Wednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)
Quote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 08:00:06 amWednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?
Quote from: HaLo3 on October 12, 2016, 09:02:46 amQuote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 08:00:06 amWednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...
Quote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 09:19:18 amQuote from: HaLo3 on October 12, 2016, 09:02:46 amQuote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 08:00:06 amWednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...Ugh, that sucks! I was dating a guy for 6 months here, and thats how he "broke up" with me. Blocked me on kakao and just stopped talking to me. Never a good feeling. I'm sorry.
Quote from: HaLo3 on October 12, 2016, 09:29:29 amQuote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 09:19:18 amQuote from: HaLo3 on October 12, 2016, 09:02:46 amQuote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 08:00:06 amWednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...Ugh, that sucks! I was dating a guy for 6 months here, and thats how he "broke up" with me. Blocked me on kakao and just stopped talking to me. Never a good feeling. I'm sorry.was the guy Korean?? I'm just generalizing but based on my observations many of the foreign girls that I meet rarely have luck locking down a relationship with Korean guys. The majority of them just want a casual language exchange with benefits included.
Quote from: FreddyPrinceWilliam on October 12, 2016, 09:58:19 amQuote from: HaLo3 on October 12, 2016, 09:29:29 amQuote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 09:19:18 amQuote from: HaLo3 on October 12, 2016, 09:02:46 amQuote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 08:00:06 amWednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...Ugh, that sucks! I was dating a guy for 6 months here, and thats how he "broke up" with me. Blocked me on kakao and just stopped talking to me. Never a good feeling. I'm sorry.was the guy Korean?? I'm just generalizing but based on my observations many of the foreign girls that I meet rarely have luck locking down a relationship with Korean guys. The majority of them just want a casual language exchange with benefits included.Yeah, he was. And I do think it could have been that because he had talked about me helping his sister with her hagwon. Booo. However, that was over a year ago and I have met a really great guy that doesn't seem to be in it for the language exchange.
Quote from: #basedcowboyshirt on September 29, 2016, 01:10:32 pmQuote from: chelseajk on September 29, 2016, 01:04:14 pmOur super stressful open class is over! (Now just two for the parents but that shouldn't be too bad.) My poor co was so nervous during our open class that she was shaking, but it went really well and the kids were so well-behaved. I could tell the kids were nervous too though because they sat straight up in their desks and just stared at me the whole time; they were too nervous to turn around and see the 18 or so teachers who were watching our class.After it was over the VP came up to me, grabbed my hand, stared me in the eyes, and earnestly said, "This is the best English class I have ever seen." I'm so glad it's done with and her comment made all of the prep worth it. In 5th grade a couple girls have been begging to play Sleeping Elephants, so we did that today. Some boys whined and moaned but I told them they could sit at the back of the class if they didn't want to play. All the kids looked like they had fun (even the grumpy boys got really into), and at the end of the class the two girls ran up to me and thanked me for the game. I've been having trouble connecting with the girls in this class (they are so darn quiet) but I think we're getting there. Why was your coteacher so nervous? Is she new to teaching English? Or just a new teacher in general?Honestly, why does anybody sweat over open class? I've had some CoTs prepare a month ahead of time and stress incessantly for something that, at least at my school, isn't taken seriously by administration at all. It seems like whatever you write for the lesson plan is more important than what actually happens in class. The VP and P pop their heads in for 3 minutes max. Plus, don't teachers here have one of the most secure jobs you can imagine. What's the worst that could happen?
Quote from: chelseajk on September 29, 2016, 01:04:14 pmOur super stressful open class is over! (Now just two for the parents but that shouldn't be too bad.) My poor co was so nervous during our open class that she was shaking, but it went really well and the kids were so well-behaved. I could tell the kids were nervous too though because they sat straight up in their desks and just stared at me the whole time; they were too nervous to turn around and see the 18 or so teachers who were watching our class.After it was over the VP came up to me, grabbed my hand, stared me in the eyes, and earnestly said, "This is the best English class I have ever seen." I'm so glad it's done with and her comment made all of the prep worth it. In 5th grade a couple girls have been begging to play Sleeping Elephants, so we did that today. Some boys whined and moaned but I told them they could sit at the back of the class if they didn't want to play. All the kids looked like they had fun (even the grumpy boys got really into), and at the end of the class the two girls ran up to me and thanked me for the game. I've been having trouble connecting with the girls in this class (they are so darn quiet) but I think we're getting there. Why was your coteacher so nervous? Is she new to teaching English? Or just a new teacher in general?
Our super stressful open class is over! (Now just two for the parents but that shouldn't be too bad.) My poor co was so nervous during our open class that she was shaking, but it went really well and the kids were so well-behaved. I could tell the kids were nervous too though because they sat straight up in their desks and just stared at me the whole time; they were too nervous to turn around and see the 18 or so teachers who were watching our class.After it was over the VP came up to me, grabbed my hand, stared me in the eyes, and earnestly said, "This is the best English class I have ever seen." I'm so glad it's done with and her comment made all of the prep worth it. In 5th grade a couple girls have been begging to play Sleeping Elephants, so we did that today. Some boys whined and moaned but I told them they could sit at the back of the class if they didn't want to play. All the kids looked like they had fun (even the grumpy boys got really into), and at the end of the class the two girls ran up to me and thanked me for the game. I've been having trouble connecting with the girls in this class (they are so darn quiet) but I think we're getting there.
Quote from: Lurch on October 12, 2016, 01:22:12 pmMy grade six class ended up being five minutes intro, thirty minutes of Kpop discussion and five minutes of game. I hate Kpop. All of it. (Well, some older stuff is OK.) They didn't care. They just wanted to know which groups I knew and what songs I'd heard. I at least managed to conduct most of the discussion in English.On a less happy note, the Daekyo sixth grade books are terrible. I wanted to teach "Do you know about Hanbok?" about as much as they wanted to study it.That sounds like a fun lesson. Kpop is such a good way to start discussions with students. Also, every textbook series has a curriculum-mandated 'Korean cultural introduction to English-speakers' lesson in it. They're all awful.
My grade six class ended up being five minutes intro, thirty minutes of Kpop discussion and five minutes of game. I hate Kpop. All of it. (Well, some older stuff is OK.) They didn't care. They just wanted to know which groups I knew and what songs I'd heard. I at least managed to conduct most of the discussion in English.On a less happy note, the Daekyo sixth grade books are terrible. I wanted to teach "Do you know about Hanbok?" about as much as they wanted to study it.
Quote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 09:19:18 amQuote from: HaLo3 on October 12, 2016, 09:02:46 amQuote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 08:00:06 amWednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...Has happened to me 4 times since being here in Korea. All women I have known for 6months - a year. Have hung out in person a lot. And the moment I ask them on a date, I get blocked and never hear from them again. :/ What's wrong with just saying: "no thanks, but lets stay friends!"Sorry to hear that, I know that feeling well. :/ Makes me feel really bad about myself when it happens to me. :/
Quote from: Kayos on October 12, 2016, 01:31:07 pmQuote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 09:19:18 amQuote from: HaLo3 on October 12, 2016, 09:02:46 amQuote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 08:00:06 amWednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...Has happened to me 4 times since being here in Korea. All women I have known for 6months - a year. Have hung out in person a lot. And the moment I ask them on a date, I get blocked and never hear from them again. :/ What's wrong with just saying: "no thanks, but lets stay friends!"Sorry to hear that, I know that feeling well. :/ Makes me feel really bad about myself when it happens to me. :/Well at least its not just the dudes... I gave him every opportunity to be honest either way. Its really easy to just be like "nah". Cuz at least I get an idea of whats going on. And I've got people being like "you pushed him", but nah he could have just told me. Maybe there was a communication mishap but yeah. Sorry to hear about your experience too.
Quote from: Kayos on October 12, 2016, 01:31:07 pmQuote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 09:19:18 amQuote from: HaLo3 on October 12, 2016, 09:02:46 amQuote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 08:00:06 amWednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...Has happened to me 4 times since being here in Korea. All women I have known for 6months - a year. Have hung out in person a lot. And the moment I ask them on a date, I get blocked and never hear from them again. :/ What's wrong with just saying: "no thanks, but lets stay friends!"Sorry to hear that, I know that feeling well. :/ Makes me feel really bad about myself when it happens to me. :/I'm so timid about asking people out for that reason. A lot of people take any indication of interest as like "I've been pining after you for months and I can't take it if you turn me down!" Like, no, sure I'll be bummed out if you turn me down but I like you as a person either way. I can handle rejection like an adult. Having said that though, I totally understand why people, especially women, feel that way. There are an unfortunate number of dudes who take "let's just stay friends" as "this is my chance to slowly needle myself into her heart" not "alright, I'll be chill and get over it." Fun related story: I went on a date with a guy once when I was maybe 19, but only one date. I avoided talking to him for a bit but eventually told him the (harsh) reason I wasn't into him: He smoked like a chimney and absolutely reeked of smoke. I smoke myself, even, but he smoked at least a pack or two a day and...well, if you've ever been around someone like that, you know the smell I'm talking about. We ran in similar circles and two years later we both went to the same friend's birthday celebration. He told me about how my rejection of him had helped him quit smoking and was very affectionate with me the whole night... despite the fact that I was there with my boyfriend who I'd been dating for a year and a half at that point. He even did that heart hand thing to me as I was leaving and tried to get me to stay longer. ._.;
Quote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 02:29:32 pmQuote from: Kayos on October 12, 2016, 01:31:07 pmQuote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 09:19:18 amQuote from: HaLo3 on October 12, 2016, 09:02:46 amQuote from: krissyboo75 on October 12, 2016, 08:00:06 amWednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...Has happened to me 4 times since being here in Korea. All women I have known for 6months - a year. Have hung out in person a lot. And the moment I ask them on a date, I get blocked and never hear from them again. :/ What's wrong with just saying: "no thanks, but lets stay friends!"Sorry to hear that, I know that feeling well. :/ Makes me feel really bad about myself when it happens to me. :/Well at least its not just the dudes... I gave him every opportunity to be honest either way. Its really easy to just be like "nah". Cuz at least I get an idea of whats going on. And I've got people being like "you pushed him", but nah he could have just told me. Maybe there was a communication mishap but yeah. Sorry to hear about your experience too.I'm sorry to hear that I have noticed, though, that Korean guys seem to be unable to be honest about relationships when it comes to bad news. My ex broke up with me about a year ago via kakao... We'd been together for a few years so that pissed me off to put it mildly.
I understand being timid about it. I'm actually too scared to ask girls out back in NZD now, due to terrible experiences with rejection. I've asked girls out for dinner and have: been spit on, publicly ridiculed (like you think you are good enough for me?! - type thing, but a little worse, and got people around to chime in), one girl even got a male friend of hers, to beat the crap out of me for asking her out to dinner. This is why I've never even been on a date before. :/ I'm still terrified of rejection, but being away from NZ has helped me with it - dunno why either. haha.