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  • amgoalng
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Buying wedding crap
« on: February 23, 2016, 12:06:28 pm »
My wife and I are visiting my parents back in the States.  Well, my mom wants to throw us a wedding reception.  That means we need to buy a bunch of cheap wedding crap for my friends and family I rarely ever talk.

What are some good wedding sites I can buy this stuff from?  If you guys have had to do this, what did your friends and relatives like?  Remember, the cheaper the better.  I don't want to spend too much on these people.


Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #1 on: February 23, 2016, 12:18:18 pm »
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That means we need to buy a bunch of cheap wedding crap for my friends and family I rarely ever talk.

Why? Is this an American tradition? Just curious.


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Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #2 on: February 23, 2016, 12:24:53 pm »
I don't know.  I don't know anything about weddings.  My wife and I did the most basic wedding you can do: pastor and government office with a friend.  The most expensive thing in my "wedding" was paying for our lunch.  My mom wants to do a big thing with gifts for people.  Instead of arguing with her, I will just look around, buy some stuff, and make her happy. 


Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #3 on: February 23, 2016, 12:28:43 pm »
It sounds like your mother should be the one buying this stuff, not you.
"Don't Panic"


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Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #4 on: February 23, 2016, 12:35:04 pm »
Well, from the way it will most likely go down is I buy it and my mom will give me money.  Also, she will let me use her spare car or drive my wife around while in The States...so, it's an even trade.


Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #5 on: February 23, 2016, 12:38:21 pm »
Sounds backwards.  If you are putting on a Wedding Reception (or your mum is) then your guests should be bringing you gifts.  You provide/pay for the venue, the food, decorations, perhaps a band/dj, cake, booze, but not gifts for your guests.  Or cash, they can give cash these days with a 'wedding wishing well' or something like that.  You don't give your guests anything but a fun evening.


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Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #6 on: February 23, 2016, 12:44:41 pm »
Meh.  At some weddings they do give some small gift bags.  It is like party favors.  I told my mom to keep it casual as well.  We will have the reception at a really nice park with hopefully Famous Dave's BBQ (which I know she will pay for...and plenty of her famous apple pie.)


Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #7 on: February 23, 2016, 01:05:09 pm »
true, i forgot about the 'wedding favours' takeaway show bag. 

Waste of time and money in my opinion.  People used to take home some left over wedding cake but now it's some novelty show bag with coasters featuring a photo of the happy couple para-gliding, or magnets, because that's what everyone wants, magnets.
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Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #8 on: February 23, 2016, 01:07:34 pm »
They'll come up with anything  to get people to spend more money on these events.

' Wedding favors'  :rolleyes:
« Last Edit: February 23, 2016, 02:05:14 pm by eggieguffer »


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Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #9 on: February 23, 2016, 01:15:08 pm »
My wife and I are visiting my parents back in the States.  Well, my mom wants to throw us a wedding reception.  That means we need to buy a bunch of cheap wedding crap for my friends and family I rarely ever talk.

What are some good wedding sites I can buy this stuff from?  If you guys have had to do this, what did your friends and relatives like?  Remember, the cheaper the better.  I don't want to spend too much on these people.
Here are so ideas:http: //www.buzzfeed.com/peggy/useful-wedding-favors-your-guests-will-actually-want#.lqdZGJzY9
No need to buy crap.
« Last Edit: February 23, 2016, 01:16:55 pm by Pecan »


Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #10 on: February 23, 2016, 02:21:58 pm »
No offense, but are you five? Put your foot down and say no to your mother, if that's what you need to do to be happy.

Have a nice, quiet party with some family and friends- close family and friends- and ask that anyone who wishes to give gifts just make a donation to the charity or organization of your choice. Done and dusted; it's not a child's birthday party and you don't need a gift bag.

My mother made similar entreaties and we satisfied her by having a twelve-person wedding (including the two of us!) and the invitees got a lovely meal and free drinks. It cost less than fifteen hundred pounds, and that included my dress AND the fancy hotel room for us the night. Everyone was happy, we had lots of money to spend on our honeymoon in Greece, and no one had to buy extraneous "crap" that just gets tossed, anyways.


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Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #11 on: February 24, 2016, 10:41:16 am »
When my mother in law insisted on having a party for me and my husband (after our wedding with 6 people at it), we resisted at first.  Then we told her that she could organise, pay for, and host a party and invite everyone that she wanted, and that we would come.   She was thrilled, it was fine.  We literally did nothing expect to agree on the date and arrive.  When she tried to ask us about what food we wanted, we just told her that it was HER party.

Don't stress about it, tell her it is her party, and let her do whatever she wants, and spend as much money as she wants to. 


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Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #12 on: February 24, 2016, 10:46:09 am »
When my mother in law insisted on having a party for me and my husband (after our wedding with 6 people at it), we resisted at first.  Then we told her that she could organise, pay for, and host a party and invite everyone that she wanted, and that we would come.   She was thrilled, it was fine.  We literally did nothing expect to agree on the date and arrive.  When she tried to ask us about what food we wanted, we just told her that it was HER party.

Don't stress about it, tell her it is her party, and let her do whatever she wants, and spend as much money as she wants to.

This.

I agree that wedding favors are sort of a throwaway these days, unless they're something actually useful/practical.  Tell your mom it's her choice.  Personally I'd just have a garden party with friends when the weather is warmer; no need for a formal reception when there's no formal wedding.


Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #13 on: February 24, 2016, 11:38:19 am »
I'm trying to plan a wedding and am finding myself questioning each and every convention and tradition of the modern wedding as put forward by the trillion dollar wedding industry:

Spend thousands of dollars to book a cheesy wedding hall or hotel convention hall for a couple hours? Why not have a no-reservation guerrilla-style wedding in a park.

Spend thousands more to feed hundreds of disinterested guests buffet sludge? Why not separately book a decent restaurant for after the ceremony that would provide a meal that's worth the price.

Hundreds of disinterested guests? Why not just invite the handful of people who have some stake in your relationship and who can add some sanctity to the ceremony by not checking their cell phones throughout the whole affair.

White wedding dress? Why not blue, purple, red... A dress that could be worn more than once...

Diamond rings? How about a stone that doesn't often appear with the modifier "blood".

Wedding favors? How about not...

And neither my girlfriend nor I are religious. Who do we get to officiate the wedding? do we need an official official?

Weddings are a set of traditions, but what to do if the traditions mean nothing to you, or don't apply. And if you get rid of the meaningless ones, what are you left with?

Is a marriage less meaningful, less durable, if you forgo those conventions. Or if it didn't cost 30,000 bucks?
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Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #14 on: February 24, 2016, 01:21:39 pm »
My wife and I are visiting my parents back in the States.  Well, my mom wants to throw us a wedding reception.  That means we need to buy a bunch of cheap wedding crap for my friends and family I rarely ever talk.

What are some good wedding sites I can buy this stuff from?  If you guys have had to do this, what did your friends and relatives like?  Remember, the cheaper the better.  I don't want to spend too much on these people.

Love how everyone is giving you life advice instead of answering your question  :rolleyes:

My wedding was on a tight budget but these sites were really helpful:
http://www.save-on-crafts.com/
http://www.afloral.com/Floral-Supplies
http://www.efavormart.com/

I wasn't sure if you meant decor or favors, but those sites should have both. Good luck and congrats!


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Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #15 on: February 24, 2016, 02:06:19 pm »
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Is a marriage less meaningful, less durable, if you forgo those conventions. Or if it didn't cost 30,000 bucks?


Actually, the opposite is true.  Studies show that the more money you spend on a wedding, the higher the likelyhood of divorce.


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Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #16 on: February 24, 2016, 03:09:43 pm »
I should clarify to make things clear to people. 

1.  My wife and I are extremely religious.  I won't say how, but trust me, we are.

To help people understand the reason my friends and family, who are religious, find it necessary for some ceremony is because you are pledging yourself to your spouse before God as your friends as witness to your union.  That is why the ceremony and vows you give are so important.  My wife and I framed our vows, put them in our bedroom, and occasionally read them to each other, to remember the vows we made before God.   


2.  I agree with people.  Do not get a big wedding.  I looked at a few websites for little party favors.  It scared the crap out of me.  There are things about etiquette, flowers, etc.  I couldn't believe it!  I thank God for my wife who didn't want to do that crap.  The most expensive thing about our wedding was the lunch we bought for our pastor, his wife, my wife's friend, my wife, and I.  Our rings might have cost close to the amount we spent on lunch.  I didn't wear a suit to my wedding because I didn't want to!  It was my wedding!  I was going to wear what I wanted!  Which ended up being a white T-shirt, jeans, and my favorite pair of shoes. 

One reason I asked people is because I got so scared I wanted what people found to work really well.  It was so fancy it made me really nervous and scared.

3.  I read this after I got married.  I was glad we went the simple route.  http://www.pbs.org/newshour/updates/spending-less-wedding-save-marriage/

4.  My mom said she would be willing to buy the favors.  I found that out this morning.

5.  I think the reason my mom wants it is to give people a reminder of my wife and I.  It sounds weird, but if my mom is willing to pay for the crap, I can at least look and point out what I want like she asked me to. 

6.  dlp1988, Thanks!  You're awesome!


Re: Buying wedding crap
« Reply #17 on: February 24, 2016, 03:27:53 pm »
Sorry for my attempted hijacking of your topic with my own concerns. :-[  I'm glad you were able to have your wedding on your own terms and I wish you luck on finding favorable party favors~