RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0

the mother's aren't in their life anymore.

Where did the mothers go? Just disappeared / cut contact?  Sad situation.

the mother's aren't in their life anymore.

Where did the mothers go? Just disappeared / cut contact?  Sad situation.

It wasn't specified to me, so I'm not sure; And yeah, really sad. :(

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hgm2-gD3GrA

Props have to be given to China for, at least, elevating petiness to an art form; throwing a massive tantrum whenever Taiwan or Hong Kong are referred to as countries.

Korea, on the other hand, is just... lame. Korea reminds me of the annoying little brother who gets upset whenever he feels left out. The world is focusing on the trade war between the US and China and Korea wants to join in too.
I'm sure most of these boycotters couldn't tell you how this little scuffle started, heck, after an hour of research, I can barely get my head around how complex this thing is.

End of the day, Koreans are illustrating exactly why they're some of the best consumers on Earth. Luckily, my CT is one of many who thinks this whole thing is ridiculous and doesn't fall this chaebol BS.

the mother's aren't in their life anymore.

Where did the mothers go? Just disappeared / cut contact?  Sad situation.

When people get divorced here, often it seems like one parent takes custody and the other parent has basically zero contact. And it's not a case of the parent being dead beat, more that its just a natural consequence.. The reasons I've heard are that it will hamper the kid having to have intermittent contact with the one parent, so better off just having none. Or it would make it very hard for the non majority custody parent to establish a new relationship as some people wouldn't want to marry a man or woman who already has kids. So just cut off completely a start fresh.

I know of few kids in this exact situation. Obviously there will be divorced couples that share the burden, but a surprising number don't.

the mother's aren't in their life anymore.

Where did the mothers go? Just disappeared / cut contact?  Sad situation.

When people get divorced here, often it seems like one parent takes custody and the other parent has basically zero contact. And it's not a case of the parent being dead beat, more that its just a natural consequence.. The reasons I've heard are that it will hamper the kid having to have intermittent contact with the one parent, so better off just having none. Or it would make it very hard for the non majority custody parent to establish a new relationship as some people wouldn't want to marry a man or woman who already has kids. So just cut off completely a start fresh.

I know of few kids in this exact situation. Obviously there will be divorced couples that share the burden, but a surprising number don't.

Much more common, IMHO, for one of the sets of grandparents to take custody. The bio parents try to remarry and never discuss it. Sparkling!!!

any other people here married to koreans who don't really like chuseok?

listening to everyone trying to break the sound barrier just by chewing, being forced to sit around all day watching god-awful korean tv, getting moaned at for not having a baby yet, getting told by my wife to speak more with the in-laws despite them speaking korean like machine guns about topics i don't know anything about

ughhhhh

If you're American, you can take your wife to the states and show her American Thanksgiving where she can be forced to sit around all day watching a sport she doesn't understand or care about (football), getting moaned at by the cousin who just started her sophomore year and has decided she knows everything there is in the world or dealing with drunk offensive uncle, getting told by her spouse to speak more with the family even though they're speaking mile-a-minute about topics she knows nothing about or cares about. And odds are that if she speaks about anything that doesn't involve her country or "women's stuff", she'll likely not be taken seriously or respected (or even actively disrespected if the in-laws are the more ignorant kind). Same thing that goes on with us.

That's what holidays are. It always kind of sucks for someone, especially immigrants who are on the outside of everything, but it's what you do because that gets the family together and at the end of the day, if you're ever in a jam, family is supposed to be there to help out.

i'm not american. can't relate to this in the slightest

i'm not american. can't relate to this in the slightest

I am American, and I can't relate to it, either.

any other people here married to koreans who don't really like chuseok?

listening to everyone trying to break the sound barrier just by chewing, being forced to sit around all day watching god-awful korean tv, getting moaned at for not having a baby yet, getting told by my wife to speak more with the in-laws despite them speaking korean like machine guns about topics i don't know anything about

ughhhhh

If you're American, you can take your wife to the states and show her American Thanksgiving where she can be forced to sit around all day watching a sport she doesn't understand or care about (football), getting moaned at by the cousin who just started her sophomore year and has decided she knows everything there is in the world or dealing with drunk offensive uncle, getting told by her spouse to speak more with the family even though they're speaking mile-a-minute about topics she knows nothing about or cares about. And odds are that if she speaks about anything that doesn't involve her country or "women's stuff", she'll likely not be taken seriously or respected (or even actively disrespected if the in-laws are the more ignorant kind). Same thing that goes on with us.

That's what holidays are. It always kind of sucks for someone, especially immigrants who are on the outside of everything, but it's what you do because that gets the family together and at the end of the day, if you're ever in a jam, family is supposed to be there to help out.

i'm not american. can't relate to this in the slightest

Football dominates television screens during Thanksgiving. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/NFL_on_Thanksgiving_Day
"The Cowboys Thanksgiving game has regularly been the most watched NFL regular season telecast each year, with the Lions Thanksgiving game usually in the top five."
The kid who comes back from college and starts pontificating about politics is a common trope, as is the drunk conservative uncle. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/donald-trump-is-your-drunk-uncle-at-thanksgiving_n_56312292e4b0c66bae5aacdc  https://www.nbcnews.com/better/health/how-survive-thanksgiving-when-politics-loom-large-ncna821206  https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2017/11/15/politics-really-is-ruining-thanksgiving-according-to-data-from-10-million-cellphones/

And yes, the culture shock and "outsider" stuff is common for immigrants suddenly thrust into a holiday gathering in their new homes. It should be pretty easy to understand, given that we have dealt with such stuff in Korea- The TV programming that doesn't interest you and you don't understand, family arguments and political fights that we may be witnesses to and are unsure how to navigate, "drunk uncle" who decides to rant about stuff.

This stuff is so common and prevalent. Really, if someone is trying to suggest that football, politics, family arguments about politics, and other stuff aren't issues with Thanksgiving, I don't know what to say. When Thanksgiving rolls around this year, go to some American news sites and look for all the articles about navigating political discussions, other family troubles, and letters to advice columnists.

any other people here married to koreans who don't really like chuseok?

listening to everyone trying to break the sound barrier just by chewing, being forced to sit around all day watching god-awful korean tv, getting moaned at for not having a baby yet, getting told by my wife to speak more with the in-laws despite them speaking korean like machine guns about topics i don't know anything about

ughhhhh

If you're American, you can take your wife to the states and show her American Thanksgiving where she can be forced to sit around all day watching a sport she doesn't understand or care about (football), getting moaned at by the cousin who just started her sophomore year and has decided she knows everything there is in the world or dealing with drunk offensive uncle, getting told by her spouse to speak more with the family even though they're speaking mile-a-minute about topics she knows nothing about or cares about. And odds are that if she speaks about anything that doesn't involve her country or "women's stuff", she'll likely not be taken seriously or respected (or even actively disrespected if the in-laws are the more ignorant kind). Same thing that goes on with us.

That's what holidays are. It always kind of sucks for someone, especially immigrants who are on the outside of everything, but it's what you do because that gets the family together and at the end of the day, if you're ever in a jam, family is supposed to be there to help out.

i'm not american. can't relate to this in the slightest

Major difference being that Thanksgiving is, at most, a day affair... in some cases, nothing longer than a meal.
Chuseok extends to 4 days, where you'll all sleep in a tiny apartment, there isn't enough privacy to take a dump without every one of your relatives noticing.

So today I drilled 4 holes into the wall in my apartment to put up a shelf. 4 little holes. The entire thing took maybe 5 minutes and that wasn't all drilling. I could have done it during the weekend but I didn't want to bother the neighbors much, so I did it on a Monday at 3pm.
Just when I finished, the doorbell rings. It was the 경비 fella. He asked if I was drilling because some tenant complained about the noise. So I said yes, it was me, it was only 4 holes and it's all done. He told me that I should have told him earlier what I was planning to do. WTF? I can't drill for 5 minutes on a weekday afternoon without someone complaining? And what is this insane nonsense that I need to announce it in advance? That doesn't make the noise any less or the process faster. It was clearly drilling sound, not blasting music with heavy bass or having a karaoke party. I didn't drill because I enjoy the noise it creates. I did it because it had to be done and it can't be done quietly.
I just can't understand the logic in this. Probably because there is none.
It was 5 minutes for heaven's sake. Of course a more serious construction would be different. Still, there is nothing the neighbors can do about it. When we had all our windows changed a couple months ago, my wife went door to door to the surrounding apartments and apologized for the inconvenience and noise in advance. The building management was also notified. But that took an entire day and a whole lot more noise.
So I told the guy: "Okay, I just realized that I need to put up some pictures as well so I will be drilling some more. I announced it now, right? Great then, bye!" So I went on to drill some more...

So today I drilled 4 holes into the wall in my apartment to put up a shelf. 4 little holes. The entire thing took maybe 5 minutes and that wasn't all drilling. I could have done it during the weekend but I didn't want to bother the neighbors much, so I did it on a Monday at 3pm.
Just when I finished, the doorbell rings. It was the 경비 fella. He asked if I was drilling because some tenant complained about the noise. So I said yes, it was me, it was only 4 holes and it's all done. He told me that I should have told him earlier what I was planning to do. WTF? I can't drill for 5 minutes on a weekday afternoon without someone complaining? And what is this insane nonsense that I need to announce it in advance? That doesn't make the noise any less or the process faster. It was clearly drilling sound, not blasting music with heavy bass or having a karaoke party. I didn't drill because I enjoy the noise it creates. I did it because it had to be done and it can't be done quietly.
I just can't understand the logic in this. Probably because there is none.
It was 5 minutes for heaven's sake. Of course a more serious construction would be different. Still, there is nothing the neighbors can do about it. When we had all our windows changed a couple months ago, my wife went door to door to the surrounding apartments and apologized for the inconvenience and noise in advance. The building management was also notified. But that took an entire day and a whole lot more noise.
So I told the guy: "Okay, I just realized that I need to put up some pictures as well so I will be drilling some more. I announced it now, right? Great then, bye!" So I went on to drill some more...

Reminds me of this (whole channel is gold)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OKfFooy0QTY

So today I drilled 4 holes into the wall in my apartment to put up a shelf. 4 little holes. The entire thing took maybe 5 minutes and that wasn't all drilling. I could have done it during the weekend but I didn't want to bother the neighbors much, so I did it on a Monday at 3pm.
Just when I finished, the doorbell rings. It was the 경비 fella. He asked if I was drilling because some tenant complained about the noise. So I said yes, it was me, it was only 4 holes and it's all done. He told me that I should have told him earlier what I was planning to do. WTF? I can't drill for 5 minutes on a weekday afternoon without someone complaining? And what is this insane nonsense that I need to announce it in advance? That doesn't make the noise any less or the process faster. It was clearly drilling sound, not blasting music with heavy bass or having a karaoke party. I didn't drill because I enjoy the noise it creates. I did it because it had to be done and it can't be done quietly.
I just can't understand the logic in this. Probably because there is none.
It was 5 minutes for heaven's sake. Of course a more serious construction would be different. Still, there is nothing the neighbors can do about it. When we had all our windows changed a couple months ago, my wife went door to door to the surrounding apartments and apologized for the inconvenience and noise in advance. The building management was also notified. But that took an entire day and a whole lot more noise.
So I told the guy: "Okay, I just realized that I need to put up some pictures as well so I will be drilling some more. I announced it now, right? Great then, bye!" So I went on to drill some more...

People with dogs are less irritated by dogs barking.
People with kids tolerate crying babies more.
People with a satisfying sex life don’t mind the occasional thumping noise from their neighbors.

Doing DYI projects?  No wonder your neighbor was upset!

:)

any other people here married to koreans who don't really like chuseok?

listening to everyone trying to break the sound barrier just by chewing, being forced to sit around all day watching god-awful korean tv, getting moaned at for not having a baby yet, getting told by my wife to speak more with the in-laws despite them speaking korean like machine guns about topics i don't know anything about

ughhhhh

If you're American, you can take your wife to the states and show her American Thanksgiving where she can be forced to sit around all day watching a sport she doesn't understand or care about (football), getting moaned at by the cousin who just started her sophomore year and has decided she knows everything there is in the world or dealing with drunk offensive uncle, getting told by her spouse to speak more with the family even though they're speaking mile-a-minute about topics she knows nothing about or cares about. And odds are that if she speaks about anything that doesn't involve her country or "women's stuff", she'll likely not be taken seriously or respected (or even actively disrespected if the in-laws are the more ignorant kind). Same thing that goes on with us.

This sounds like an epsiode of 'All in the Family'.  Did you watch a lot of this in your time on the naughty step? 

Reminds me of this (whole channel is gold)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OKfFooy0QTY

How far did you get with Mrs Choi?   

How far did you get with Mrs Choi?   

I've gotten pretty far with Ms. Jeong.

How far did you get with Mrs Choi?   

I've gotten pretty far with Ms. Jeong.

 

Well, that narrows it down to a potential 2 407 601 by 2015 figures.   

So today I drilled 4 holes into the wall in my apartment to put up a shelf. 4 little holes. The entire thing took maybe 5 minutes and that wasn't all drilling. I could have done it during the weekend but I didn't want to bother the neighbors much, so I did it on a Monday at 3pm.
Just when I finished, the doorbell rings. It was the 경비 fella. He asked if I was drilling because some tenant complained about the noise. So I said yes, it was me, it was only 4 holes and it's all done. He told me that I should have told him earlier what I was planning to do. WTF? I can't drill for 5 minutes on a weekday afternoon without someone complaining? And what is this insane nonsense that I need to announce it in advance? That doesn't make the noise any less or the process faster. It was clearly drilling sound, not blasting music with heavy bass or having a karaoke party. I didn't drill because I enjoy the noise it creates. I did it because it had to be done and it can't be done quietly.
I just can't understand the logic in this. Probably because there is none.
It was 5 minutes for heaven's sake. Of course a more serious construction would be different. Still, there is nothing the neighbors can do about it. When we had all our windows changed a couple months ago, my wife went door to door to the surrounding apartments and apologized for the inconvenience and noise in advance. The building management was also notified. But that took an entire day and a whole lot more noise.
So I told the guy: "Okay, I just realized that I need to put up some pictures as well so I will be drilling some more. I announced it now, right? Great then, bye!" So I went on to drill some more...

And what happened next? :O

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ELm1TgH8-nY

The best one...

The best one...

Mr. Kim...............

Mr. Kim...............

Mr. Kim................

Which Mr. Kim?