@Kayos: WTF. That's all horrid and clearly those females are not worth anyone's time (though I'm sorry you had to find out in such ridiculous ways). Geezus
Quote from: Kayos on October 12, 2016, 02:41:47 pmI understand being timid about it. I'm actually too scared to ask girls out back in NZD now, due to terrible experiences with rejection. I've asked girls out for dinner and have: been spit on, publicly ridiculed (like you think you are good enough for me?! - type thing, but a little worse, and got people around to chime in), one girl even got a male friend of hers, to beat the crap out of me for asking her out to dinner. This is why I've never even been on a date before. :/ I'm still terrified of rejection, but being away from NZ has helped me with it - dunno why either. haha.Holy crap, that's horrifying. Is that sort of thing common in NZ? That really is awful, I'm sorry. I don't blame you for being timid about asking girls out.
I understand being timid about it. I'm actually too scared to ask girls out back in NZD now, due to terrible experiences with rejection. I've asked girls out for dinner and have: been spit on, publicly ridiculed (like you think you are good enough for me?! - type thing, but a little worse, and got people around to chime in), one girl even got a male friend of hers, to beat the crap out of me for asking her out to dinner. This is why I've never even been on a date before. :/ I'm still terrified of rejection, but being away from NZ has helped me with it - dunno why either. haha.
Quote from: yirj17 on October 12, 2016, 02:49:06 pm@Kayos: WTF. That's all horrid and clearly those females are not worth anyone's time (though I'm sorry you had to find out in such ridiculous ways). Geezus Thanks. It's okay, in those cases, it was better to find out sooner rather than later than later, that they weren't going to be worth the time / effort - except for the 1 time I got beaten up, as it was pretty bad and had to miss a week and a half of work due to the injuries.Quote from: HaLo3 on October 12, 2016, 02:50:13 pmQuote from: Kayos on October 12, 2016, 02:41:47 pmI understand being timid about it. I'm actually too scared to ask girls out back in NZD now, due to terrible experiences with rejection. I've asked girls out for dinner and have: been spit on, publicly ridiculed (like you think you are good enough for me?! - type thing, but a little worse, and got people around to chime in), one girl even got a male friend of hers, to beat the crap out of me for asking her out to dinner. This is why I've never even been on a date before. :/ I'm still terrified of rejection, but being away from NZ has helped me with it - dunno why either. haha.Holy crap, that's horrifying. Is that sort of thing common in NZ? That really is awful, I'm sorry. I don't blame you for being timid about asking girls out.Not common from what I am aware of. All my friends have been rejected like adults, even in high school. Actually, I haven't heard of anyone having rejection issues like that before. :/
Quote from: yirgacheffe on October 12, 2016, 02:33:55 pmMy ex broke up with me about a year ago via kakao... We'd been together for a few years so that pissed me off to put it mildly.Woah. A few years and he couldn't even do it proper? That woulda made me just so incredibly upset.
My ex broke up with me about a year ago via kakao... We'd been together for a few years so that pissed me off to put it mildly.
Actually I've been wondering if I should say anything to this one guy I know... he's very flirty with me, especially by Korean standards, but his English speaking ability is extremely low (listening is better, I found recently that we could have a half-decent conversation with me speaking English and him, Korean). He's so cute but I have no idea what you even say in that kind of situation haha!
Quote from: moonbrie on October 12, 2016, 03:28:55 pmActually I've been wondering if I should say anything to this one guy I know... he's very flirty with me, especially by Korean standards, but his English speaking ability is extremely low (listening is better, I found recently that we could have a half-decent conversation with me speaking English and him, Korean). He's so cute but I have no idea what you even say in that kind of situation haha!I'm a really skeptical / cynical person, so ignore me if you want, but to me it sounds like he's trying to use you. He probably knows he's cute and is using that to his advantage.On the other hand, he could just genuinely be interested in you, but again, I'm not the trusting type.
Quote from: Kayos on October 12, 2016, 02:59:28 pmQuote from: yirj17 on October 12, 2016, 02:49:06 pm@Kayos: WTF. That's all horrid and clearly those females are not worth anyone's time (though I'm sorry you had to find out in such ridiculous ways). Geezus Thanks. It's okay, in those cases, it was better to find out sooner rather than later than later, that they weren't going to be worth the time / effort - except for the 1 time I got beaten up, as it was pretty bad and had to miss a week and a half of work due to the injuries.Quote from: HaLo3 on October 12, 2016, 02:50:13 pmQuote from: Kayos on October 12, 2016, 02:41:47 pmI understand being timid about it. I'm actually too scared to ask girls out back in NZD now, due to terrible experiences with rejection. I've asked girls out for dinner and have: been spit on, publicly ridiculed (like you think you are good enough for me?! - type thing, but a little worse, and got people around to chime in), one girl even got a male friend of hers, to beat the crap out of me for asking her out to dinner. This is why I've never even been on a date before. :/ I'm still terrified of rejection, but being away from NZ has helped me with it - dunno why either. haha.Holy crap, that's horrifying. Is that sort of thing common in NZ? That really is awful, I'm sorry. I don't blame you for being timid about asking girls out.Not common from what I am aware of. All my friends have been rejected like adults, even in high school. Actually, I haven't heard of anyone having rejection issues like that before. :/I'm going to echo the others here but I'm sorry for what happened to you. Literally, as I read your post, my face looked like this: Those people were lower than scum and you definitely did not deserve that.
Quote from: HaLo3 on October 12, 2016, 02:45:30 pmQuote from: yirgacheffe on October 12, 2016, 02:33:55 pmMy ex broke up with me about a year ago via kakao... We'd been together for a few years so that pissed me off to put it mildly.Woah. A few years and he couldn't even do it proper? That woulda made me just so incredibly upset.Yeah, I was really mad. The break-up itself wasn't that bad, although obviously I was sad for a while, but I feel like I deserved to at least be broken up with in person.
Quote from: yirgacheffe on October 12, 2016, 03:51:58 pmQuote from: moonbrie on October 12, 2016, 03:28:55 pmActually I've been wondering if I should say anything to this one guy I know... he's very flirty with me, especially by Korean standards, but his English speaking ability is extremely low (listening is better, I found recently that we could have a half-decent conversation with me speaking English and him, Korean). He's so cute but I have no idea what you even say in that kind of situation haha!I'm a really skeptical / cynical person, so ignore me if you want, but to me it sounds like he's trying to use you. He probably knows he's cute and is using that to his advantage.On the other hand, he could just genuinely be interested in you, but again, I'm not the trusting type. I'm not sure if he's like the cutest by traditional standards. But he hasn't asked me to teach him English so... hah
Quote from: moonbrie on October 13, 2016, 07:40:18 amQuote from: yirgacheffe on October 12, 2016, 03:51:58 pmQuote from: moonbrie on October 12, 2016, 03:28:55 pmActually I've been wondering if I should say anything to this one guy I know... he's very flirty with me, especially by Korean standards, but his English speaking ability is extremely low (listening is better, I found recently that we could have a half-decent conversation with me speaking English and him, Korean). He's so cute but I have no idea what you even say in that kind of situation haha!I'm a really skeptical / cynical person, so ignore me if you want, but to me it sounds like he's trying to use you. He probably knows he's cute and is using that to his advantage.On the other hand, he could just genuinely be interested in you, but again, I'm not the trusting type. I'm not sure if he's like the cutest by traditional standards. But he hasn't asked me to teach him English so... hahNot yet anyway. (kidding)
Quote from: Kayos on October 12, 2016, 02:41:47 pmI understand being timid about it. I'm actually too scared to ask girls out back in NZD now, due to terrible experiences with rejection. I've asked girls out for dinner and have: been spit on, publicly ridiculed (like you think you are good enough for me?! - type thing, but a little worse, and got people around to chime in), one girl even got a male friend of hers, to beat the crap out of me for asking her out to dinner. This is why I've never even been on a date before. :/ I'm still terrified of rejection, but being away from NZ has helped me with it - dunno why either. haha.Err ... am I the only one who feels like there's more to these rejections than Kayos lets on?
Whoops lol sorry to have derailed this Raving/Happiness thread...
Quote from: lazerbullet on October 13, 2016, 08:25:15 amQuote from: Kayos on October 12, 2016, 02:41:47 pmI understand being timid about it. I'm actually too scared to ask girls out back in NZD now, due to terrible experiences with rejection. I've asked girls out for dinner and have: been spit on, publicly ridiculed (like you think you are good enough for me?! - type thing, but a little worse, and got people around to chime in), one girl even got a male friend of hers, to beat the crap out of me for asking her out to dinner. This is why I've never even been on a date before. :/ I'm still terrified of rejection, but being away from NZ has helped me with it - dunno why either. haha.Err ... am I the only one who feels like there's more to these rejections than Kayos lets on?While I can understand thinking that way. I don't feel like I am a creep or anything.All I said was "I think you are both pretty and nice, would you want to get some dinner with me sometime." I don't ask complete strangers / people I just met out, as I'm not comfortable around people I don't know well, so these were all people who had known me, and I had known, for a decent amount of time. I think that if I were a crazy creep, they would have cut me out of their lives long before that.