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  • stoat
  • The Legend

    • 2082

    • March 05, 2019, 06:36:13 pm
    • seoul
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10260 on: September 13, 2019, 06:44:13 pm »
any other people here married to koreans who don't really like chuseok?

listening to everyone trying to break the sound barrier just by chewing, being forced to sit around all day watching god-awful korean tv, getting moaned at for not having a baby yet, getting told by my wife to speak more with the in-laws despite them speaking korean like machine guns about topics i don't know anything about

ughhhhh

Pros - no cooking to do, three heavy meals a day, grandmother on hand to look after kid, parents in law have a nicer flat
Cons - mealtime manners,  chewy Kalbi, constant Korean TV

Pros have it just.


  • oglop
  • The Legend

    • 4619

    • August 25, 2011, 07:24:54 pm
    • Seoul
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10261 on: September 13, 2019, 07:33:59 pm »
i'd put "3 heavy meals" as a con. i always get complained at for not eating enough. haha. and yeah, galbi is always chewy and rough (and the sauce is always overly-sweet). i wish slow-cooking was a thing here


  • AWVM_HXE
  • Adventurer

    • 60

    • June 15, 2016, 06:07:37 pm
    • Asia-Pacific Region
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10262 on: September 13, 2019, 09:35:03 pm »


  • stoat
  • The Legend

    • 2082

    • March 05, 2019, 06:36:13 pm
    • seoul
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10263 on: September 14, 2019, 07:47:34 am »
"No cooking to do"? https://www.straitstimes.com/asia/east-asia/all-set-to-tackle-every-married-womans-biggest-nightmare-in-south-korea

I believe someone's privilege is sticking way out...

My wife hasn't had to do any either, so I guess we both have 'guest privilege.'  Korean women complain far too much about holidays IMO. Having to do a bit of cooking and cleaning once or twice a year is hardly a 'nightmare.'  Not like having to give up two years of your life for military service is. What they're probably objecting to most is having to be bossed about by their mother in laws.


  • JNM
  • Waygook Lord

    • 5051

    • January 19, 2015, 10:16:48 am
    • Cairo, Egypt (formerly Seoul)
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10264 on: September 14, 2019, 12:04:26 pm »
"No cooking to do"? https://www.straitstimes.com/asia/east-asia/all-set-to-tackle-every-married-womans-biggest-nightmare-in-south-korea

I believe someone's privilege is sticking way out...

My wife hasn't had to do any either, so I guess we both have 'guest privilege.'  Korean women complain far too much about holidays IMO. Having to do a bit of cooking and cleaning once or twice a year is hardly a 'nightmare.'  Not like having to give up two years of your life for military service is. What they're probably objecting to most is having to be bossed about by their mother in laws.
Wives of eldest sons apparently have the worst time.


  • Lazio
  • Hero of Waygookistan

    • 1188

    • January 27, 2018, 03:56:10 pm
    • Gyeongi-do
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10265 on: September 14, 2019, 03:01:39 pm »
any other people here married to koreans who don't really like chuseok?

listening to everyone trying to break the sound barrier just by chewing, being forced to sit around all day watching god-awful korean tv, getting moaned at for not having a baby yet, getting told by my wife to speak more with the in-laws despite them speaking korean like machine guns about topics i don't know anything about

ughhhhh

Just came back from a 2 night camping trip. My in-laws dont really care about the holidays. We never do the traditional rituals and whatnot. Also, my wife is an only child so when we go over, it's just us and them. In fact, the holidays are no different from any other time we visit them, maybe once a month on average. We arrive there around lunchtime, eat, talk etc. Sometimes we stay untill dinner and then come back home. Perhaps the meals are a bit more special during the holidays, with the chevy beef and such :)


  • AWVM_HXE
  • Adventurer

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    • June 15, 2016, 06:07:37 pm
    • Asia-Pacific Region
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10266 on: September 15, 2019, 04:57:27 am »
Nice dodge, stoat! I entirely believe you've never heard about post-holiday syndrome before.


waitwait look at me believing

I'm doing it so hard!!!!


  • alexisalex
  • Hero of Waygookistan

    • 1063

    • March 02, 2014, 05:10:24 pm
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10267 on: September 15, 2019, 07:42:17 am »
any other people here married to koreans who don't really like chuseok?

listening to everyone trying to break the sound barrier just by chewing, being forced to sit around all day watching god-awful korean tv, getting moaned at for not having a baby yet, getting told by my wife to speak more with the in-laws despite them speaking korean like machine guns about topics i don't know anything about

ughhhhh

This sounds like absolute hell.  This is a genuine question; is it possible for you to just say "nah" and not go to your in-laws?  Just stay at home or go away for a couple of days on your own?



  • stoat
  • The Legend

    • 2082

    • March 05, 2019, 06:36:13 pm
    • seoul
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10268 on: September 15, 2019, 08:36:39 am »
I'm not sure that would go down too well. Foreigner marries a Korean woman then boycotts traditional Korean family festivals.  Going to wife's family things things you don't want to go to like weddings, funerals, Chuseok etc.. is all part of growing up and being a responsible adult.


  • oglop
  • The Legend

    • 4619

    • August 25, 2011, 07:24:54 pm
    • Seoul
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10269 on: September 15, 2019, 12:28:52 pm »
it's really not that bad  :laugh: my in-laws are really kind and nice, and they try to make me feel welcome. besides, we only live a few subway stops away, so we visit thier place often anyway. it's the sitting around watching korean tv all day bit that's the most torturous. plus i'm so sick of eating galbi, japchae, and jeon   :lipsrsealed: i could never eat any of that again and be happy

stoat's right. just one of those things you gotta do. i keep seeing friends who aren't married travelling around bali, philippines, etc, and i keep thinking, "you lucky, lucky bastards". hahah


  • alexisalex
  • Hero of Waygookistan

    • 1063

    • March 02, 2014, 05:10:24 pm
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10270 on: September 15, 2019, 04:14:14 pm »
Yeah suppose so.  I wonder if because the Korean daughter has chosen to marry a foreigner then it would be "sort of ok" to give one of the traditions a miss for one year or something.  Why not have a long weekend to Bali or the Philippines if you see your friends doing it?  We don't get a lot of chances to travel really and Chuseok is a good chance to do it.  I don't know, like you say I suppose it's not that bad!


  • alexisalex
  • Hero of Waygookistan

    • 1063

    • March 02, 2014, 05:10:24 pm
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10271 on: September 15, 2019, 05:20:34 pm »
For Chuseok, my girlfriend and I stayed in a resort around Jirisan.  It was halfway up a mountain basically; stunning views, perfect.  Lovely to hear the sound of birds, water streaming from the nearby valley, peace and quiet.  Oh no, wait a minute.  The resort played Korean ballads over a loudspeaker outside from morning until night which drowned out all the nice relaxing noises.  My favourite thing when I want to relax is to hear a male Korean ballad singer straining to hit high notes.  That really lowers my stress levels.


Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10272 on: September 16, 2019, 06:39:48 am »
it's the sitting around watching korean tv all day bit that's the most torturous.

Guantanamo or this? 

Difficult one....

Do you have my orange jumpsuit in a medium?


Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10273 on: September 16, 2019, 10:27:42 am »
For such a technologically advanced nation, the computer nonsense around here is nuts.  Last Tuesday, all the computers at my school were upgraded to Windows 10 by the outside computer expert who came in to do them.  Thing is, now, I have the 'not a genuine copy' problem with my English room computer which in turn is messing up the computer.  When it 'sleeps' and I turn it back on, the screen is really bright so I can hardly see anything.  As it's not a genuine copy I can't change the settings to it doesn't sleep.  Coolmessenger is totally knackered and nothing goes in or out.  It won't connect to the tv so my PPTs don't work.  Seriously, how hard can it be to put on an upgrade without co cking everything else up?  The bloke was supposed to come last Tuesday or Wednesday to fix it.  Not come yet.  So I went down to see the teacher in charge of the computer stuff, 'didn't the expert come yet?'.  'no!'.

'Expert' my arse. 


  • Datasapien
  • Expert Waygook

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    • February 04, 2012, 09:36:25 pm
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10274 on: September 16, 2019, 11:50:19 am »
« Last Edit: September 16, 2019, 11:52:07 am by Datasapien »
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10275 on: September 16, 2019, 11:54:27 am »
it's really not that bad  :laugh: my in-laws are really kind and nice, and they try to make me feel welcome. besides, we only live a few subway stops away, so we visit thier place often anyway. it's the sitting around watching korean tv all day bit that's the most torturous. plus i'm so sick of eating galbi, japchae, and jeon   :lipsrsealed: i could never eat any of that again and be happy

stoat's right. just one of those things you gotta do. i keep seeing friends who aren't married travelling around bali, philippines, etc, and i keep thinking, "you lucky, lucky bastards". hahah

I mean, at least on the bright side, Korean mothers-in-law are typically at least better-than-average cooks - at least my partner's mother is. So the food you're getting is a lot better than you'd find at just about any restaurants.

Also, talking with in-laws is usually a great way to force yourself to speak Korean, so at least you're getting something out of it. Plus, you can learn some things. I've learned so much about different 나물 and stuff from my partner's mother - stuff I would have absolutely no idea how to cook otherwise.

It does get kind of exhausting, though, speaking only Korean. I can't do more than like an hour of chatting at a time without getting a headache.


Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10276 on: September 16, 2019, 12:17:23 pm »
'Expert' my arse. 

Was it this guy? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-2Scfj4FZk

 :laugh:

A 20 minute takedown.  I doubt he'll be leaving the house anytime soon.


  • VanIslander
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10277 on: September 16, 2019, 10:00:27 pm »
A corn dog is not a hot dog.

It's a friggin' battered wiener.
It doesn't even deserve the name "sausage".

A polish sausage or an Coney Island dog or American hotdog with relish and chili is worth a heart attack.

A corn dog, even with dijon mustard, isn't.
Help others, especially animals. Say what you think, be considerate of others. Appreciate more than deprecate. Teach well, jump on teachable moments. Enjoy Korea as it is, without changing it. Dwell! Yet, at times, change your life for the better. "The most important [thing] is to have a good day."


  • JNM
  • Waygook Lord

    • 5051

    • January 19, 2015, 10:16:48 am
    • Cairo, Egypt (formerly Seoul)
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10278 on: September 17, 2019, 02:11:38 am »
A corn dog is not a hot dog.

It's a friggin' battered wiener.
It doesn't even deserve the name "sausage".

A polish sausage or an Coney Island dog or American hotdog with relish and chili is worth a heart attack.

A corn dog, even with dijon mustard, isn't.


Especially not when fried in rancid oil and served with Korean ketchup, as is the custom.


  • oglop
  • The Legend

    • 4619

    • August 25, 2011, 07:24:54 pm
    • Seoul
Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #10279 on: September 17, 2019, 07:49:23 am »
and then finished off by being drenched in granulated sugar