Dave Stepz
Thanks....He finally talked to me for the first time in 3 days, yesterday, and I told him how I was feeling and he said he would go on a trip for a few days so I could think about it.....I don't think his reaction will be good when I tell him we will be living separately for now at least..........he does need to find a new job so he is looking and I hope he finds something in another city because that would be the best option. That way I could finish my contract and not have to move......but I know there are some things that make me think it's just never gonna change and I will leave and go home at the end of my contract......thing s like the fact that I am not really healthy enough to have children now but he is pressuring me to do so and he knows about the health issues.......he said "you know I thought we would have a baby within the first year of our marriage and it's been 2 years and we still don't......." He thinks it's a big problem, but I am not ready yet......When talking about this before marriage he said whenever, and even no baby is ok....he also, despite very good english, refuses to use it because it's unfair to him....these may seem like minor issues but they add up....
Quote from: Kyndo on September 08, 2020, 12:51:02 pmI admit, #3 is driving me to the edge as well.But hopefully Chinguetti can pick up some of the slack left by Ronnie's departure!There are a few ways you could interpret #3.Quote from: 745sticky on September 08, 2020, 12:48:02 pmWas he murdered or something? Why don’t you ask chinguetti...
I admit, #3 is driving me to the edge as well.But hopefully Chinguetti can pick up some of the slack left by Ronnie's departure!
Was he murdered or something?
Oh, but they already have!https://www.amazon.co.uk/Chinguetti/dp/B0080AJNTG
You have the chance at a clean break, this is something many in a position similar to yours would kill for. Not only don't you have kids, but you'll be in different countries. A family member came to Korea, she married a Korean guy and she realized after she travelled to South Africa with him, on 2-week holiday and to meet her family, that she'd made a mistake and he'd completely changed. He became so "homesick" that he refused to leave her parents house, where they stayed, and only wanted to eat Korean food, which he asked his mother-in-law to cook for him. The mother-in-law was obsessed with him getting her pregnant (they wanted a son to carry on the family name), he was also pretty much a deadbeat and had no interest in doing anything other than obeying his mom. Luckily, she managed to end things off and leave before that happened. Not trying to generalize Korean guys, but if he's pressuring for a kid, it could be coming from his mother and what woman wants to marry a man who prioritizes his mother over his wife? Those cultural differences aren't easy to ignore.Living separately for now is probably the smartest move to make. All the best and hope you can use some 'you time' to relax, find some peace and make the best decision.
Couple of things.The TDS takedown was way overdue. I forget who wrote it, (I think one nut?) but it was spot on. Perfection.Birdwatching is dry as a bone. You must not have much going on to be obsessed with it.Me and Tyler have had our differences, but he’s one of the characters who actually has something about them on here, I respect that.It’s Friday.That is all.CB x
the fact that he is 39 yrs old and doesnt want to be called grandpa by his kids
....I kind of understand the second reason but still....I'm not ready and only 32 so I do have some time, though not a lot
Many men, including myself, have the same concerns, it's the reality of the world we live in. I try to keep my body in peak condition to maximize the chances of having healthy kids later in life and having the energy to raise them. Once the kid comes along it's no longer about you or him, it's pretty much checkmate. Your reluctance at 32 sounds like your intuition speaking to you. You could always adopt or meet someone later. There's a family of 4 (boy, girl and parents) down the hall from my apartment. Police have been called multiple times in response to their fighting and the kids are going through hell. No kid deserves to go through that.If you decide to leave and start fresh, please DON'T go to India to "find yourself".
Like being a member of an FB group dedicated to sharing pictures and videos of cats, and thinking that it's okay to rant about "the orange devil in the White House ".
People who try to make anything and everything about their political views. And I mean anything.Like being a member of an FB group dedicated to sharing pictures and videos of cats, and thinking that it's okay to rant about antifa or "the orange devil in the White House " under the picture of an innocent and extra-floofy ginger tabby. It's a ****** cat, man, can't we just enjoy the picture of a cat?ijdgi
On another note, my favorite cat group is famtastic voids amd wheremst they expamd
Just because a thread goes off the original topic, it doesn't mean it should automatically be locked. Doesn't conversation and arguments generally evolve?