignore this very normal social cue and proceed to hit on the girl anyway, you're a creep.

Especially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!

Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?

I know I'm a GEN-X gray hair, but are you guys telling me that as millennials, you would consider/label that sort of message as "hitting on girl"?

I can't believe that THAT approach would ever bear fruit.

I'm only able to see it as offensive and producing negative results.

It translates as "I'm drunk'n horny and want to use you as a semen receptacle."

Educate me ;)

Especially if there was no previous suggestions of it AND I had a boyfriend... Yikes!

Fair enough about the first part but how much action do you reckon a guy would get if he never hit on a girl who said she had a boyfriend?

I know I'm a GEN-X gray hair, but are you guys telling me that as millennials, you would consider/label that sort of message as "hitting on girl"?

I can't believe that THAT approach would ever bear fruit.

I'm only able to see it as offensive and producing negative results.

It translates as "I'm drunk'n horny and want to use you as a semen receptacle."

Educate me ;)

Pretty much. There are a couple of guys in my area who are like this, and they're pretty notorious among the expats (male and female). It kind of ruins their shot at a lot of girls who might have been interested in them before. Doesn't mean that they don't get lucky from time to time... but they don't get nearly as lucky as they could.

Using this kind of tactic just kind of sets you up for failure. It rarely works because it's such a huge turnoff. Makes you look desperate and scuzzy.

I was raised to treat the girl you are with like you would want your future wife to be treated by the man she is currently with (if you can follow that).

Perhaps it's too profound, but if a man wants his future wife to be treated respectfully, he should treat the girls he dates likewise.

It's kind of a no-brainer, no?

Teachers in the US have been reprimanded or even fired/forced to resign over photos on social media of them with alcohol. 

Can you imagine if teachers in Korea were fired for getting caught drinking?  There'd be hardly any teachers left.

If you bring someone's personal life into a workplace and try to get them fired, YOU should be fired.

If they're an elected representative, I get it.

Anyone remember dongle disaster?

http://techcrunch.com/2013/03/21/a-dongle-joke-that-spiraled-way-out-of-control/

I was raised to treat the girl you are with like you would want your future wife to be treated by the man she is currently with (if you can follow that).

Perhaps it's too profound, but if a man wants his future wife to be treated respectfully, he should treat the girls he dates likewise.

It's kind of a no-brainer, no?

I appreciate a more old fashioned attitude toward the dating scene.  A hearty thumbs up to you, good sir. 

Teachers in the US have been reprimanded or even fired/forced to resign over photos on social media of them with alcohol. 

Can you imagine if teachers in Korea were fired for getting caught drinking?  There'd be hardly any teachers left.

If you bring someone's personal life into a workplace and try to get them fired, YOU should be fired.

If they're an elected representative, I get it.

Anyone remember dongle disaster?

http://techcrunch.com/2013/03/21/a-dongle-joke-that-spiraled-way-out-of-control/

One of the articles I read was about a teacher who was forced to choose between being fired or "voluntarily" resigning because some parent had found a photo of her holding glasses of alcohol on her social media page.  The teacher had no idea how the parent got access to the page because all the settings were set to highly private and she didn't befriend any students.  The teacher ended up suing the school for her job back and I'm not sure what happened thereafter. 

About the same or less, because a girl who says she has a boyfriend is normally not interested

Most girls, especially young ones have 'a boyfriend' but are still looking around to trade up. They're quite happy to use the boyfriend as an excuse to make a guy keep his distance until they're more sure about him. Just from my own experience and seeing how other relationships seem to pan out.

Yeah, based on a lot of eggie's previous comments regarding rape and sex,

 I haven't made any comments about rape or sex that have been particularly controversial. At least outside the liberal arts major Western university bubble.

Teachers in the US have been reprimanded or even fired/forced to resign over photos on social media of them with alcohol. 

Can you imagine if teachers in Korea were fired for getting caught drinking?  There'd be hardly any teachers left.

If you bring someone's personal life into a workplace and try to get them fired, YOU should be fired.

If they're an elected representative, I get it.

Anyone remember dongle disaster?

http://techcrunch.com/2013/03/21/a-dongle-joke-that-spiraled-way-out-of-control/

One of the articles I read was about a teacher who was forced to choose between being fired or "voluntarily" resigning because some parent had found a photo of her holding glasses of alcohol on her social media page.  The teacher had no idea how the parent got access to the page because all the settings were set to highly private and she didn't befriend any students.  The teacher ended up suing the school for her job back and I'm not sure what happened thereafter.

I've heard of that happening before too but they's usually in private schools or catholic/christian schools. I'm not sure about all school contracts, but usually those particular schools have something you have to sign about how you need to behave even publicly so students don't see you. I know for a fact that my 6th grade teacher was a coke head but he kept it together in school and as far as I know he's still teaching. (I also found out years later about his habits but w.e. that's his business)