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  • OnNut81
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    • April 01, 2011, 03:01:41 pm
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Re: ex partners
« Reply #40 on: August 20, 2021, 02:49:11 pm »
are you telling me i'm not a ****** legend?

Oh, I think you're a legend all right.  I'm just saying it could drive away some new posters to be surrounded by so many legends and Lords. 


  • OnNut81
  • The Legend

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    • April 01, 2011, 03:01:41 pm
    • Anyang
Re: ex partners
« Reply #41 on: August 20, 2021, 02:50:18 pm »
The more uninteresting posts on here, the more interesting readers/posters will leave the forums.

Low quality posts cause high quality posters to leave.

An example of low quality posting would be saying stuff thatís petty and inane which lacks insight.

Best way to be interesting is to say something relevant and useful thatís of universal appeal to the readers.

Talk about ideas. Imagine you are writing something of publishable quality. Like a book with broad reach. Timeless philosophy.

You left out the example of a high quality post while criticizing his low quality post which is completely apropos of this site nowadays.

This site should be renamed dejavu.org.  It's the same posts being post being thrown up by the same posters for the consumption of the same dwindling group of active participants.  I've said it before, and it generally gets dismissed out of hand (which I can live with), but this site needs an overhaul.  Get rid of the Recent Activity forum.  The more interesting slow burn threads that might eventually draw more people in slide off in favour of the bickering threads.  Replace it and the 36 different sub forums no one can be bothered with and just put four or five forums up.  That way someone can avoid nineteen different American politics threads without them blowing all other topics off the page into the nether world where no one goes.

And can anyone make a case for these post counts and the idiotic titles that go with them?  They bestow a false sense of authority and keep a new poster with only three posts reluctant to jump in.  We need new blood, otherwise it's going to continue to be the same small group of us reposting sh*t we've all seen dozens of times.  Li and Hangook seem convinced they keep reaching a wider audience with their respective Stossel videos and China Job recruitment.  You're just telling the same people the same thing guys.  I, of course, am above all reproach.

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  • Waygook Lord

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    • March 02, 2015, 03:41:14 pm
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Re: ex partners
« Reply #42 on: August 20, 2021, 02:53:43 pm »
Oh, I think you're a legend all right.  I'm just saying it could drive away some new posters to be surrounded by so many legends and Lords. 

Let's peon EVERYONE


Re: ex partners
« Reply #43 on: August 20, 2021, 03:00:17 pm »
are you telling me i'm not a ****** legend?

Aw, you're gloobtastic. :)


  • OnNut81
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    • Anyang
Re: ex partners
« Reply #44 on: August 20, 2021, 03:04:41 pm »
Let's peon EVERYONE

Was that an R. Kelly song?  Back to the music tangent again, I see. 


  • tylerthegloob
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Re: ex partners
« Reply #45 on: August 20, 2021, 03:07:12 pm »
more gg more skill


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Re: ex partners
« Reply #46 on: August 20, 2021, 03:10:08 pm »


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    • October 03, 2011, 01:50:58 pm
Re: ex partners
« Reply #47 on: August 20, 2021, 03:12:47 pm »
There are way more people reading than posting- people who are searching information about teaching in Korea. Do you think they enjoy one liner puns? No, and I donít either. I feel like the people doing them do them to amuse themself and to show off to others (incidentally, strangers) how clever they are. Useful? Not really. Single sentence posts are usually really bad, especially those without capitalization or punctuation. Itís annoying to read stuff devoid of insight. I feel dumber for having read it.


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Re: ex partners
« Reply #48 on: August 20, 2021, 03:15:50 pm »
especially those without capitalization or punctuation. Itís annoying to read stuff devoid of insight. I feel dumber for having read it.
rude. i find your posts truly edifying L I, especially the one's that are just links to youtube or blackpink videos with comments like "K-Pop is really popping off! Hip hip hooray!" or whatever
more gg more skill


  • OnNut81
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    • April 01, 2011, 03:01:41 pm
    • Anyang
Re: ex partners
« Reply #49 on: August 20, 2021, 03:19:39 pm »
There are way more people reading than posting- people who are searching information about teaching in Korea. Do you think they enjoy one liner puns? No, and I donít either. I feel like the people doing them do them to amuse themself and to show off to others (incidentally, strangers) how clever they are. Useful? Not really. Single sentence posts are usually really bad, especially those without capitalization or punctuation. Itís annoying to read stuff devoid of insight. I feel dumber for having read it.

yeah I know when I research a job I read threads about exes  that's where you get the info you really need what are some examples of posts you've made that help out the job hunters in Korea   

BTW, I absolutely post to amuse myself.  This is not the job discussion forum.  There's one of those for that if you were looking.  Just to be clear the last two posts you've made criticizing useless posts have ironically been useless in their own right. 

Now, can we get back to exes and urine related song play, please?


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  • Waygook Lord

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Re: ex partners
« Reply #50 on: August 20, 2021, 03:31:06 pm »
Is it safe to assume that L I isn't universally loved and revered? And maybe has a bit of a saviour complex?

I don't care about US Politics so I didn't go in the Trump Megathread.

It's a bit of banter, mate. Relax. We're not here collectively to publish a psych paper on the effects of exes on our behaviour.

Chill.


Re: ex partners
« Reply #51 on: August 20, 2021, 03:35:59 pm »
You seem to have these preconceptions for relationships between men and women that are childish and not based on practical world experiences. 

Wrong, they are not based on YOUR "practical world experiences".

It's like something out of a comic book or B movie when the ancient mystic appears to the young man in a peyote fueled vision and tells him the rules for being a man. 
You seem to have these defined roles for you and your wife from the outset, instead of an organically and naturally evolving relationship.

Again, not your experiences. My wife and I share the same Religious beliefs. We entered marriage knowing exactly what our roles and responsibilities would be.
What you call "organically and naturally evolving", I call unnecessary drama. All successful marriages share eventually figure out the same truths
through years of drama and trial and error. I don't have that problem, we had the blueprint from day 1 and we do our best to follow it. Ultimately, my success rate is going to be
a hell of a lot higher than your "wing it" approach.

It's a bitch of a man that goes to others about problems he's having with his wife?  Sounds like rules that were drawn up by the Macho Man's Club, made up exclusively of dudes that are single.  It can be very healthy, therapeutic and enlightening to discuss concerns with other people that also have experience.  Sometimes, it can lead to understanding something is just a bump in the road and lead to better resolutions. 

Find me a wife or husband that appreciates you badmouthing them and discussing your personal marriage problems to your friends, family or ex.... I'll wait.

If you can't talk to your wife about a problem then... you have a bigger problem.

As far as maintaining friendships with previous partners, a real man is capable of judging things on a case by case basis.  Much of what we got from a previous partner we get from our new partner and vice versa so the interest in meeting up evaporates.  I used to still meet up with the girl I dated for three years of university.  When she ended up working at the same law firm.... we had lunch... she touched my arm... we giggled like we did back when we were kids

Please spare me. If you're going to make a point make the damn point because I'm really not interested in your convoluted stories of past relationships.

You sound as if you ran into your ex and had a coffee you would have to go home and explain that "Wife, I have broken the rules of Man.  I saw old wife today and we caught up.  I have wronged you.  No, you do not need to react as the rules of the Elders specify my punishment.  I will do the dishes for a week and watch Friends every night at nine.  I will also not tell you my sprint times for a period not exceeding seven days.  Sorry, Wife. "

If I ran into my ex I would exchange pleasantries, wish them well and NOT have a coffee thus keeping the hypothetical conversation I'd have with my wife hypothetical. 

It just sounds like you're a guy with limited experience in long term relationships telling everyone here how they should behave based on your current set up.  For me, your viewpoint lacks authority. But if it works for you and your culture, awesome!

Your long term relationships didn't work, mine did. I think I'm better at this than you.

There's no other term to use, but liberal, Western white people from dozens of broken relationships giving advice to other white people going through another relationship is like the blind leading the blind. Perhaps considering or learning just one thing from Muslim, Traditional Asian, Orthodox Jewish or Indian people's approach to marriage and relationships might be worth considering... That is, if you can set aside your ego and entertain the idea that marriage has been done by billions of people before you over thousands of years and that these cultures might might
have a better idea of how to approach marriage than you.


  • OnNut81
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    • April 01, 2011, 03:01:41 pm
    • Anyang
Re: ex partners
« Reply #52 on: August 20, 2021, 03:54:03 pm »
Wrong, they are not based on YOUR "practical world experiences".

Again, not your experiences. My wife and I share the same Religious beliefs. We entered marriage knowing exactly what our roles and responsibilities would be.
What you call "organically and naturally evolving", I call unnecessary drama. All successful marriages share eventually figure out the same truths
through years of drama and trial and error. I don't have that problem, we had the blueprint from day 1 and we do our best to follow it. Ultimately, my success rate is going to be
a hell of a lot higher than your "wing it" approach.

Find me a wife or husband that appreciates you badmouthing them and discussing your personal marriage problems to your friends, family or ex.... I'll wait.

If you can't talk to your wife about a problem then... you have a bigger problem.

Please spare me. If you're going to make a point make the damn point because I'm really not interested in your convoluted stories of past relationships.

If I ran into my ex I would exchange pleasantries, wish them well and NOT have a coffee thus keeping the hypothetical conversation I'd have with my wife hypothetical. 

Your long term relationships didn't work, mine did. I think I'm better at this than you.

There's no other term to use, but liberal, Western white people from dozens of broken relationships giving advice to other white people going through another relationship is like the blind leading the blind. Perhaps considering or learning just one thing from Muslim, Traditional Asian, Orthodox Jewish or Indian people's approach to marriage and relationships might be worth considering... That is, if you can set aside your ego and entertain the idea that marriage has been done by billions of people before you over thousands of years and that these cultures might might
have a better idea of how to approach marriage than you.

Alright, well at least we cleared the air about you pretending not to be looking down at other's approaches.  I didn't mean to wound you that much. Run it off, man.  I'm in a long term relationship now and I am happy I've been in all the relationships I've been in.  You do understand that claiming you're better at relationships than me is completely subjective and arrogant, while at the same time you try to and chastise me for thinking my way is the right way.  That's called being a hypocrite.

And as for the "white people" thing...by your own admission you had never seen a car turn right on a red before you came to South Korea and were astounded at this.  That tells me that you clearly had not travelled to any of the western "white" countries that you seem to be an authority on.  Tell me how you arrived at these conclusions about "white" relationships in the western world.  Go ahead, I'll wait.  (Not really, I'm going to the gym.  Would you like me to let you know my rep and set count on Monday?) 

As for meeting up with my ex, if you have a legitimate counter point why did you change my words?  I wrote " I used to still meet up with the girl I dated for three years of university.  When she ended up working at the same law firm I was at after we broke up, we used to go out to lunch regularly in a group and had lots of laughs."  Why did you change it in your rebuttal to " we had lunch... she touched my arm... we giggled like we did back when we were kids?"  The fact you felt the need to take the time and effort to misquote me tells me you're interested in reading EVERY word I wrote.  Clearly, the fact that I pointed out you have a lack of serious relationship experience, and as a result are not the person to be criticizing others or offering advice has touched a nerve.   At work we were able to function enjoyably in a group of employees.  If you're unable to control yourself around an ex, you definitely shouldn't be around them.  That requires maturity you obviously don't yet have. 


Re: ex partners
« Reply #53 on: August 20, 2021, 05:01:51 pm »

And as for the "white people" thing...by your own admission you had never seen a car turn right on a red before you came to South Korea and were astounded at this.  That tells me that you clearly had not travelled to any of the western "white" countries that you seem to be an authority on.  Tell me how you arrived at these conclusions about "white" relationships in the western world.  Go ahead, I'll wait.  (Not really, I'm going to the gym.  Would you like me to let you know my rep and set count on Monday?) 


The entire commonwealth drives on the left, meaning we don't turn right on a red. This includes Australia, New Zealand, South Africa and the UK. White enough for you, you complete chop!
The title of the thread was WTF moments, not "Things I never knew".

I grew up in South Africa, where, believe it or not, white people are a thing and, on a cultural level, is generally a Western nation. I'm sure Dmart or any other person with Asian, Middle-Eastern or
even African heritage will affirm that, on a general level, there's a certain level of cluelessness about non-Western cultures that many white people tend to have.

I didn't bother to read, let alone respond, to that long drivel you wrote about your ex because it doesn't apply to anything. It's your anecdotal accounts, I wrote about my general beliefs, not
personal stories because: a.) it's anecdotal and can't be applied to the situation of others and b.) it's none of anyone's business, even on an anonymous forum.

Sometimes sh*t happens because you put yourself in that position. I don't socialise (learn to read, socialise is a coffee with your ex during your free time, not a meeting with her at work to discuss last week's reports) with my ex because it's completely unnecessary
and unlike you, I think of more than what I want to do. If your wife says she's cool with you meeting with your ex for lunch then clearly there's more than one thing you're completely clueless about. 


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  • Waygook Lord

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Re: ex partners
« Reply #54 on: August 20, 2021, 05:05:52 pm »
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Re: ex partners
« Reply #55 on: August 20, 2021, 05:07:52 pm »
Li and Hangook seem convinced they keep reaching a wider audience with their respective Stossel videos and China Job recruitment.  You're just telling the same people the same thing guys.

Li's posts remind me of 'Foreverparadise' and his rinse and repeat, but with better sentence structure and more videos.


Re: ex partners
« Reply #56 on: August 20, 2021, 05:12:05 pm »
The entire commonwealth drives on the left, meaning we don't turn right on a red. This includes Australia, New Zealand, South Africa and the UK. White enough for you, you complete chop! 

Sorry Bro! NZ's pretty brown. 8) 8)


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Re: ex partners
« Reply #57 on: August 20, 2021, 05:14:12 pm »
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Re: ex partners
« Reply #58 on: August 20, 2021, 05:31:37 pm »
I'm not sure Muslims have a great view on marriage. Not convinced any Western woman would trade places.

I really do not understand why Aristocrat is so vehemently opposed to keeping in touch with an ex and can't seem to understand that friends bitch about their spouses with friends. I find it odd that he only complains about his wife, to his wife. That's weird.


Re: ex partners
« Reply #59 on: August 20, 2021, 06:09:45 pm »
I'm not sure Muslims have a great view on marriage. Not convinced any Western woman would trade places.

I really do not understand why Aristocrat is so vehemently opposed to keeping in touch with an ex and can't seem to understand that friends bitch about their spouses with friends. I find it odd that he only complains about his wife, to his wife. That's weird.

Muslims don't have a great view on marriage??? You're saying we don't like marriage? I'm confused.
My wife's a western woman, so are all her married Muslim female friends and every other Muslim woman born in SA.

I've explained my views on why I don't believe in maintaining a social relationship with an ex. If you can't at least understand the reasoning then you're pretty closed-minded.
I disagree with your views, but being a Westerner I completely understand your reasoning.

I'm well aware of the popular narrative of complaining about your wife to your friends. While many Muslims still do it, Islamically, you're supposed to keep your trap shut.

My wife and I sit down and talk about our problems, weird, right?