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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #760 on: September 05, 2016, 01:20:12 PM »
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any comments that target other users will be deleted, as will hateful remarks, and repeat offenders will quickly be deleted and banned.

Perhaps the mods are busy, but I'm not sure why the above user is allowed to repeatedly stock and harass.

To be clear, I have ZERO interest in others opinions or side-commentary on my posts (not sure where anyone would get the idea that I ever gave a toss).

If you don't have any constructive advice for the OP, move along.

Actually yeah with the new year starting up, a lot of us are very busy. We don't have time to read every post in every thread (this is actually true most of the time), so if you have a legitimate concern with a user or post, then report it. It helps us to help you. Thanks!

As a bit of an aside:

The biggest or most common mistake people make on this site is responding to a post that offends them, then getting into a heated argument where both they themselves as well as the person they originally replied to get warned or worse. Instead of replying in the heat of the moment, take a bit to think about what you want to tell that person. If what you want to say breaks the ToS, then simply report them instead (Even if what you want to say doesn't break the ToS, still report them). If the post warrants action, we'll take care of it as soon as possible.

I was going to end it after the "thanks" up there, but figured this rant/information in a pretty active thread might help new and older users alike.
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #761 on: September 05, 2016, 01:21:52 PM »
I've complained about Mr Baek restaurants before (In summary, he takes over neighbourhoods with his bazillion restos and puts his god damn face on everything. That said, I don't hate him personally fwiw).

I hate the guy with a passion.  Bar the fact his punchable face is literally everywhere.  He is also on that f*cking cooking program with that chubby, sweaty guy, Kim Ji Min (who looks like she never eats) and other f*cking celebrities literally watching people flattening cutlets with a hammer to the sound of gasping and '맛있다' and '어!먹고싶어'.  Visiting ramyeon restaurants and commenting on a f*cking bowl of MSG-loaded instant noodle dish with some chopped chives and an egg on top!!!  Wow!!  Hey, presentation!!! Those chives are the healthiest part of that food!

Also he is the chairman or whatever you'd call it of Yesan High School.  My friend works there.  At the start of the year, teachers were warned to not have scandals or do another illegal because it would affect his brand.  W*nker!

After nearly ten years here, I still don't understand Koreans' obsession with any kind of eatable food.    :cry: Reflected perfectly in their terrible terrible cooking shows.  Hey, look, someone is cooking intestines!!! 맛있다!!  There is nothing nice about watching intestines cook, or watching a squid dying in a pan of red water. 

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #762 on: September 05, 2016, 01:43:42 PM »
Not a rant or a vent, but its not about sheets either.

I feel like all my friends are leaving. I guess I have hit that point where people go. In the last year, 7 of my friends have left, and by next semester, 4 more will leave. I'm starting to get really bummed out.

It sucks to watch your friends go, but it's an opportunity to make new friends. I don't know about you, but I didn't come all the way to Korea to hang with the same people for the rest of my life.

It does become exhausting after a few years though, constantly saying goodbye to people you've made real bonds with. I personally like to have few, really close friends, than loads of people I don't know so well. I've always been like that though.

Anyways I feel you Halo3, my closest friend here had to suddenly leave and I'm feeling a bit lost now. Guess it's time to go out and find new people...again.

Me too. This Monday my final friend will leave, Then i'll only have my BF.

I think it's really easy for people to say "Just make new friends" but it's not like that for some people, I live in a small city, Only a couple of new EPIK people came and I can't even find out who they are!  :cry:

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #763 on: September 05, 2016, 01:51:08 PM »
Not a rant or a vent, but its not about sheets either.

I feel like all my friends are leaving. I guess I have hit that point where people go. In the last year, 7 of my friends have left, and by next semester, 4 more will leave. I'm starting to get really bummed out.

It sucks to watch your friends go, but it's an opportunity to make new friends. I don't know about you, but I didn't come all the way to Korea to hang with the same people for the rest of my life.

It does become exhausting after a few years though, constantly saying goodbye to people you've made real bonds with. I personally like to have few, really close friends, than loads of people I don't know so well. I've always been like that though.

Anyways I feel you Halo3, my closest friend here had to suddenly leave and I'm feeling a bit lost now. Guess it's time to go out and find new people...again.

Me too. This Monday my final friend will leave, Then i'll only have my BF.

I think it's really easy for people to say "Just make new friends" but it's not like that for some people, I live in a small city, Only a couple of new EPIK people came and I can't even find out who they are!  :cry:

Yeh, I don't have any friends anymore.  They all left me.  I don't blame them.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #764 on: September 05, 2016, 01:59:03 PM »
Video games are gonna be my friends this next year. They'll never leave me.  :laugh: :laugh:

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #765 on: September 05, 2016, 02:10:50 PM »
Thanks for chiming in gatevt.

Some posters are quite odd in thinking that side commentary on one's tone or tenor is ever needed.  It's harassment, pure and simple.

I was addressing the OP with the advice given.  Others are sure to have different advice and experiences to share.  Share it and move on.

If you disagree with what someone posted, disagree with it.  There is no need to make a personal attack.

I procrastinate and kill time posting here.  I don't deliberately go out of my way to be nasty, rude, or insensitive to anyone, but I'm not going to beat around the bush, either.  We aren't friends.

It's frank, terse, and abrupt. 

If a user doesn't like my manner, lump it.  When you see my name, ignore my posts.  Easy enough.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #766 on: September 05, 2016, 02:12:00 PM »
Video games are gonna be my friends this next year. They'll never leave me.  :laugh: :laugh:

I feel the same way about Netflix......apart from that one time it did leave me because they actually cracked down on VPNs  :cry: :cry: but I forgive and forget and we are happy together now.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #767 on: September 05, 2016, 02:13:22 PM »
Not a rant or a vent, but its not about sheets either.

I feel like all my friends are leaving. I guess I have hit that point where people go. In the last year, 7 of my friends have left, and by next semester, 4 more will leave. I'm starting to get really bummed out.

It sucks to watch your friends go, but it's an opportunity to make new friends. I don't know about you, but I didn't come all the way to Korea to hang with the same people for the rest of my life.

It does become exhausting after a few years though, constantly saying goodbye to people you've made real bonds with. I personally like to have few, really close friends, than loads of people I don't know so well. I've always been like that though.

Anyways I feel you Halo3, my closest friend here had to suddenly leave and I'm feeling a bit lost now. Guess it's time to go out and find new people...again.

Me too. This Monday my final friend will leave, Then i'll only have my BF.

I think it's really easy for people to say "Just make new friends" but it's not like that for some people, I live in a small city, Only a couple of new EPIK people came and I can't even find out who they are!  :cry:

Most of my friends left after 1 year. All of the others left after year 2. Now I play video games. Socializing is over rated.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #768 on: September 05, 2016, 02:13:59 PM »
Video games are gonna be my friends this next year. They'll never leave me.  :laugh: :laugh:

I feel the same way about Netflix......apart from that one time it did leave me because they actually cracked down on VPNs  :cry: :cry: but I forgive and forget and we are happy together now.

When all else fails, I sleep. :P

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #769 on: September 05, 2016, 02:23:10 PM »
as someone who's been in korea a while, i've found that every time a new semester starts it's good to make an effort to meet the new people, even if you already have an established friend group. organize a dinner, or post in your local facebook group "hey, a bunch of us are going out for drinks tonight, if any of the new arrivals would like to meet up we'll be starting at Place X at 8:00pm" or whatever.

not only is it good for potentially making new friends, but it can help the newbies settle in and make friends too. some people in korea are extremely cliquey and make no effort for anyone outside of their clique. then most of that clique leaves and they're left with no friends.

doing sports or activities can also with meeting people. Rock climbing, Ultimate Frisbee, sewing and knitting, book clubs, whatever. just get out there and do some stuff and you'll meet some peeps.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #770 on: September 05, 2016, 03:13:05 PM »
This is my fifth year here, and I've given up on making new friends. I had my friends from orientation at first, but most of them are long gone. My second year here I had to stop drinking alcohol and eating meat for health reasons, and those restrictions kinda wreck most social activities around here.

I did try to meet people through my interest in music for a while. i joined a few bands (some with expats, some with locals), played a few gigs...  but it always came down to the same thing: Once practice/the gig was over, they either want straight home, or went out for drinks and/or samgyeopsal. Over a year of playing in bands and playing shows, and I came out of it with a whopping zero new friends.

I don't blame anyone else, of course. People have their own lives, and I'm not a particularly interesting fellow, so it makes sense. I'm out of here at the end of this school year anyway, so I can go fail to make friends somewhere else.  :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Oh well. As someone mentioned above, I'll always have video games.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #771 on: September 05, 2016, 03:19:47 PM »
I was doing some clubs, but then I had knee and shoulder surgery (separately) so a lot of my preferred activities are out.

Video games are gonna be my friends this next year. They'll never leave me.  :laugh: :laugh:

I feel the same way about Netflix......apart from that one time it did leave me because they actually cracked down on VPNs  :cry: :cry: but I forgive and forget and we are happy together now.
Haha, I was in the same bumpy relationship. It smoothed out a bit and we worked it out.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #772 on: September 05, 2016, 03:31:41 PM »
This is my fifth year here, and I've given up on making new friends. I had my friends from orientation at first, but most of them are long gone.


I feel like the Office of Education could do more about this...I mean maybe not organize anything official but at least unoffically organize things so people can meet up. There must be a fair few lonely NETS out there (I'm not saying you are lonely, I just mean in general)

 I know it's not their jobs...but it's frustrating when they have everyone's contact details and it wouldn't be too hard.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #773 on: September 05, 2016, 04:08:12 PM »
Thanks for chiming in gatevt.

Some posters are quite odd in thinking that side commentary on one's tone or tenor is ever needed.  It's harassment, pure and simple.

I was addressing the OP with the advice given.  Others are sure to have different advice and experiences to share.  Share it and move on.

If you disagree with what someone posted, disagree with it.  There is no need to make a personal attack.

I procrastinate and kill time posting here.  I don't deliberately go out of my way to be nasty, rude, or insensitive to anyone, but I'm not going to beat around the bush, either.  We aren't friends.

It's frank, terse, and abrupt. 

If a user doesn't like my manner, lump it.  When you see my name, ignore my posts.  Easy enough.

People are allowed to criticise your behaviour without it falling under some ridiculously low bar of 'harassment.'

My problem with you Pecan is that you seem to lurk this thread in which people often share their saddest and most frustrating moments - or you seem magnetically drawn to other threads in which similar themes are evident - and your default response is to tell the other person that it's their own fault. That it's somehow a deep, fundamental weakness in their character that has resulted in whatever struggle they're currently confronting. Or that whatever problem they're facing is a result of a failure to adequately prepare or a lack of emotional intelligence.

Thread about a woman being raped? Pecan is on hand to say she shouldn't have drank so much.
Thread about the tragic death of an expat? Here's Pecan to say if only they'd taken out insurance their parents wouldn't have to pay so much to ship the body home.
Post about depression or loneliness? Thank goodness Pecan is here to tell us we should have thought about that before we came here and maybe it'd be better if we just gave up and went home.

You seem to have cast yourself in a role of "straight talker" but that isn't what you are at all. Straight talk is helpful. Straight talk cuts through the crap and tells people what they need to hear. Rather than being a direct source of "real talk" you're nothing but a source of judgment, condescension and totally redundant "what everyone else already knew but had the tact not to say" commentary on how everything is someone's own fault.

Rather than taking the attitude of "if you don't like it ignore my posts - I'm just giving REAL TALK" maybe take a minute to consider whether these criticisms are legitimate (and we both know you get this ALL THE TIME from many different people) and try to enact some self-control so that you can be a regular forum user like everyone else and not the deeply unpleasant jerk who has to pre-warn everybody else that the best way to interact with him is to just ignore him altogether.

The last I'll say on the issue.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #774 on: September 05, 2016, 04:16:17 PM »
Jennipennypie, you are so right.

We did a "buddy system" in my province and a mentor/mentee program in my previous district here in Seoul.

Sadly, the head teachers within each district aren't doing much of anything with regards to advocacy for the majority of the foreign staff in Seoul.

It costs nothing to shoot out an email list, to meet and greet the newcomers within one's district, or to provide them with a "buddy" to help with the transition to Korea.

I have had more than my fair share of words with some of these "head" foreigners, but none were interested in adopting what we established elsewhere.

Why?

Time.

The vast majority have families and were only interested in advancing their personal agenda.

It's sad, really.

The one and only "vote" we truly have is with our feet.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #775 on: September 05, 2016, 04:28:42 PM »
Somebody needs to make DKLK my personal mod or something.

Imagine being stalked by someone like this in the "real world"...I'd at least be able to get a restraining order.

Keyboard warrior, give it a rest, already.

Everyone knows you criticize the things in others that you see within yourself...so you've got some serious problems.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #776 on: September 05, 2016, 05:14:42 PM »
Somebody needs to make DKLK my personal mod or something.

Imagine being stalked by someone like this in the "real world"...I'd at least be able to get a restraining order.

Keyboard warrior, give it a rest, already.

Everyone knows you criticize the things in others that you see within yourself...so you've got some serious problems.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #777 on: September 05, 2016, 07:02:26 PM »
Somebody needs to make DKLK my personal mod or something.

Imagine being stalked by someone like this in the "real world"...I'd at least be able to get a restraining order.

Keyboard warrior, give it a rest, already.

Everyone knows you criticize the things in others that you see within yourself...so you've got some serious problems.
When everyone is telling you that you are in the wrong, as you are told in multiple threads about multiple topics by multiple people, maybe it's time to look at yourself Pecan.
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #778 on: September 05, 2016, 07:19:57 PM »
Thanks, zola.

I'm sure you think you are being helpful with your sweeping generalizations and mischaracterizations, but I don't know you, nor am I looking for advice from someone who is diluted into thinking I would actually take seriously what some keyboard stroker has to say about me "looking" at myself ;)

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #779 on: September 05, 2016, 07:31:37 PM »
Diluted? I think you mean deluded. Come on mate, you are an English teacher. Get it right.
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