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Title: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: kevingrabb on July 07, 2022, 10:57:11 am
A guy attacked me in the park at night for not wearing a mask. This is/was LEGAL, there is no mask mandate of you can maintain 2m of space. This was the law ALL through the pandemic. It was my friend and I looking for cats and those three guys drinking soju about 35M away.

His two friends left and he came over to us and told me to put my mask on. I told him to **** off. We're outdoors in a giant park at 1AM, you were well far off drinking and now you wanna come over here and start shit. I told him no and to fukk off.

He took a swing and I fought back. And I fight dirty. Why? Because I don't start fights. He came up for NO reason starting shit and when I didn't play ball he assaulted me so I beat the snot out of him (not endangering him or actually leaving any lasting shit, let me be clear). I'm very, very happy I had a witness and that he was drunk. He even said when he hobbled off, "****, I'm drunk, I can't go to the cops."

I left with nothing, he had a black eye and some sore testicles. (Again, it's dirty, but how about not attacking random people for nothing?)

I took no pleasure in that fight. I cried afterwards when I got home and the adrenaline wore off. But we need stronger protections for people who are assaulted for no reason. I'm LUCKY nothing happened to me. But it could have and that is REALLY absurd to me. I get assaulted for being alone in a park by some drunk guy for not wearing a mask when he wasn't wearing one 4 mins prior? **** that. Why should I get in trouble? And why, if I'm being assaulted, should I just cover my face and hope for the best?
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: hangook77 on July 07, 2022, 11:00:23 am
Didn't you already post this or someone else did?  I remember reading this same story a while back verbatim....
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: kevingrabb on July 07, 2022, 11:07:18 am
Was this last night/recently?
Last summer. My only fight of my life. Why are people so terrible? Just leave people alone.

To be fair, I'm Mr. Mask on the train, in a store. I'll shame people like no one's business. But outside? When you didn't have a mask on 5 mins ago?

남성기 먹어.
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: Augustiner on July 07, 2022, 11:34:36 am
That's messed up.  Glad you didn't get hurt, got some shots in and cops weren't involved. 

It does bring to mind what my dear departed grandmother always used to tell me, though. "If you're going to go out looking for cats, make sure to be in before the witching hour."  Words to live by. 
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: kevingrabb on July 07, 2022, 11:49:40 am
It was near your house, actually. Just SW of the station near STATION NAME학교.
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: Chinguetti on July 07, 2022, 12:10:24 pm
Yeah, I've been attacked several times, one time while I was with another Korean (idiot didn't realize she was Korean, he'd assumed that she was just another foreigner because why would a Korean spend time with a foreigner, lol?).

Obviously doesn't count the times that I've been touched or grabbed in general, talking about the instances where it either started off violent or escalated into violence.

Every single one of those times, I was out minding my own business and doing nothing wrong. All of the perps were men, most of them were at various levels of drunk, but a couple of them were sober. I never involved the police because every single one of my experiences with the police here have been negative. They don't take anything that I have to say seriously and generally get pissed off if I "bother" them.

I was never seriously injured, thankfully, and always gave back worse than I took because most of these fuckers really don't expect a woman to know how to defend herself. Only ever did enough to get away, though.
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: hangook77 on July 07, 2022, 12:20:14 pm
Yeah, I've been attacked several times, one time while I was with another Korean (idiot didn't realize she was Korean, he'd assumed that she was just another foreigner because why would a Korean spend time with a foreigner, lol?).

Obviously doesn't count the times that I've been touched or grabbed in general, talking about the instances where it either started off violent or escalated into violence.

Every single one of those times, I was out minding my own business and doing nothing wrong. All of the perps were men, most of them were at various levels of drunk, but a couple of them were sober. I never involved the police because every single one of my experiences with the police here have been negative. They don't take anything that I have to say seriously and generally get pissed off if I "bother" them.

I was never seriously injured, thankfully, and always gave back worse than I took because most of these fuckers really don't expect a woman to know how to defend herself. Only ever did enough to get away, though.

In Korea you definitely can't be passive sadly with anything.  When Koreans including police try to avoid doing work, sometimes you have to yell and raise your voice and get pushy.  They seem to thing politeness and restraint is a sign of weakness and then try to walk all over you or avoid you.  You should yell at them if they are not taking you seriously and call them racist to their face asking why they are ignoring you?  I have called a couple of folks racist before and it shocked them. Sometimes you do have to go scorched earth here and show you aren't a pushover. I really don't like being that way, but sometimes in Korea it seems the only way to get anything done.  Otherwise folks will avoid "work" period. 

I don't know anything about your situation though but I have found that with many Koreans here.  Lazy, avoid work, etc.  That said, many folks here have also been very kind, helpful, and gone above and beyond as well.  Anyways, as a female, if you take take Jiu JitSu and Kickboxing (Muay Thai) but especially Jiu Jitsu (if the real deal) and ask for specific help with women's self defense, that can help down the road with creepy pervs getting too close. 
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: Mr.DeMartino on July 07, 2022, 12:22:41 pm
Glad you made it out unscathed. When it comes to drunk idiots and jerks, they aren't owed fair fights. You're there to finish the fight as efficiently and as effectively as possible, not engage in some duel or whatever. Save fair fights for the ring or amongst (hopefully still, after) friends.

I've mentioned it before (probably back in the ether of Dave's) but my first year here I got attacked by some drunk, possibly semi-homeless ajosshi while playing basketball who thought I was Japanese. His punches were so flimsy, I didn't even hit back.

Second time was at a club, some drunk SE Asian tourist guy in HD was so drunk he was half fighting half the bar, but was moving through everyone so fast that those he swung at didn't even have time to react before he'd already become unreachable because of the people. I saw him coming but before I could get one of my friends out of the way, he hit her (didn't hurt her). I slammed his ass to the ground and put him in a rear-naked choke (hooks in- He would have been done fast, not that this was some great accomplishment- he was gone) but the bouncers came and broke it up. At first they blamed me but the stream of people all pointing at him started to give them pause, which was all interrupted by him fighting the bouncers outside the bar (mind you this is in POURING rain), including him trying to swing some kind of GS sign hanger at the bouncers. After getting pushed to the ground a half dozen times, his friends somehow find him and are about to grab him when he takes off. I chill and have a smoke outside and me and my friends all wait for the rain to calm down to catch a cab or make the first subway (it was LATE- near sunrise). His friends are left stranded there trying to figure out what is going on when 5~10 minutes later, the dude comes prancing back in the rain, high as a kite, and wanting to dance and party. At which point his gf/sister starts to fight him and beat the crap out of him in the street, in the downpour, while 1/4 of the bar looks on in utter bewilderment.

The final time, I got pummeled trying to break up a fight between my friend's BF and some dude and his chick that just brewed up out of nowhere and consisted of me inbetween absorbing fists, them both disengaging and running off with the girls and me left bewildered in the street and having a random street soju with some Finnish and some Eritrean guy trying to figure out what happened, then us sharing subway beers on the first train out.
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: Mr.DeMartino on July 07, 2022, 12:27:55 pm
Anyways, as a female, if you take take Jiu JitSu and Kickboxing (Muay Thai) but especially Jiu Jitsu (if the real deal) and ask for specific help with women's self defense, that can help down the road with creepy pervs getting too close.
Muay Thai is just going to escalate things, require a whole nother class and potentially play into any advantages the attacker has.

In the end, the wisdom of no longer being in one's youth says-
1) Avoid dangerous situations in the first place
2) Summon help (Don't be above calling the staff and then the police. Someone calls you a coward for calling the staff or cops? Who gives a shit? The staff and cops are there to protect people like me from people like you.
3) Run/Let them "win" (You're right dude, the Yankees DO suck).

All of these are far preferable to getting in a physical altercation. In the end, it just isn't worth it. If you want to feel tough and not a pushover, join a boxing gym where they have people and safety equipment.
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: hangook77 on July 07, 2022, 12:33:05 pm
Glad you made it out unscathed. When it comes to drunk idiots and jerks, they aren't owed fair fights. You're there to finish the fight as efficiently and as effectively as possible, not engage in some duel or whatever. Save fair fights for the ring or amongst (hopefully still, after) friends.

I've mentioned it before (probably back in the ether of Dave's) but my first year here I got attacked by some drunk, possibly semi-homeless ajosshi while playing basketball who thought I was Japanese. His punches were so flimsy, I didn't even hit back.

Second time was at a club, some drunk SE Asian tourist guy in HD was so drunk he was half fighting half the bar, but was moving through everyone so fast that those he swung at didn't even have time to react before he'd already become unreachable because of the people. I saw him coming but before I could get one of my friends out of the way, he hit her (didn't hurt her). I slammed his ass to the ground and put him in a rear-naked choke (hooks in- He would have been done fast, not that this was some great accomplishment- he was gone) but the bouncers came and broke it up. At first they blamed me but the stream of people all pointing at him started to give them pause, which was all interrupted by him fighting the bouncers outside the bar (mind you this is in POURING rain), including him trying to swing some kind of GS sign hanger at the bouncers. After getting pushed to the ground a half dozen times, his friends somehow find him and are about to grab him when he takes off. I chill and have a smoke outside and me and my friends all wait for the rain to calm down to catch a cab or make the first subway (it was LATE- near sunrise). His friends are left stranded there trying to figure out what is going on when 5~10 minutes later, the dude comes prancing back in the rain, high as a kite, and wanting to dance and party. At which point his gf/sister starts to fight him and beat the crap out of him in the street, in the downpour, while 1/4 of the bar looks on in utter bewilderment.

The final time, I got pummeled trying to break up a fight between my friend's BF and some dude and his chick that just brewed up out of nowhere and consisted of me inbetween absorbing fists, them both disengaging and running off with the girls and me left bewildered in the street and having a random street soju with some Finnish and some Eritrean guy trying to figure out what happened, then us sharing subway beers on the first train out.

But fighting in Korea is dangerous due to the fact the cops will charge the foreigner and often not the Korean especially if you defend yourself.  That's why you have to be careful with fighting back.  Plenty of racist ajosshis deserved a good punch to the head years ago, but the race favoritism held you back but barely.  Sometimes, you took a chance no witnesses or cameras, but even then small town everyone back in the day would know who you are and their word would always be believed over yours.  Also depends on how much you are willing to argue and push back in some cases.  Some older Koreans would yell and get emotional while the foreigner talks quietly and rationally.  Big mistake as it was perceived as weakness.  Back in the day, it was whoever screamed the loudest and made the biggest scene (most emotional) who seemed to get their own way in any kind of legal dispute.  Though much of that has reduced itself in recent years. 
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: hangook77 on July 07, 2022, 12:36:46 pm
Muay Thai is just going to escalate things, require a whole nother class and potentially play into any advantages the attacker has.

In the end, the wisdom of no longer being in one's youth says-
1) Avoid dangerous situations in the first place
2) Summon help (Don't be above calling the staff and then the police. Someone calls you a coward for calling the staff or cops? Who gives a shit? The staff and cops are there to protect people like me from people like you.
3) Run/Let them "win" (You're right dude, the Yankees DO suck).

All of these are far preferable to getting in a physical altercation. In the end, it just isn't worth it. If you want to feel tough and not a pushover, join a boxing gym where they have people and safety equipment.

I don't think Chinguetti was out looking for a fight.  As a female she needs more and not less.  I mostly emphasized Jui Jitsu for holds and grappling especially someone stronger and larger.  But a good kick to a couple of sensitive areas may allow a girl enough distraction to get the hell out of there.  Obviously, the trick is to quickly know him off balance then get the hell out of there.  Don't stay and fight to the death. 
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: Mr.DeMartino on July 07, 2022, 12:40:28 pm
But fighting in Korea is dangerous due to the fact the cops will charge the foreigner and often not the Korean especially if you defend yourself.  That's why you have to be careful with fighting back.  Plenty of racist ajosshis deserved a good punch to the head years ago, but the race favoritism held you back but barely.   
The vast majority of cases I've seen or heard from friends where they were legit attacked out of the blue, the Korean cops were very sympathetic and handled things fine. The vast majority of cases where people I know claimed racism began with the phrase "So we were out drinking..." and when you really press them for details you either hear something outright that puts them in the wrong at some point OR you get a bunch of indicators that there is more to the story than they're letting on (and often if you talk to the non-arrested friend, you get a completely different version of the story). There are exceptions, but there is often a strong Rashomon effect.
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: hangook77 on July 07, 2022, 12:43:44 pm
The vast majority of cases I've seen or heard from friends where they were legit attacked out of the blue, the Korean cops were very sympathetic and handled things fine. The vast majority of cases where people I know claimed racism began with the phrase "So we were out drinking..." and when you really press them for details you either hear something outright that puts them in the wrong at some point OR you get a bunch of indicators that there is more to the story than they're letting on (and often if you talk to the non-arrested friend, you get a completely different version of the story). There are exceptions, but there is often a strong Rashomon effect.

No, some folks were attacked and they fought back and defended themselves and they were charged and had to pay blood money.  It's also why some ajosshis felt a sense of entitlement to walk up to Korean women on a date with a western guy back years ago and call them "whores" and "race traitors", etc.  (I don't think this happens too much anymore though I am sure there may still be the odd case.) 
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: kevingrabb on July 07, 2022, 12:46:57 pm
Don't forget how you and Orleans like to play with each others....

I'll f**k a guy. So what? I'll F**K EM ALL.

Oh, it's "other" btw. Or other's.

Let's see. In one day you've said
"hussle"
"10 hours a week AND 2 hours a day"
"others"

Ladies and Gentlemen, this man is teaching your child English. 
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: SPQR on July 07, 2022, 12:48:01 pm
But fighting in Korea is dangerous due to the fact the cops will charge the foreigner and often not the Korean especially if you defend yourself.  That's why you have to be careful with fighting back.  Plenty of racist ajosshis deserved a good punch to the head years ago, but the race favoritism held you back but barely.  Sometimes, you took a chance no witnesses or cameras, but even then small town everyone back in the day would know who you are and their word would always be believed over yours.  Also depends on how much you are willing to argue and push back in some cases.  Some older Koreans would yell and get emotional while the foreigner talks quietly and rationally.  Big mistake as it was perceived as weakness.  Back in the day, it was whoever screamed the loudest and made the biggest scene (most emotional) who seemed to get their own way in any kind of legal dispute.  Though much of that has reduced itself in recent years. 

This. Racism is ALIVE and WELL in Korea and cops are fantastically racist.

You can get into real legal and financial trouble here for assault.

Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: Mr.DeMartino on July 07, 2022, 12:48:33 pm
As a female she needs more and not less.
The utility of learning multiple martial arts for one situation vs. other areas that could help you out throughout life is dubious at best. The good thing about BJJ/Judo/etc. is you can get a baseline of semi-decent competency and muscle memory and natural instinct reasonably quickly and easily. It also doesn't require you to be in top physical condition or a physical specimen to be able to use it to buy some time. Muay Thai requires a lot more and also requires good physical condition.

It would likely be much more useful to just play soccer and stay in shape and make friends than spend on Muay Thai if all you're looking for is a kick to the groin. This doesn't just apply to women, but people in general. The vast majority of people don't need to take anything except a basic grappling/self-defense class.

This is the same mentality as doomsday preppers. You're overfocusing on one extreme situation and solutions to that vs. much more likely situations and more efficient solutions.
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: kevingrabb on July 07, 2022, 12:50:02 pm
You can get into real legal and financial trouble here for assault.

*self-defence
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: SPQR on July 07, 2022, 12:51:52 pm
*self-defence

Good luck with that.
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: Mr.DeMartino on July 07, 2022, 12:52:47 pm
No, some folks were attacked and they fought back and defended themselves and they were charged and had to pay blood money.  It's also why some ajosshis felt a sense of entitlement to walk up to Korean women on a date with a western guy back years ago and call them "whores" and "race traitors", etc.  (I don't think this happens too much anymore though I am sure there may still be the odd case.)
This is what you know from your undoubtedly large circle of friends and clearly active social life? Or is this something you read on the internet that began with the phrase "So we were out in Hongdae when..."

Also, the entitlement to shit talk someone in an interracial relationship is a lot bigger than Korean police racism. Interracial couples all over the world get it. What, you think as an Asian dating white and black women it was just "Good for you sir! Thumbs up!" Not shit talking or weird ass jokes/comments (even from people who clearly weren't trying to be aggressive, just uncomfortable and unfamiliar).
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: thunderlips on July 07, 2022, 01:04:18 pm
Luckily I never have actually had to use violence here or anywhere the last 25+ years. I think it helps being 6ft and a solid 200 pounds, but Iím generally overly polite and aware of my surroundings. Iíve been challenged to fight once here by a pretty big korean dude, for being with a korean woman, but I just politely declined. He accused me of being a tough guy while we were at his business (no alcohol involved for me).

Now having said that Iíve made peace with the fact Iím willing to sit in a prison cell for 10-20 years to defend my family. Hopefully I never have to face that reality. Even self defense here is no defense.


Also I believe it was in Daegu a few years back young dudes would accuse a random foreigner of assaulting them to get blood money, the police were only too happy to oblige.
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: Mr.DeMartino on July 07, 2022, 01:06:06 pm
This. Racism is ALIVE and WELL in Korea and cops are fantastically racist.
You know, if you're someone who has to limit themselves to 14 units, needs something to "take the edge off", and gets frustrated and angry over a simple internet sign-up procedure, the problem might be with your emotional control, impulsive behavior and anger management and perhaps isn't racism. I mean, that profile doesn't exactly scream "reliable narrator",

I mean, if this was true, we'd hear stories like "So my totally calm friend who doesn't drink was sitting in a coffee shop at 2PM, when some Koreans just attacked him out of the blue while he was working on his laptop. The cops came and blamed him for it and now he has to pay blood money. Similar to what happened to him last year when he was shopping in Shinsegae. And my other friends who were in a Kyobo book store."
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: hangook77 on July 07, 2022, 01:19:54 pm
The utility of learning multiple martial arts for one situation vs. other areas that could help you out throughout life is dubious at best. The good thing about BJJ/Judo/etc. is you can get a baseline of semi-decent competency and muscle memory and natural instinct reasonably quickly and easily. It also doesn't require you to be in top physical condition or a physical specimen to be able to use it to buy some time. Muay Thai requires a lot more and also requires good physical condition.

It would likely be much more useful to just play soccer and stay in shape and make friends than spend on Muay Thai if all you're looking for is a kick to the groin. This doesn't just apply to women, but people in general. The vast majority of people don't need to take anything except a basic grappling/self-defense class.

This is the same mentality as doomsday preppers. You're overfocusing on one extreme situation and solutions to that vs. much more likely situations and more efficient solutions.

I specifically meant more about Jiu Jitsu.  But some academies in Korea have both Jiu Jitsui and Muay Thai.  So, focus more on Jiu Jitsu but do a little bit of Muay Thai.  Obviously never use these for offence.  But you must get to a high level to get good with these.  Even then remember no rules on the street.  Avoid as much as possible but if no other way out, then use just enough to get away. 
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: Augustiner on July 07, 2022, 01:47:00 pm
It was near your house, actually. Just SW of the station near STATION NAME학교.

That's what happens when they pave over somewhere like the Baduk Park.  Those crazies get disbursed into the neighbourhood.  Although, if this happened a year ago it was still functioning then. It's the bad side of the tracks in that neck of the woods.  I know.  Most of my middle school students came from STATION NAME elementary school.
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: kevingrabb on July 07, 2022, 02:27:29 pm
That's what happens when they pave over somewhere like the Baduk Park.  Those crazies get disbursed into the neighbourhood.  Although, if this happened a year ago it was still functioning then. It's the bad side of the tracks in that neck of the woods.  I know.  Most of my middle school students came from STATION NAME elementary school.

Wrong side is right. hahaha That little square between the station and the nice apartments adjacent the market is such a throwback. No doubt it'll be gone in 20 years........

And yeah, just went on NaverMap Streetview!! What did they do to the baduk park?? What's going in there to replace it?
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: Augustiner on July 07, 2022, 02:32:26 pm
Wrong side is right. hahaha That little square between the station and the nice apartments adjacent the market is such a throwback. No doubt it'll be gone in 20 years........

And yeah, just went on NaverMap Streetview!! What did they do to the baduk park?? What's going in there to replace it?

Looks like a parking lot, but it won't make much difference. 
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: gogators! on July 08, 2022, 01:50:46 am
I'll f**k a guy. So what? I'll F**K EM ALL.

Oh, it's "other" btw. Or other's.

Let's see. In one day you've said
"hussle"
"10 hours a week AND 2 hours a day"
"others"

Ladies and Gentlemen, this man is teaching your child English. 
Maybe French is his first language. He is from Canada.
Title: Re: Have you ever been assaulted here?
Post by: KoreaBoo on July 08, 2022, 03:28:38 am
Yes.
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: Adel on July 08, 2022, 08:26:14 am
In other news, I assaulted some air fried chips last night.
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: Kyndo on July 08, 2022, 08:29:27 am
In other news, I assaulted some air fried chips last night.
I hope it was the "a salt and batter" kind.  :smiley:
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: kevingrabb on July 08, 2022, 09:11:11 am
(https://i.makeagif.com/media/11-08-2019/TvtCcC.gif)
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: Adel on July 08, 2022, 09:27:56 am
In other news, I assaulted some air fried chips last night.

Just a bit of a touch up really but folks tend to exaggerate these days.

(https://c.tenor.com/7dmjFYFJZVwAAAAM/french-fries-fries.gif)
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: StillInKorea on July 08, 2022, 11:39:17 am
It's definitely possible to stay cool.

Just today, I was driving along the south coast when I dipped into a small town to grab some kimbap. Taking a shortcut through a residential area, I came across two Korean men who looked to be in their 50s or 60s. They were smoking and spitting and making that "아씨" sound repeatedly. Suddenly, they started saying something about a foreigner neighbour, "waygookin" this and "waygookin" that. They didn't sound happy. They got increasingly animated until one of them decided to run a long gash down the side of a pristine-looking Korando with the metal part of his lighter. I wanted to go up and confront them or at least get a photo to turn over to the police, but I remembered seeing Van's comment when I woke up this morning and decided it was better not to get involved. I sure would be pissed if that were my car!
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: VanIslander on July 08, 2022, 03:25:38 pm
1.MODS are not on this site all the time.
2. PM one of the moderators if there is something needing moderating, for example,
calling an individual poster a peodophile on social media is unacceptable and a ban-worthy offense, especially if repeated to being harassment.
3. If you have a problem with moderating, state so via PM.
4. Try to stick to the topic and not derail a discussion. There is a Ramblings thread designed for whatever.
5. A lot of detailed topic-focussed discussion has been on this thread since yesterday. Keep it up.
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: Renma on July 08, 2022, 03:30:01 pm
5. A lot of detailed topic-focussed discussion has been on this thread since yesterday. Keep it up.

Thanks Ref  :rolleyes:
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: Augustiner on July 08, 2022, 03:35:02 pm
1.MODS are not on this site all the time.


They stuck you with the weekend, mornings, late night and afternoon shifts, eh? 
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: Adel on July 08, 2022, 04:13:25 pm
It's thankless task. A bit of respect for the mods guys. Some of us ain't easy  to moderate.
No need to go all Karen.
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: Mr C on July 10, 2022, 09:14:37 am
Dude, it's just shit talk on a forum designed to get a response from you. I very much doubt anyone took it seriously.  Surely you'd be aware of this wouldn't you?
Moderating and the deleting the comments with a warning should suffice.
That said, I can understand your sensitivity given your tendency to divulge so much private info about yourself. Perhaps that's an issue to consider more carefully for yourself moving forward when provoking guys like him.

This is called victim-blaming and is beneath you.
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: Adel on July 10, 2022, 11:26:34 am
This is called victim-blaming and is beneath you.
I'm sorry Mr C but didn't I also suggest the errant poster in question be moderated? That said, if one is intolerant of heat, one might avoid kitchens or at least be a little cautious when attempting to flambť.
 
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: WhenInRome... on July 11, 2022, 11:09:47 am
Level 3 moderator wow. Does that mean you are 3 times stricter than BanIslander? 3 times more rambling perhaps? I'm excited you have returned with such insights for us!

Based on his/her/they/them/its response, I'm guessing three times more stoopid than Davey.

Or three times more of a cucky wucky than Taeyeon.
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: Renma on July 11, 2022, 11:50:58 am
All these dead mods showing their faces recently. Did someone send out an email asking for help against the meany mosquitoes and muppets?
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: Billy Herrington on July 11, 2022, 01:09:58 pm
How does one make 15,000 posts and not know the forum TOS?  :huh: That's just weird.
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: kevingrabb on July 11, 2022, 01:30:41 pm
WTF? Marti is gone??????????????? The real one????????????????
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: Augustiner on July 11, 2022, 01:49:59 pm
I'm wrong! The real Marti is gone. What a shock. Marti was an institution  :shocked:

I'm really curious what he could've said.  He's been getting away with murder on here for years. 
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: Kyndo on July 11, 2022, 01:54:25 pm
What offensive thing could Marti possibly have said that didn't get him booted that he hasn't said before?  Did he say something derogatory about Van's cats? 

Us lowly Lvl 1s don't have the ability to ban or delete accounts.

I think the powers-that-be noticed that certain posters were taking up more than their fair share of bandwidth and performed emergency triage.
 Or maybe it might even have been at Mr.DeMartino's request -- maybe they're gunning for an image reboot!
Title: Re: Assaulted in 2021
Post by: VanIslander on July 12, 2022, 07:52:11 pm
Us mods can recommend a poster be banned and link posts as evidence.

95% of the time a PM warning and/or board directions to behave is enough (but 5% of the time... ESPECIALLY regarding respecting other posters and not repeatedly directing personal insults that become harassment: bullying is out; a safe environment for discussion is in).

If you feel personally offended repeatedly, choose one of the several MODs to PM (surely there's one you can trust), and they will try to ensure discussion is above the belt and neither offensive nor harassing.

CO2 was assaulted physically. The discussion of it has seemed to run its course here. Let's equally look out for those assaulted emotionally/mentally, especially repeatedly after those perpetrating it have been told of it.