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Wednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)

Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?

Wednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)

Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?

That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...

Wednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)

Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?

That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...

Ugh, that sucks! I was dating a guy for 6 months here, and thats how he "broke up" with me. Blocked me on kakao and just stopped talking to me. Never a good feeling. I'm sorry.

Wednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)

Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?

That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...

Ugh, that sucks! I was dating a guy for 6 months here, and thats how he "broke up" with me. Blocked me on kakao and just stopped talking to me. Never a good feeling. I'm sorry.

Ghosting is the worst here.... Happened to me too!     Chin up guys :)

Wednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)

Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?

That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...

Ugh, that sucks! I was dating a guy for 6 months here, and thats how he "broke up" with me. Blocked me on kakao and just stopped talking to me. Never a good feeling. I'm sorry.

was the guy Korean?? I'm just generalizing but based on my observations many of the foreign girls that I meet rarely have luck locking down a relationship with Korean guys.  The majority of them just want a casual language exchange with benefits included.

Wednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)

Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?

That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...

Ugh, that sucks! I was dating a guy for 6 months here, and thats how he "broke up" with me. Blocked me on kakao and just stopped talking to me. Never a good feeling. I'm sorry.

was the guy Korean?? I'm just generalizing but based on my observations many of the foreign girls that I meet rarely have luck locking down a relationship with Korean guys.  The majority of them just want a casual language exchange with benefits included.

Yeah, he was. And I do think it could have been that because he had talked about me helping his sister with her hagwon. Booo. However, that was over a year ago and I have met a really great guy that doesn't seem to be in it for the language exchange.

Wednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)

Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?

That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...

Ugh, that sucks! I was dating a guy for 6 months here, and thats how he "broke up" with me. Blocked me on kakao and just stopped talking to me. Never a good feeling. I'm sorry.

was the guy Korean?? I'm just generalizing but based on my observations many of the foreign girls that I meet rarely have luck locking down a relationship with Korean guys.  The majority of them just want a casual language exchange with benefits included.

Yeah, he was. And I do think it could have been that because he had talked about me helping his sister with her hagwon. Booo. However, that was over a year ago and I have met a really great guy that doesn't seem to be in it for the language exchange.

I've met good ones and bad.  You don't usually know it until the end either haha..

Our super stressful open class is over! (Now just two for the parents but that shouldn't be too bad.) My poor co was so nervous during our open class that she was shaking, but it went really well and the kids were so well-behaved. I could tell the kids were nervous too though because they sat straight up in their desks and just stared at me the whole time; they were too nervous to turn around and see the 18 or so teachers who were watching our class.

After it was over the VP came up to me, grabbed my hand, stared me in the eyes, and earnestly said, "This is the best English class I have ever seen." I'm so glad it's done with and her comment made all of the prep worth it.

In 5th grade a couple girls have been begging to play Sleeping Elephants, so we did that today. Some boys whined and moaned but I told them they could sit at the back of the class if they didn't want to play. All the kids looked like they had fun (even the grumpy boys got really into), and at the end of the class the two girls ran up to me and thanked me for the game. I've been having trouble connecting with the girls in this class (they are so darn quiet) but I think we're getting there. 

Why was your coteacher so nervous? Is she new to teaching English? Or just a new teacher in general?

Honestly, why does anybody sweat over open class? I've had some CoTs prepare a month ahead of time and stress incessantly for something that, at least at my school, isn't taken seriously by administration at all. It seems like whatever you write for the lesson plan is more important than what actually happens in class. The VP and P pop their heads in for 3 minutes max. Plus, don't teachers here have one of the most secure jobs you can imagine. What's the worst that could happen?

I haven't had one yet, but I think mine will be in December. I'm already nervous and freaking out a bit for it, however, it is mostly because I am a new teacher (unexpierenced), and as I am not making traditional lessons (I have to be the fun, games only teacher), I'm worried that what I do during it won't be good. Plus, at my main school, my co-teacher is the music teacher who doesn't speak English. So I feel like it is going to be very difficult for me. Plus, the higher ups from the education office, and 2 NET's and their co - come to every NET open class in our city (from what I've been told and experienced - I've had to watch one)

My grade six class ended up being five minutes intro, thirty minutes of Kpop discussion and five minutes of game. I hate Kpop. All of it. (Well, some older stuff is OK.) They didn't care. They just wanted to know which groups I knew and what songs I'd heard. I at least managed to conduct most of the discussion in English.

On a less happy note, the Daekyo sixth grade books are terrible. I wanted to teach "Do you know about Hanbok?" about as much as they wanted to study it.

Wednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)

Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?

That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...

Has happened to me 4 times since being here in Korea. All women I have known for 6months - a year. Have hung out in person a lot. And the moment I ask them on a date, I get blocked and never hear from them again. :/ What's wrong with just saying: "no thanks, but lets stay friends!"
Sorry to hear that, I know that feeling well. :/ Makes me feel really bad about myself when it happens to me. :/

My grade six class ended up being five minutes intro, thirty minutes of Kpop discussion and five minutes of game. I hate Kpop. All of it. (Well, some older stuff is OK.) They didn't care. They just wanted to know which groups I knew and what songs I'd heard. I at least managed to conduct most of the discussion in English.

On a less happy note, the Daekyo sixth grade books are terrible. I wanted to teach "Do you know about Hanbok?" about as much as they wanted to study it.

That sounds like a fun lesson. Kpop is such a good way to start discussions with students. Also, every textbook series has a curriculum-mandated 'Korean cultural introduction to English-speakers' lesson in it. They're all awful.

"Yesterday, we played jegi and ate bulgogi. How about you, Sejun?"

"I went to bulgama, to clean my gochu, and then went to jusiba. We had sul with the ajumma." (Alright, maybe that's not in the book)

I thought the "What do you think?" chapter would be great for a debate, and while my coteacher wasn't sure if they could do it I managed to talk her into it. The class went really well and the students seemed to have fun discussing our topic. They have a decent vocabulary but it's tough to get them to do anything other than parrot the book, so I was really pleased with how the lesson went.

Wednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)

Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?

That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...

Has happened to me 4 times since being here in Korea. All women I have known for 6months - a year. Have hung out in person a lot. And the moment I ask them on a date, I get blocked and never hear from them again. :/ What's wrong with just saying: "no thanks, but lets stay friends!"
Sorry to hear that, I know that feeling well. :/ Makes me feel really bad about myself when it happens to me. :/

I'm so timid about asking people out for that reason. A lot of people take any indication of interest as like "I've been pining after you for months and I can't take it if you turn me down!"

Like, no, sure I'll be bummed out if you turn me down but I like you as a person either way. I can handle rejection like an adult.

Having said that though, I totally understand why people, especially women, feel that way. There are an unfortunate number of dudes who take "let's just stay friends" as "this is my chance to slowly needle myself into her heart" not "alright, I'll be chill and get over it."

Fun related story: I went on a date with a guy once when I was maybe 19, but only one date. I avoided talking to him for a bit but eventually told him the (harsh) reason I wasn't into him: He smoked like a chimney and absolutely reeked of smoke. I smoke myself, even, but he smoked at least a pack or two a day and...well, if you've ever been around someone like that, you know the smell I'm talking about. We ran in similar circles and two years later we both went to the same friend's birthday celebration. He told me about how my rejection of him had helped him quit smoking and was very affectionate with me the whole night... despite the fact that I was there with my boyfriend who I'd been dating for a year and a half at that point. He even did that heart hand thing to me as I was leaving and tried to get me to stay longer. ._.;

Wednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)

Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?

That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...

Has happened to me 4 times since being here in Korea. All women I have known for 6months - a year. Have hung out in person a lot. And the moment I ask them on a date, I get blocked and never hear from them again. :/ What's wrong with just saying: "no thanks, but lets stay friends!"
Sorry to hear that, I know that feeling well. :/ Makes me feel really bad about myself when it happens to me. :/

Well at least its not just the dudes... I gave him every opportunity to be honest either way. Its really easy to just be like "nah". Cuz at least I get an idea of whats going on. And I've got people being like "you pushed him", but nah he could have just told me. Maybe there was a communication mishap but yeah. Sorry to hear about your experience too.

Wednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)

Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?

That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...

Has happened to me 4 times since being here in Korea. All women I have known for 6months - a year. Have hung out in person a lot. And the moment I ask them on a date, I get blocked and never hear from them again. :/ What's wrong with just saying: "no thanks, but lets stay friends!"
Sorry to hear that, I know that feeling well. :/ Makes me feel really bad about myself when it happens to me. :/

Well at least its not just the dudes... I gave him every opportunity to be honest either way. Its really easy to just be like "nah". Cuz at least I get an idea of whats going on. And I've got people being like "you pushed him", but nah he could have just told me. Maybe there was a communication mishap but yeah. Sorry to hear about your experience too.

I'm sorry to hear that I have noticed, though, that Korean guys seem to be unable to be honest about relationships when it comes to bad news. My ex broke up with me about a year ago via kakao... We'd been together for a few years so that pissed me off to put it mildly.

I had a friend in college who very briefly (like, maybe a week?) dated a Korean international student. Her friends pressured her into it, but ultimately she decided she definitely wasn't interested and broke it off.

In my opinion, the dude way overreacted--he was apparently so "heartbroken" and upset that her friends were afraid he was going to commit suicide. She had a falling out with those friends because they ended up taking the guy's side (he was being super emotional about it and she's not the type to openly display her emotions. She's far from heartless, but it was also hardly a week and she wasn't that into the guy).

So maybe those women who block/drop instead of making friends are afraid of that kind of reaction and just disappear? Or it might be simpler and they just think it's too awkward (not excusing the rudeness of it, though there are cases of crazy persons who can not accept "no" for an answer so maybe they fear that too).

They might also just think it's not possible to just be friends if one side has expressed interest. They might also just be immature.

Wednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)

Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?

That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...

Has happened to me 4 times since being here in Korea. All women I have known for 6months - a year. Have hung out in person a lot. And the moment I ask them on a date, I get blocked and never hear from them again. :/ What's wrong with just saying: "no thanks, but lets stay friends!"
Sorry to hear that, I know that feeling well. :/ Makes me feel really bad about myself when it happens to me. :/

I'm so timid about asking people out for that reason. A lot of people take any indication of interest as like "I've been pining after you for months and I can't take it if you turn me down!"

Like, no, sure I'll be bummed out if you turn me down but I like you as a person either way. I can handle rejection like an adult.

Having said that though, I totally understand why people, especially women, feel that way. There are an unfortunate number of dudes who take "let's just stay friends" as "this is my chance to slowly needle myself into her heart" not "alright, I'll be chill and get over it."

Fun related story: I went on a date with a guy once when I was maybe 19, but only one date. I avoided talking to him for a bit but eventually told him the (harsh) reason I wasn't into him: He smoked like a chimney and absolutely reeked of smoke. I smoke myself, even, but he smoked at least a pack or two a day and...well, if you've ever been around someone like that, you know the smell I'm talking about. We ran in similar circles and two years later we both went to the same friend's birthday celebration. He told me about how my rejection of him had helped him quit smoking and was very affectionate with me the whole night... despite the fact that I was there with my boyfriend who I'd been dating for a year and a half at that point. He even did that heart hand thing to me as I was leaving and tried to get me to stay longer. ._.;

I understand being timid about it. I'm actually too scared to ask girls out back in NZD now, due to terrible experiences with rejection. I've asked girls out for dinner and have: been spit on, publicly ridiculed (like you think you are good enough for me?! - type thing, but a little worse, and got people around to chime in), one girl even got a male friend of hers, to beat the crap out of me for asking her out to dinner. This is why I've never even been on a date before. :/ I'm still terrified of rejection, but being away from NZ has helped me with it - dunno why either. haha.

I can understand that. Personally, if I were rejected in a polite way, I'd just go back to how things were before I asked, maybe a bit of distance at first to get over the rejection though. I think some guys think "She doesn't know me well enough to know if she would want to date me or not." If it was some random you didn't really know, I can understand wanting to cut them out, but with a person you have been friends with for awhile.. A polite rejection and going back to being friends should be fine. Usually if the guy, in this scenario, doesn't really talk with you anymore, he was probably only looking to date in the first place.

Why would he try that if he knew you were taken? O.o
I can understand making a change based on that rejection. One US girl I used to like, she also told me she liked me, there was a huge distance though, but we'd video chat on skype on a daily basis. She was really pretty, and gave me the motivation to lose weight. It's been 4 - 5 years since then, I've lost 20KG, and am still trying to lose another 10 - 15KG.
However, if I ran into her, I'd probably thank her for the motivation and have a chat. I wouldn't try to ask her out or anything, esp if she had a boyfriend.

It's cool that you got him to quit smoking though!

Wednesday is language exchange day and my fave part of the work week! :)

Not to be all creepy and prying, but what happened with the wedding your date-friend asked you to?

That's a story for the ranting thread but I shall tell. Was good for a while. Had a few dates and thought it was going well. We live on opposite sides of the country and I was going to Seoul a lot. I have pretty bad anxiety about new people I'm dating so on date...4? I asked him if this was going anywhere or if it was just a casual thing (fine with either just wanted to get a feel for what I was getting myself into). He told me he wasn't ready to have a relationship just yet but wed talk about it again in a few weeks(which I was cool with). He then stopped speaking to me (still follows me on insta and on my fb..) After introducing me to his friends and such too...anyway. Haven't spoken to him in about a week or so...:( Pretty sure its done...

Has happened to me 4 times since being here in Korea. All women I have known for 6months - a year. Have hung out in person a lot. And the moment I ask them on a date, I get blocked and never hear from them again. :/ What's wrong with just saying: "no thanks, but lets stay friends!"
Sorry to hear that, I know that feeling well. :/ Makes me feel really bad about myself when it happens to me. :/

Well at least its not just the dudes... I gave him every opportunity to be honest either way. Its really easy to just be like "nah". Cuz at least I get an idea of whats going on. And I've got people being like "you pushed him", but nah he could have just told me. Maybe there was a communication mishap but yeah. Sorry to hear about your experience too.

I'm sorry to hear that I have noticed, though, that Korean guys seem to be unable to be honest about relationships when it comes to bad news. My ex broke up with me about a year ago via kakao... We'd been together for a few years so that pissed me off to put it mildly.

Woah. A few years and he couldn't even do it proper? That woulda made me just so incredibly upset.

@yirj17 I had a friend that dated a Korean guy here and after two weeks asked her to move in with him cuz he loved her so much. Very opposite, but still waaaay emotional.

@Kayos: WTF. That's all horrid and clearly those females are not worth anyone's time (though I'm sorry you had to find out in such ridiculous ways). Geezus 

I understand being timid about it. I'm actually too scared to ask girls out back in NZD now, due to terrible experiences with rejection. I've asked girls out for dinner and have: been spit on, publicly ridiculed (like you think you are good enough for me?! - type thing, but a little worse, and got people around to chime in), one girl even got a male friend of hers, to beat the crap out of me for asking her out to dinner. This is why I've never even been on a date before. :/ I'm still terrified of rejection, but being away from NZ has helped me with it - dunno why either. haha.

Holy crap, that's horrifying. Is that sort of thing common in NZ? That really is awful, I'm sorry. I don't blame you for being timid about asking girls out.