RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0

Isn't that just Korean wives in general? A good chunk of the foreigners married to Korean wives I know are henpecked because God forbid, they want to spend a Sat. night watching Liverpool-Man U at the bar with the boys instead of tedious dinner yet again with the inlaws or play some XBox instead of having to watch some dumb Korean food eating show together or even worse, that show with the good looking young foreigners who speak fluent Korean and being constantly compared to them.

That or them constantly yelling at the kid to study until 10pm while the kid wants to play and dad eventually has to play enforcer even though deep down he thinks the kid is right but if he speaks up it's a night on the sofa with a bad back and the latest threat of divorce.

Can't understand why someone would rather be playing Red Dead Redemption or pool at the bar.

Is it the husbands? Quite possibly, but I think we know enough batsh*t crazy Korean mothers to know that there's two sides to this.

When you say "hot" but the little coffee shop ahjumma hears "ice", and you don't have the heart to make her fix it because you should have used the Korean word instead anyway.

That's much too heart-warming for this website.

Even Satan needs a break sometimes.

These types aren't men looking for wives, they're boys looking for mothers.

That's a great quote, like it a lot.

Isn't that just Korean wives in general? A good chunk of the foreigners married to Korean wives I know are henpecked because God forbid, they want to spend a Sat. night watching Liverpool-Man U at the bar with the boys instead of tedious dinner yet again with the inlaws or play some XBox instead of having to watch some dumb Korean food eating show together or even worse, that show with the good looking young foreigners who speak fluent Korean and being constantly compared to them.

That or them constantly yelling at the kid to study until 10pm while the kid wants to play and dad eventually has to play enforcer even though deep down he thinks the kid is right but if he speaks up it's a night on the sofa with a bad back and the latest threat of divorce.

Can't understand why someone would rather be playing Red Dead Redemption or pool at the bar.

Is it the husbands? Quite possibly, but I think we know enough batsh*t crazy Korean mothers to know that there's two sides to this.

Yeah reasonable take on it I think.  I agree.  Korean women aren't the damsels in distress they're being made out to be here.  Foreigners aren't swooping in and rescuing them from a destined life of misery with a Korean man.

We don't know the other side to the stories so I don't think we should judge too harshly.  Those Korean guys are probably only working what, 70 hours a week lol.

Couples who live together need a night a week where they have the night to themselves, doing whatever the hell they want.

That doesn't mean going to a bar and getting plastered and coming home at 2, but it means doing something you like.

We have kids............

So? Mom watches them on Monday, Dad on Tuesday. Kids don't need you around 24/7.

Another thing is that when you become parents, that doesn't mean that you stop being husband and wife and lovers. Get a babysitter, tell your kid to scram, you're watching a movie.

People act like it's the end of the  world, or that marriage means cancelling everything in your life excpet for "The One" and it's horseshit. Like DeM said, people still like soccer after they get married. Obv going to sports bars 3 nights out of 5 is a bit thick and shitty to do, but people need to let up. Guys need guys and women need women, too, for socialisation.

yeah all far points here

has anyone experienced this one? i ask my wife/other koreans why she/they don't hang out with their friends more. "oh, he/she's married now".

wtf does that even mean?

yeah all far points here

has anyone experienced this one? i ask my wife/other koreans why she/they don't hang out with their friends more. "oh, he/she's married now".

wtf does that even mean?

They watch Korean TV together and they both hate it but their 눈치 skills don't let them communicate that they woud both rather be doing ANYTHING else.

yeah all far points here

has anyone experienced this one? i ask my wife/other koreans why she/they don't hang out with their friends more. "oh, he/she's married now".

wtf does that even mean?

After i first got married my wife used to ask my permission to see her old school/uni friends (she doesn't bother now). Maybe a lot of Korean men just say 'no you can't meet your old friends' and that's the end of it.

yeah all far points here

has anyone experienced this one? i ask my wife/other koreans why she/they don't hang out with their friends more. "oh, he/she's married now".

wtf does that even mean?

After i first got married my wife used to ask my permission to see her old school/uni friends (she doesn't bother now). Maybe a lot of Korean men just say 'no you can't meet your old friends' and that's the end of it.

Goes both ways- men can't hang out with old friends if there are women and same goes for women hanging out if men are there. If there are going to be, they either have to bring the other along or if they're "lucky" provide constant updates. There's probably some exceptions, but generally it's a state of lockdown.

if i hear one more ****** kid shout "i hate japan" today i'm going to ****** snap

are you teaching elementary? i've read a lot on here recently about students talking about japan but none of my students have said anything

Me too neither.

One of my colleagues has a daughter in univerrsity in Japan, and the other teachers seem more jealous than anything.

http://www.koreaherald.com/view.php?ud=20190919000853

Beer imports from Japan are only 3% of what they were a year ago. That's a huge drop.

if i hear one more ****** kid shout "i hate japan" today i'm going to ****** snap

are you teaching elementary? i've read a lot on here recently about students talking about japan but none of my students have said anything

Me too neither.

One of my colleagues has a daughter in univerrsity in Japan, and the other teachers seem more jealous than anything.

http://www.koreaherald.com/view.php?ud=20190919000853

Beer imports from Japan are only 3% of what they were a year ago. That's a huge drop.

I'm at elementary and it gets mentioned constantly. A few 3rd grade boys went so far as to hold their hand in front of their eyes so they wouldn't see the Doraemon character in one of my PPT slides. I had to stop a few classes telling them that political opinions were NOT allowed in my classes.
At the entrance of one of the larger elementary schools in the city sits a massive "Boycott Japan" banner.

With those same students I play a game where I ask them to find countries on a map (incredibly easy countries like China, USA and Korea) most students couldn't find more than 3. Some couldn't even locate Korea on a map, yet at such a young age they're indoctrinated with such strong political opinions. absolute madness!

Did you know Dokdo education is part of the national curriculum for all elementary and middle school school students?

From the Ministry of Education:

"The content on the Dokdo islets has been beefed up to shed light on the wrongfulness of Japan’s illicit claim for sovereignty over the islets and raise students’ awareness on Korea’s sovereignty over Dokdo, so that they may hold an informed view of history."

At the entrance of one of the larger elementary schools in the city sits a massive "Boycott Japan" banner.

I saw a "No Japan" banner at the entrance of a city hall.

A government endorsed boycott?

You should have seen the anti-USA sentiments in 2002-2004 over the American military truck that ran over a couple of girls on the road. The soldiers didn't go to jail and the locals cried injustice. (And the speedskater Ohno fiasco didn't help)

I was asked a lot: "Are you American?" and i told them the truth: "I am Canadian" and the news was met with cheers and claps often (they were glad i wasn't American). In a friggin' museum an entire group of students burst into applause when i said where i'm from. It was weird. And in the classroom, boos when America was discussed.

any other people here married to koreans who don't really like chuseok?

listening to everyone trying to break the sound barrier just by chewing, being forced to sit around all day watching god-awful korean tv, getting moaned at for not having a baby yet, getting told by my wife to speak more with the in-laws despite them speaking korean like machine guns about topics i don't know anything about

ughhhhh

If you're American, you can take your wife to the states and show her American Thanksgiving where she can be forced to sit around all day watching a sport she doesn't understand or care about (football), getting moaned at by the cousin who just started her sophomore year and has decided she knows everything there is in the world or dealing with drunk offensive uncle, getting told by her spouse to speak more with the family even though they're speaking mile-a-minute about topics she knows nothing about or cares about. And odds are that if she speaks about anything that doesn't involve her country or "women's stuff", she'll likely not be taken seriously or respected (or even actively disrespected if the in-laws are the more ignorant kind). Same thing that goes on with us.

That's what holidays are. It always kind of sucks for someone, especially immigrants who are on the outside of everything, but it's what you do because that gets the family together and at the end of the day, if you're ever in a jam, family is supposed to be there to help out.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hgm2-gD3GrA

There are 4 or 5 of them, and it's always once a week at least.  It's mainly as I'm in school first that I notice the cars in the morning.  I work in high school, I finish late (after 8pm) so I know the feeling of being tired at the end of a day and I also know the Korean thing of 'blowing off steam' after a hard day.  But I go home.  These guys have wives.  Go the fukc home and see your wives.  Knowing how bad Koreans are at drinking, wouldn't you just hate being a wife and having to put up with your husband coming home one or two times a week wasted and having to deal with that?  I have dinner with a couple of female co-teachers, who are my really good friends, and they complain about their husbands doing just this.  It's just selfish, and like I said, a lack of professionalism and dignity.  It's not a 'holier than thou' thing, just there is so much wrong with it that can affect a number of people.   

Totally agree with you. I have problem students who have issues with their fathers, and this is a common theme with them.

I found out this morning, 2 of my female students are in a situation like this, absive alcoholic fathers, and the mother's aren't in their life anymore.
Luckily, one of the local churches looks after them a lot. The 2 girls aren't a problem though. One tries really hard in class, even though her English is really low; The other is 2nd highest in her class for English ability.

the mother's aren't in their life anymore.

Where did the mothers go? Just disappeared / cut contact?  Sad situation.

the mother's aren't in their life anymore.

Where did the mothers go? Just disappeared / cut contact?  Sad situation.

It wasn't specified to me, so I'm not sure; And yeah, really sad. :(

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hgm2-gD3GrA

Props have to be given to China for, at least, elevating petiness to an art form; throwing a massive tantrum whenever Taiwan or Hong Kong are referred to as countries.

Korea, on the other hand, is just... lame. Korea reminds me of the annoying little brother who gets upset whenever he feels left out. The world is focusing on the trade war between the US and China and Korea wants to join in too.
I'm sure most of these boycotters couldn't tell you how this little scuffle started, heck, after an hour of research, I can barely get my head around how complex this thing is.

End of the day, Koreans are illustrating exactly why they're some of the best consumers on Earth. Luckily, my CT is one of many who thinks this whole thing is ridiculous and doesn't fall this chaebol BS.