RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0

For you, Dave Stepz.

No.

Why not, huh?

I don't know much about Jamie Oliver, but he lacks the... flair of Gordon.

I'll agree with you there. Oliver is much more hearty, simple home cooking. Ramsay is where it's at. I wouldn't put Mr. Baek and Ramsay in the same league EVER. Go to Bread Street Kitchen in Hong Kong! So good.

Yesterday, I helped my CT pin up a nice large map, in our classroom. It was one of the Koreanized maps, with Korea in the center complete with  Dokdo and 'Sea of Korea' labelled in a bolder font than capital cities, but I digress.
There were a few other teachers in the class as we usually meet there, at 3, for coffee and conversation. We started playing a 'find the country' game. After giving her a few difficult and obscure ones, like Uzbekistan and Lithuania, and having her fail, I went easier:

Saudi Arabia
Sicily
Spain
Argentina
Greenland
Algeria
Iceland

... When she failed to find any of them, the other 2 teachers tried and couldn't find a single one.
I hid my shock by keeping the mood light and tried to help them save face by feigning ignorance to a few which they asked me to find (all Asian countries and ridiculously easy).
I'm no Geography whiz, but the level of Geography of fairly level-headed Koreans seems quite shocking. How can you go through life knowing so little about the outside world?

To be fair, ask your average North American where anything is, and most of them won't know, either.

I can find my way home, so that's something. hahaha

"Tell me honestly, did you ACTUALLY go to church in America?"
"Yes. But it was different. We didn't go all day. We went from 10-12."
"And did your parents live together before they were married?"
"Yes."
"Oh, well good Christians don't do that."

...I'm really, really trying to work through what his possible thinking process could have been to think it was okay to say that to me. I have theories. But I'm way too talkative and this will turn into a novel no one cares about if I try to articulate. So. Just trust that I am super pissed.

Just laugh it off and reply that the Joseph and Mary -- literally God's own parents -- lived together a good long time before getting married.   

Also, you may not have noticed, but people here enjoy reading long, drawn out novels about other people's woes. Or at least I do. Write away! It's cathartic.

"Tell me honestly, did you ACTUALLY go to church in America?"
"Yes. But it was different. We didn't go all day. We went from 10-12."
"And did your parents live together before they were married?"
"Yes."
"Oh, well good Christians don't do that."

...I'm really, really trying to work through what his possible thinking process could have been to think it was okay to say that to me. I have theories. But I'm way too talkative and this will turn into a novel no one cares about if I try to articulate. So. Just trust that I am super pissed.

Just laugh it off and reply that the Joseph and Mary -- literally God's own parents -- lived together a good long time before getting married.   

Also, you may not have noticed, but people here enjoy reading long, drawn out novels about other people's woes. Or at least I do. Write away! It's cathartic.

But they never had sex. Mary was ready for the second coming.

My travel school has decided to blare music of singing children over the loudspeaker system during break.... why..... 

But they never had sex. Mary was ready for the second coming.

But what does sex have to do with living together?

What does sex have to do with living together?

You're so innocent.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vy9bicKwDBU

What does sex have to do with living together?

You're so innocent.

Totes.
Oh, and while we're on this subject, I feel like this would be a great time for an out-of-context quote:

To be fair, ask your average North American where anything is, and most of them won't know, either.

"Tell me honestly, did you ACTUALLY go to church in America?"
"Yes. But it was different. We didn't go all day. We went from 10-12."
"And did your parents live together before they were married?"
"Yes."
"Oh, well good Christians don't do that."

...I'm really, really trying to work through what his possible thinking process could have been to think it was okay to say that to me. I have theories. But I'm way too talkative and this will turn into a novel no one cares about if I try to articulate. So. Just trust that I am super pissed.

Well, Mary and Joseph tried to get a hotel room together one Christmas Eve.

:o

Yesterday, I helped my CT pin up a nice large map, in our classroom. It was one of the Koreanized maps, with Korea in the center complete with  Dokdo and 'Sea of Korea' labelled in a bolder font than capital cities, but I digress.
There were a few other teachers in the class as we usually meet there, at 3, for coffee and conversation. We started playing a 'find the country' game. After giving her a few difficult and obscure ones, like Uzbekistan and Lithuania, and having her fail, I went easier:

Saudi Arabia
Sicily
Spain
Argentina
Greenland
Algeria
Iceland

... When she failed to find any of them, the other 2 teachers tried and couldn't find a single one.
I hid my shock by keeping the mood light and tried to help them save face by feigning ignorance to a few which they asked me to find (all Asian countries and ridiculously easy).
I'm no Geography whiz, but the level of Geography of fairly level-headed Koreans seems quite shocking. How can you go through life knowing so little about the outside world?

To be fair, ask your average North American where anything is, and most of them won't know, either.

One would hope a teacher who is tasked with educating our children would, though.
I can not imagine any of my teachers from Elementary through highschool not knowing  where those countries were on a map.
There are some real dumb dumbs in the classrooms here.

"Tell me honestly, did you ACTUALLY go to church in America?"
"Yes. But it was different. We didn't go all day. We went from 10-12."
"And did your parents live together before they were married?"
"Yes."
"Oh, well good Christians don't do that."

...I'm really, really trying to work through what his possible thinking process could have been to think it was okay to say that to me. I have theories. But I'm way too talkative and this will turn into a novel no one cares about if I try to articulate. So. Just trust that I am super pissed.

Well, Mary and Joseph tried to get a hotel room together one Christmas Eve.

:o

Someone tell them about Manger Danger.

I have to sympathise a little with your CTs not knowing where countries are on a map. 

Some people probably haven't properly looked at a map (and really taken it in) since they were at school so I don't think you can expect them to know the position of every single country.

I think those different nuggets of 'general knowledge' information we all have might not be as general to other people as they are to you.

My knowledge of geography has improved since coming to Korea, lol. It was okay before but NOW I can name, point out on a map, and correctly spell every single country in Europe and Africa. I also now know that there's a difference between the Republic of Ireland and Northern Ireland. xD

Some of the games I end up playing with the kids require me to know the answers prior.

I still haven't reached this level of mastery, though (warning: It's a vid).

Yesterday, I helped my CT pin up a nice large map, in our classroom. It was one of the Koreanized maps, with Korea in the center complete with  Dokdo and 'Sea of Korea' labelled in a bolder font than capital cities, but I digress.
There were a few other teachers in the class as we usually meet there, at 3, for coffee and conversation. We started playing a 'find the country' game. After giving her a few difficult and obscure ones, like Uzbekistan and Lithuania, and having her fail, I went easier:

Saudi Arabia
Sicily
Spain
Argentina
Greenland
Algeria
Iceland

... When she failed to find any of them, the other 2 teachers tried and couldn't find a single one.
I hid my shock by keeping the mood light and tried to help them save face by feigning ignorance to a few which they asked me to find (all Asian countries and ridiculously easy).
I'm no Geography whiz, but the level of Geography of fairly level-headed Koreans seems quite shocking. How can you go through life knowing so little about the outside world?

To be fair, ask your average North American where anything is, and most of them won't know, either.

One would hope a teacher who is tasked with educating our children would, though.
I can not imagine any of my teachers from Elementary through highschool not knowing  where those countries were on a map.
There are some real dumb dumbs in the classrooms here.

The opposite side of this are foreign school elementary students.

My son and his buddies had a globe out one Sunday afternoon.

A bunch of 7-10 year olds saying " I lived there, and there, and there... and had holidays there, there, and there..."

Eastern Europe gives me some trouble because the map has changed since I was required to memorize it.

When I think of my school days, I don't remember being taught much geography.  Our classes focused mostly on North America and Europe. 

I do remember having to learn the capital cities of some European countries for a test, which I did and promptly forgot.

My 5th grade teacher, who was great,  brought school subjects together.  In our reading book, there would  be a short author bio.  She had a huge world map on a bulletin board and would call a student to find the author's home country and tell us what continent it was on. Then she'd place a stick pin on that country.  By the end of that year, there were several pins in that map.

What does sex have to do with living together?

You're so innocent.

Totes.
Oh, and while we're on this subject, I feel like this would be a great time for an out-of-context quote:

To be fair, ask your average North American where anything is, and most of them won't know, either.

Can you find West Areola?

What does sex have to do with living together?

You're so innocent.

Totes.
Oh, and while we're on this subject, I feel like this would be a great time for an out-of-context quote:

To be fair, ask your average North American where anything is, and most of them won't know, either.

Can you find West Areola?

Only if I know if she is facing north or south.  They are usually identified as left and right.

:)

Koreans are known for being blunt, and sometimes you do have to laugh it off, but I don't know. I think I have to draw the line at comments about my family. Usually I try to be the perfect picture of a happy-go-lucky foreigner, a "happy virus" as the Koreans call it, because I don't want to give all of us a bad name. But honestly, I also don't want to perpetuate a notion that you can say whatever you want to foreigners and get away with it. That's a separate rant in itself: how to not give people like you a bad name, while also not sacrificing your dignity/values. Have not figured that out yet.

But yeah. Went basically like this, if you wanted elaboration:

[Talking about differences in medicine culture because he's trying to tell me to go to the doctor for a simple stye... Lull in the conversation, and then]
Him: Tell me honestly, did you actually go to church in America?
Me: Yes. But it was different. We didn't go all day. We went from 10-12.
H: And did your parents live together before they were married?
M: Yes.
H: Oh, well good Christians don't do that.
M: [slipped into English because I was appalled] What?
H: Good Christians wait until after marriage to live together.
M: It doesn't say that in the Bible.
H: Huh? Bible? Ohhh-- Oh Bible... Well...
M: My parents are real Christians. Good Christians.
H: Oh...
[Awkward silence. He hits his thigh with his fist like he always does when he doesn't like the quiet.]
H: In Korea, Christians--
M: --are different. Because of the different cultures.
[More silence.]
M: Do you know Catholic?
H: Yes.
M: Do you know the Pope?
H: Pope? Pope... No, I don't know the Pope.
M: Ohhh. Okay.
[Then we had to go our separate ways anyway.]

Mind you... he had ample opportunity to tell me if I misunderstood, or if he didn't mean it in a bad way, didn't have ill intentions, etc. A simple "Wait, hold on, you're not understanding me--" would have made me write it all off as a language barrier thing. But he didn't.

Granted... I get that he's trying to "take care of" me. I really get it. But there's a line to be drawn there, too. I'm an adult. Yes, a young one, but still an adult. It'd be different if I was going out drinking to excess, ending up passed out in a bus shelter... Yeah, okay. Give me a lecture and try to change my ways, then. But plenty of people live together before getting married and are completely normal people, lead normal lives. It doesn't hurt anyone. It won't hurt me if it ever even happens. (Spoiler alert: I don't even have a boyfriend.) I'm not out here trying to change the Korean masses into co-habiting, sex-crazed fiends. (Which I've explained to him before it has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with wanting to make sure my s/o and I would be compatible living together.) It's really not his business in the first place, and disrespecting my parents in the pursuit of changing my mind makes me doubly annoyed.

Anyway. I'm probably going to act like it didn't happen, unless he decides to talk about it. (Doubt it. Saving face and all.) If he does, I'll just be honest and tell him I don't want to talk about the co-habiting topic anymore. That's reasonable enough. Avoid future issues and all, right?

Koreans are known for being blunt, and sometimes you do have to laugh it off, but I don't know. I think I have to draw the line at comments about my family... It's really not his business in the first place, and disrespecting my parents in the pursuit of changing my mind makes me doubly annoyed.

Anyway. I'm probably going to act like it didn't happen, unless he decides to talk about it. (Doubt it. Saving face and all.) If he does, I'll just be honest and tell him I don't want to talk about the co-habiting topic anymore. That's reasonable enough. Avoid future issues and all, right?

I think you did the right thing. You have to let people know what your boundaries are. He probably didn't think things through before saying that to you, but even if he had been talking to another Korean, I doubt they would have stood for him insulting the morality or religion of their parents.

Yesterday, I helped my CT pin up a nice large map, in our classroom. It was one of the Koreanized maps, with Korea in the center complete with  Dokdo and 'Sea of Korea' labelled in a bolder font than capital cities, but I digress.
There were a few other teachers in the class as we usually meet there, at 3, for coffee and conversation. We started playing a 'find the country' game. After giving her a few difficult and obscure ones, like Uzbekistan and Lithuania, and having her fail, I went easier:

Saudi Arabia
Sicily
Spain
Argentina
Greenland
Algeria
Iceland

... When she failed to find any of them, the other 2 teachers tried and couldn't find a single one.
I hid my shock by keeping the mood light and tried to help them save face by feigning ignorance to a few which they asked me to find (all Asian countries and ridiculously easy).
I'm no Geography whiz, but the level of Geography of fairly level-headed Koreans seems quite shocking. How can you go through life knowing so little about the outside world?

To be fair, ask your average North American where anything is, and most of them won't know, either.

While I want to disagree and call you out, there are a lot of ignorant Americans when it comes to the outside world as well. Most Americans never even leave the US for any period of time. Sporcle is a good way to learn where plcaes are. It's helped me a lot when it comes to the obscure countries.