Quote from: Pennypie on March 31, 2017, 03:01:02 pmQuote from: keldule on March 31, 2017, 02:53:45 pmQuote from: sleepy on March 31, 2017, 02:42:50 pmQuoteIt's my co-teachers husbands grandfather Admittedly It's unusual to go but there was originally a dinner planned with that coteacher tonight so everyone feels awkward about not going, then they were like, let's go together! So now I am going to some random dudes funeral and I really cant be arsed. I just can't handle the awkwardness. I have an out, I am the foreigner, they said it's okay if I have another plan (but they know I don't) but I dont want to be the dick that didn't go when everyone else did, also I want that coteacher to come to my wedding whenever it is.......sooooooo.. ... Just remember to keep your phone in your pocket when you are in the room with him.Just follow the person in front when they do the ritual bowing and kiss.I went to one recently after work (I was kinda dragged into it, but whatever.) All we did was bow to the picture in a special alcove at the funeral home and then the funeral director offered us food in a different room. Supposedly the viewing of the body is reserved for family members, so it won't be too awkward if that's the case. Yeah I went to my other co workers fathers funeral last year so I've experienced it before. In that case I didn't feel awkward because we we're close and I wanted to show her I was thinking about her. My coworkers husbands grandfather tho....anyway It'll be fine. Thankfully we should be in and out within an hour or so.Ahh okay. This was my first one. It was a coworker's wife's mother. Equally awkward, but it was just me and my coteacher that went so we were there for maybe 15 minutes tops.
Quote from: keldule on March 31, 2017, 02:53:45 pmQuote from: sleepy on March 31, 2017, 02:42:50 pmQuoteIt's my co-teachers husbands grandfather Admittedly It's unusual to go but there was originally a dinner planned with that coteacher tonight so everyone feels awkward about not going, then they were like, let's go together! So now I am going to some random dudes funeral and I really cant be arsed. I just can't handle the awkwardness. I have an out, I am the foreigner, they said it's okay if I have another plan (but they know I don't) but I dont want to be the dick that didn't go when everyone else did, also I want that coteacher to come to my wedding whenever it is.......sooooooo.. ... Just remember to keep your phone in your pocket when you are in the room with him.Just follow the person in front when they do the ritual bowing and kiss.I went to one recently after work (I was kinda dragged into it, but whatever.) All we did was bow to the picture in a special alcove at the funeral home and then the funeral director offered us food in a different room. Supposedly the viewing of the body is reserved for family members, so it won't be too awkward if that's the case. Yeah I went to my other co workers fathers funeral last year so I've experienced it before. In that case I didn't feel awkward because we we're close and I wanted to show her I was thinking about her. My coworkers husbands grandfather tho....anyway It'll be fine. Thankfully we should be in and out within an hour or so.
Quote from: sleepy on March 31, 2017, 02:42:50 pmQuoteIt's my co-teachers husbands grandfather Admittedly It's unusual to go but there was originally a dinner planned with that coteacher tonight so everyone feels awkward about not going, then they were like, let's go together! So now I am going to some random dudes funeral and I really cant be arsed. I just can't handle the awkwardness. I have an out, I am the foreigner, they said it's okay if I have another plan (but they know I don't) but I dont want to be the dick that didn't go when everyone else did, also I want that coteacher to come to my wedding whenever it is.......sooooooo.. ... Just remember to keep your phone in your pocket when you are in the room with him.Just follow the person in front when they do the ritual bowing and kiss.I went to one recently after work (I was kinda dragged into it, but whatever.) All we did was bow to the picture in a special alcove at the funeral home and then the funeral director offered us food in a different room. Supposedly the viewing of the body is reserved for family members, so it won't be too awkward if that's the case.
QuoteIt's my co-teachers husbands grandfather Admittedly It's unusual to go but there was originally a dinner planned with that coteacher tonight so everyone feels awkward about not going, then they were like, let's go together! So now I am going to some random dudes funeral and I really cant be arsed. I just can't handle the awkwardness. I have an out, I am the foreigner, they said it's okay if I have another plan (but they know I don't) but I dont want to be the dick that didn't go when everyone else did, also I want that coteacher to come to my wedding whenever it is.......sooooooo.. ... Just remember to keep your phone in your pocket when you are in the room with him.Just follow the person in front when they do the ritual bowing and kiss.
It's my co-teachers husbands grandfather Admittedly It's unusual to go but there was originally a dinner planned with that coteacher tonight so everyone feels awkward about not going, then they were like, let's go together! So now I am going to some random dudes funeral and I really cant be arsed. I just can't handle the awkwardness. I have an out, I am the foreigner, they said it's okay if I have another plan (but they know I don't) but I dont want to be the dick that didn't go when everyone else did, also I want that coteacher to come to my wedding whenever it is.......sooooooo.. ...
Pissed off at myself for not studying Korean more diligently. Pissed off at myself for not being more observant. If I had been more observant, or I could understand Korean enough, I could've noticed the two boys about to start physically fighting in the beginning of my class.I really feel like such a shit teacher when this happens.
I hate the town I'm in.There's nothing intrinsically wrong about it, it's nice enough, but I feel so isolated and lonely out here. There's not a lot to do, and there aren't many expats, and I wouldn't say I'm close with many of them. I don't speak enough Korean to just go out and find things to do, and going and partying in Daegu every weekend sounds like a wonderful recipe for burning out -- which I already am starting to feel. I also don't feel that close to the people I know from Daegu, and all my friends are 3 hours away in Busan.I'm just so bored and lonely that there's no way for me to release from work, which makes it hard to focus on/care about that.What the hell have I gotten myself into?
Yea CO2 I completely agree with you! That leap made by some people makes no sense at all.
I don't understand the "You teach public school, shame on you" argument. It happened on here a week ago when I made an off-colour, sexual joke. "You teach kids, I can't believe it, OMG." A better example would have been this weekend. As many of you know, I'm recently single, so on Friday night I had a bit too much beer. I texted this 10/10 Korean girl that I met years ago and told her that I would love to take her to a love motel and have some fun with her. NOW, if you want to criticise me for being a complete moron, go for it. It was a stupid thing to do and I apologised later to her and her BF, however, I got a message saying, "You teach elemenetary school, shame on you, you pervert." I will never understand this. Do they think my sex drive will transfer over onto 11 year olds?Unless they make posters of the chat and put them up all over the neighbourhood around the school, the kids and community are free from this. (They live in North rural Incheon, me I'm well south of Seoul.)If a teacher is clubbing and dancing with a guy/girl, are they to be shamed for that? Are teachers not allowed to have sex with people? I'm an idiot, but it doesn't bleed over into a "Where are you from?" lesson.
Just thinking about it a bit more...Teachers shouldn't be shamed for doing things that every adult does (sex, drinking alcohol etc).But on the other hand I wouldn't want people to know that I "texted this 10/10 Korean girl that I met years ago and told her that I would love to take her to a love motel and have some fun with her". That reflects badly on you if you are a teacher I suppose.
Quote from: The Arm on April 03, 2017, 09:50:17 amJust thinking about it a bit more...Teachers shouldn't be shamed for doing things that every adult does (sex, drinking alcohol etc).But on the other hand I wouldn't want people to know that I "texted this 10/10 Korean girl that I met years ago and told her that I would love to take her to a love motel and have some fun with her". That reflects badly on you if you are a teacher I suppose. Basically. But this forum can be an outlet with anonymity and I think CO2 was just being detailed in ranting to make a point. I doubt he's telling people in real life. Most all of us have done stupid stuff in our lives that we'd rather not make public. EDIT: While I would hate to be the recipient of such a message, I can also sympathize with the frustration of "you are a teacher so you must be pious and perfect" attitude.
I completely understand the rant about us having to be nuns and monks generally in the eyes of Koreans.
Quote from: The Arm on April 03, 2017, 10:07:09 am I completely understand the rant about us having to be nuns and monks generally in the eyes of Koreans.Exaggerating for argument's sake?
EDIT: While I would hate to be the recipient of such a message,