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Getting married when school is in session?
« on: February 25, 2016, 09:14:01 am »
Has anyone gotten married and taken their accompanying 5 days of "special leave" at a time when school is in session, or is it understood that this time should be used the same as any other paid leave, to be taken only when school is out?

My contract says "Employee may take a paid special leave for a number of days as set forth below [5]...only with the express consent of Employer," which feels to me like, "this is in your contract, but it really hinges VP caprice." The way it's worded sounds like I wouldn't necessarily be entitled to the 5 days at all, even when school is out of session, should my Employer deny me "express consent"...


  • Dweebs1
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Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #1 on: February 25, 2016, 09:35:09 am »
My school didn't like it, but I got married a couple of weeks right after the semester started.


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Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #2 on: February 25, 2016, 09:44:39 am »
Ah yes, following this. As I'm getting married next year and was wondering the same thing!


Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #3 on: February 25, 2016, 09:48:40 am »
i got married during term time and managed to take my 5 days without a problem


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Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #4 on: February 25, 2016, 09:53:32 am »
I think they have to give you the time off but they may not be too happy if it's during the school year.  Maybe offer to have all the materials prepared for the classes you will miss.  I got married last year and had no problem getting the extra 5 days but i just had a civil wedding here in Korea so was able to do it during the vacaion. It didn't interfere with class time or camps.  All you can do is ask and if they refuse then speak to your coordinator at the MOE.


Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #5 on: February 25, 2016, 09:56:25 am »
I just got married a few weeks ago and tagged those 5 days on to the end of my given vacation time which was during school time (that wasteful few days when the kids come back after winter vacation and before spring break).  My co-t said that technically the principal didn't have to allow it before I asked him, but I gave plenty of notice and he okayed the time off without any issues.  I suppose like many things here, it depends on your relationship with the school and how fairly or unfairly they've treated you in the past.  They are legally obliged to grant the 5 days though so if asking doesn't give you the required results, I think you are in a good position to politely push the matter.


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Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #6 on: February 25, 2016, 10:05:08 am »
They can't stop you from taking the 5 days.   However, some sleazy principals might try to push the weekend counting as 2 of your 5 days.  Which of course they can't do.


Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #7 on: February 25, 2016, 10:12:24 am »
I also just got married here in Korea at the end of December. I missed about 3 days of school and the other two days were already school break time 31st and 1st. Since I had to travel to Seoul and get everything sorted out at the embassy, my school understood and allowed me to miss school. My co-teachers were very supportive and they covered my missed classes so it also depends on your relationship with them. Two other teachers got married a month before me and they took their 5 days during school time so it shouldn't be a problem. It does help to say you are going on a honeymoon if not they might just want to give you the one day to get married. I said we were spending the honeymoon in Seoul the rest of the days after the wedding.


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Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #8 on: February 25, 2016, 10:58:02 am »
Im pretty straight forward with my school about contract obligations.

I will be getting married this year, in a couple months, so I gave my handler the notice about 3 months in advanced.

I straight told them, the contract is 5 days, and will I be taking the 5 days during x time (the time we have planned our wedding.)

If they don't like it, well suck it.




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Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #9 on: February 25, 2016, 11:19:23 am »
you can get married whenever you want. they school absolutely cannot decide the date for you.

korean teachers get married during the semester all the time, and other teachers have to cover their classes.


Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #10 on: February 25, 2016, 12:23:31 pm »
I'm getting married at the end of April and haven't had any problems about getting the time off for my honeymoon.  I let my co-teacher know the date as soon as it was set and the time I was going to be off for my honeymoon and that was that. Are you marrying a Korean? If so, you'll have an F visa, so you can just say you'll quit if they are being dicks about giving you your time off.


Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #11 on: February 25, 2016, 12:30:03 pm »
I had no problems getting the time off at all.  I did mine in Oct. along with the holidays we get on the 3rd and the 9th, with my 5 days it was quite the mini vacation, which was great for showing the family around while they were here.


Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #12 on: February 25, 2016, 12:41:01 pm »
Thanks for all your responses. I'm glad to see most of you had no trouble getting the time you requested; that bodes well for me. I'd like to avoid adopting a "suck it" attitude, if possible, although my VP has not been entirely generous on vaguely worded contract issues in the past. Either way,I'll just have to lay my plans on the table and hope for the best~

And congrats to all of you on your recent or soon-to-be nuptials^^
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Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #13 on: February 25, 2016, 12:43:13 pm »
thanks for this post. i was wondering the same

unfortunately we have a new principal who hates life and hates everything, whose sole purpose in life seems to be making his fellow teachers/minions' lives hell.

i worry if i DO take time off, i won't have my contract renewed

things like this make living in korea ****** shit.

3 years without taking a single day off, only to fear getting sacked for using something that is clearly defined in my contract


Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #14 on: February 26, 2016, 09:50:00 am »
thanks for this post. i was wondering the same

unfortunately we have a new principal who hates life and hates everything, whose sole purpose in life seems to be making his fellow teachers/minions' lives hell.

i worry if i DO take time off, i won't have my contract renewed

things like this make living in korea ****** shit.

3 years without taking a single day off, only to fear getting sacked for using something that is clearly defined in my contract

Sounds rough. Maybe since her attitude is generalized and not specifically aimed at you, it'll pass without her taking much note.  Also, at my school it seems like the principal couldn't care less about the foreign staff, and most of the decision of whether to renew or not renew is based on (in my case) the district office and the head English teacher, informed by my co-teachers' impressions. Maybe you don't have to sweat it so much.  Good luck :undecided:


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Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #15 on: February 26, 2016, 11:34:08 am »
sigh, yes. the first thing he did when he came to the school was cancel the budget for english (our school was a specialised English school), sack both other native teachers (non-SMOE) and cancel the English after-school program

a korean teacher, who is heavily pregnant, called in sick the other week. she came to school looking like death, and said that the principal basically forced her to come in. it was the last week of term, and just showing movies anyway. sigh.

maybe i'll just have the wedding after a sign a new contract, but i don't know why i should arrange my life around something that i'm legally entitled to.

i'll test the waters by asking the korean teachers what they think about it on monday ;)


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Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #16 on: March 01, 2016, 06:02:48 pm »
Back in the day your boss could straight out veto your wedding date. You literally needed his approval. You had to approach him and kowtow to get his agreement to live your private life as you wished. Unbelievable.


Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #17 on: March 02, 2016, 09:04:43 am »
I'd agree that it will help if you have a good relationship with the VP and the school.  I informed my school that I was getting married on X date.... is that okay with you?... it was no problem.  (The date had been set and booked, so i have no idea what I would have done if they said no).  As far as I understand, you are entitled to it, and they can't say no, but it is a courtesy to give as much notice as possible.


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Re: Getting married when school is in session?
« Reply #18 on: March 02, 2016, 10:25:55 am »
I'd agree that it will help if you have a good relationship with the VP and the school.  I informed my school that I was getting married on X date.... is that okay with you?... it was no problem.  (The date had been set and booked, so i have no idea what I would have done if they said no).  As far as I understand, you are entitled to it, and they can't say no, but it is a courtesy to give as much notice as possible.

It's none of your principle's business. Period.