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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #760 on: September 05, 2016, 02:13:22 PM »
Not a rant or a vent, but its not about sheets either.

I feel like all my friends are leaving. I guess I have hit that point where people go. In the last year, 7 of my friends have left, and by next semester, 4 more will leave. I'm starting to get really bummed out.

It sucks to watch your friends go, but it's an opportunity to make new friends. I don't know about you, but I didn't come all the way to Korea to hang with the same people for the rest of my life.

It does become exhausting after a few years though, constantly saying goodbye to people you've made real bonds with. I personally like to have few, really close friends, than loads of people I don't know so well. I've always been like that though.

Anyways I feel you Halo3, my closest friend here had to suddenly leave and I'm feeling a bit lost now. Guess it's time to go out and find new people...again.

Me too. This Monday my final friend will leave, Then i'll only have my BF.

I think it's really easy for people to say "Just make new friends" but it's not like that for some people, I live in a small city, Only a couple of new EPIK people came and I can't even find out who they are!  :cry:

Most of my friends left after 1 year. All of the others left after year 2. Now I play video games. Socializing is over rated.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #761 on: September 05, 2016, 02:13:59 PM »
Video games are gonna be my friends this next year. They'll never leave me.  :laugh: :laugh:

I feel the same way about Netflix......apart from that one time it did leave me because they actually cracked down on VPNs  :cry: :cry: but I forgive and forget and we are happy together now.

When all else fails, I sleep. :P

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« Reply #762 on: September 05, 2016, 02:23:10 PM »
as someone who's been in korea a while, i've found that every time a new semester starts it's good to make an effort to meet the new people, even if you already have an established friend group. organize a dinner, or post in your local facebook group "hey, a bunch of us are going out for drinks tonight, if any of the new arrivals would like to meet up we'll be starting at Place X at 8:00pm" or whatever.

not only is it good for potentially making new friends, but it can help the newbies settle in and make friends too. some people in korea are extremely cliquey and make no effort for anyone outside of their clique. then most of that clique leaves and they're left with no friends.

doing sports or activities can also with meeting people. Rock climbing, Ultimate Frisbee, sewing and knitting, book clubs, whatever. just get out there and do some stuff and you'll meet some peeps.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #763 on: September 05, 2016, 03:13:05 PM »
This is my fifth year here, and I've given up on making new friends. I had my friends from orientation at first, but most of them are long gone. My second year here I had to stop drinking alcohol and eating meat for health reasons, and those restrictions kinda wreck most social activities around here.

I did try to meet people through my interest in music for a while. i joined a few bands (some with expats, some with locals), played a few gigs...  but it always came down to the same thing: Once practice/the gig was over, they either want straight home, or went out for drinks and/or samgyeopsal. Over a year of playing in bands and playing shows, and I came out of it with a whopping zero new friends.

I don't blame anyone else, of course. People have their own lives, and I'm not a particularly interesting fellow, so it makes sense. I'm out of here at the end of this school year anyway, so I can go fail to make friends somewhere else.  :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Oh well. As someone mentioned above, I'll always have video games.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #764 on: September 05, 2016, 03:19:47 PM »
I was doing some clubs, but then I had knee and shoulder surgery (separately) so a lot of my preferred activities are out.

Video games are gonna be my friends this next year. They'll never leave me.  :laugh: :laugh:

I feel the same way about Netflix......apart from that one time it did leave me because they actually cracked down on VPNs  :cry: :cry: but I forgive and forget and we are happy together now.
Haha, I was in the same bumpy relationship. It smoothed out a bit and we worked it out.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #765 on: September 05, 2016, 03:31:41 PM »
This is my fifth year here, and I've given up on making new friends. I had my friends from orientation at first, but most of them are long gone.


I feel like the Office of Education could do more about this...I mean maybe not organize anything official but at least unoffically organize things so people can meet up. There must be a fair few lonely NETS out there (I'm not saying you are lonely, I just mean in general)

 I know it's not their jobs...but it's frustrating when they have everyone's contact details and it wouldn't be too hard.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #766 on: September 05, 2016, 04:08:12 PM »
Thanks for chiming in gatevt.

Some posters are quite odd in thinking that side commentary on one's tone or tenor is ever needed.  It's harassment, pure and simple.

I was addressing the OP with the advice given.  Others are sure to have different advice and experiences to share.  Share it and move on.

If you disagree with what someone posted, disagree with it.  There is no need to make a personal attack.

I procrastinate and kill time posting here.  I don't deliberately go out of my way to be nasty, rude, or insensitive to anyone, but I'm not going to beat around the bush, either.  We aren't friends.

It's frank, terse, and abrupt. 

If a user doesn't like my manner, lump it.  When you see my name, ignore my posts.  Easy enough.

People are allowed to criticise your behaviour without it falling under some ridiculously low bar of 'harassment.'

My problem with you Pecan is that you seem to lurk this thread in which people often share their saddest and most frustrating moments - or you seem magnetically drawn to other threads in which similar themes are evident - and your default response is to tell the other person that it's their own fault. That it's somehow a deep, fundamental weakness in their character that has resulted in whatever struggle they're currently confronting. Or that whatever problem they're facing is a result of a failure to adequately prepare or a lack of emotional intelligence.

Thread about a woman being raped? Pecan is on hand to say she shouldn't have drank so much.
Thread about the tragic death of an expat? Here's Pecan to say if only they'd taken out insurance their parents wouldn't have to pay so much to ship the body home.
Post about depression or loneliness? Thank goodness Pecan is here to tell us we should have thought about that before we came here and maybe it'd be better if we just gave up and went home.

You seem to have cast yourself in a role of "straight talker" but that isn't what you are at all. Straight talk is helpful. Straight talk cuts through the crap and tells people what they need to hear. Rather than being a direct source of "real talk" you're nothing but a source of judgment, condescension and totally redundant "what everyone else already knew but had the tact not to say" commentary on how everything is someone's own fault.

Rather than taking the attitude of "if you don't like it ignore my posts - I'm just giving REAL TALK" maybe take a minute to consider whether these criticisms are legitimate (and we both know you get this ALL THE TIME from many different people) and try to enact some self-control so that you can be a regular forum user like everyone else and not the deeply unpleasant jerk who has to pre-warn everybody else that the best way to interact with him is to just ignore him altogether.

The last I'll say on the issue.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #767 on: September 05, 2016, 04:16:17 PM »
Jennipennypie, you are so right.

We did a "buddy system" in my province and a mentor/mentee program in my previous district here in Seoul.

Sadly, the head teachers within each district aren't doing much of anything with regards to advocacy for the majority of the foreign staff in Seoul.

It costs nothing to shoot out an email list, to meet and greet the newcomers within one's district, or to provide them with a "buddy" to help with the transition to Korea.

I have had more than my fair share of words with some of these "head" foreigners, but none were interested in adopting what we established elsewhere.

Why?

Time.

The vast majority have families and were only interested in advancing their personal agenda.

It's sad, really.

The one and only "vote" we truly have is with our feet.

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« Reply #768 on: September 05, 2016, 04:28:42 PM »
Somebody needs to make DKLK my personal mod or something.

Imagine being stalked by someone like this in the "real world"...I'd at least be able to get a restraining order.

Keyboard warrior, give it a rest, already.

Everyone knows you criticize the things in others that you see within yourself...so you've got some serious problems.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #769 on: September 05, 2016, 05:14:42 PM »
Somebody needs to make DKLK my personal mod or something.

Imagine being stalked by someone like this in the "real world"...I'd at least be able to get a restraining order.

Keyboard warrior, give it a rest, already.

Everyone knows you criticize the things in others that you see within yourself...so you've got some serious problems.

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« Reply #770 on: September 05, 2016, 07:02:26 PM »
Somebody needs to make DKLK my personal mod or something.

Imagine being stalked by someone like this in the "real world"...I'd at least be able to get a restraining order.

Keyboard warrior, give it a rest, already.

Everyone knows you criticize the things in others that you see within yourself...so you've got some serious problems.
When everyone is telling you that you are in the wrong, as you are told in multiple threads about multiple topics by multiple people, maybe it's time to look at yourself Pecan.
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #771 on: September 05, 2016, 07:19:57 PM »
Thanks, zola.

I'm sure you think you are being helpful with your sweeping generalizations and mischaracterizations, but I don't know you, nor am I looking for advice from someone who is diluted into thinking I would actually take seriously what some keyboard stroker has to say about me "looking" at myself ;)

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #772 on: September 05, 2016, 07:31:37 PM »
Diluted? I think you mean deluded. Come on mate, you are an English teacher. Get it right.
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #773 on: September 05, 2016, 07:33:24 PM »
Diluted? I think you mean deluded. Come on mate, you are an English teacher. Get it right.
;)

Now, I've got an editor, too.

Nice one.

My people use "diluted" as in drunk/wasted, which would work, but I meant the other.
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #774 on: September 05, 2016, 09:34:56 PM »
Somebody needs to make DKLK my personal mod or something.

Imagine being stalked by someone like this in the "real world"...I'd at least be able to get a restraining order.

Keyboard warrior, give it a rest, already.

Everyone knows you criticize the things in others that you see within yourself...so you've got some serious problems.

Why do you want me to make him your own personal mod, Pecan?

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #775 on: September 06, 2016, 07:48:19 AM »
If the school would stop spending so much money on those ridiculously huge banners that they only use once and instead buy something useful, like a printer that doesn't jam every 5 pages, that would be great.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #776 on: September 06, 2016, 08:52:03 AM »
This is my fifth year here, and I've given up on making new friends. I had my friends from orientation at first, but most of them are long gone.


I feel like the Office of Education could do more about this...I mean maybe not organize anything official but at least unoffically organize things so people can meet up. There must be a fair few lonely NETS out there (I'm not saying you are lonely, I just mean in general)

 I know it's not their jobs...but it's frustrating when they have everyone's contact details and it wouldn't be too hard.
I've also just hit my 5 year mark and although there are a few people who I've known from the beginning, most of them are Korean. People often wonder why I make more Korean friends than foreign friends, but I'm in KOREA and they don't leave or go far.  :undecided:

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« Reply #777 on: September 06, 2016, 09:55:42 AM »
I don't like humans in general so I don't really mind not knowing anyone or not having any friends. I did once really meet some people I thought I could be friends with, but I got burned there in an awful, awful way, when the one person I really did get along with, tried desperately hard to ruin my relationship for their own gain. Without any shame, lied, and manipulated, and took advantage of my trust, kindness. I guess just your usual run of the mill sh**ty human.

I discovered that all this had gone on, and confronted the person, who then proceeded to spread a rather nasty story about me through our little town. Which I have never bothered to react to or discuss with anyone, because, I'm not much into drama. So no one is really interested in being friends with me either. This person truly did a number on me with all that they did, I am almost 40 and have never experienced such shameless nastiness and coldness from a person, it has left quite the scar.

This is the first time I have ever really spoken about it.

So now it is just me, my partner,  series, xbox and farmville. People come and go, and I will probably be around for a couple more years, but I think I will just stay in my little private bubble, where it is warm and safe.

Because #sh**tyhumans

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #778 on: September 06, 2016, 10:47:29 AM »
I don't like humans in general so I don't really mind not knowing anyone or not having any friends. I did once really meet some people I thought I could be friends with, but I got burned there in an awful, awful way, when the one person I really did get along with, tried desperately hard to ruin my relationship for their own gain. Without any shame, lied, and manipulated, and took advantage of my trust, kindness. I guess just your usual run of the mill sh**ty human.

I discovered that all this had gone on, and confronted the person, who then proceeded to spread a rather nasty story about me through our little town. Which I have never bothered to react to or discuss with anyone, because, I'm not much into drama. So no one is really interested in being friends with me either. This person truly did a number on me with all that they did, I am almost 40 and have never experienced such shameless nastiness and coldness from a person, it has left quite the scar.

This is the first time I have ever really spoken about it.

So now it is just me, my partner,  series, xbox and farmville. People come and go, and I will probably be around for a couple more years, but I think I will just stay in my little private bubble, where it is warm and safe.

Because #sh**tyhumans

Yeah, humans are shitty. I agree completely. Actually, you and I sound very similar. We should not hang out sometime.

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« Reply #779 on: September 06, 2016, 11:14:50 AM »
I don't like humans in general so I don't really mind not knowing anyone or not having any friends. I did once really meet some people I thought I could be friends with, but I got burned there in an awful, awful way, when the one person I really did get along with, tried desperately hard to ruin my relationship for their own gain. Without any shame, lied, and manipulated, and took advantage of my trust, kindness. I guess just your usual run of the mill sh**ty human.

I discovered that all this had gone on, and confronted the person, who then proceeded to spread a rather nasty story about me through our little town. Which I have never bothered to react to or discuss with anyone, because, I'm not much into drama. So no one is really interested in being friends with me either. This person truly did a number on me with all that they did, I am almost 40 and have never experienced such shameless nastiness and coldness from a person, it has left quite the scar.

This is the first time I have ever really spoken about it.

So now it is just me, my partner,  series, xbox and farmville. People come and go, and I will probably be around for a couple more years, but I think I will just stay in my little private bubble, where it is warm and safe.

Because #sh**tyhumans

Yeah, humans are shitty. I agree completely. Actually, you and I sound very similar. We should not hang out sometime.

Oh yeah, defs. Don't call any time!!