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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4600 on: April 05, 2017, 10:45:40 AM »
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In any case, I feel you're good people, and I'm sorry that the terror got reigned down on you. I know you're going through a tough time right now. I'd buy you a drink if I knew you in real life.

Is that flirting?

As discussed, sometimes it is hard to tell.

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Only if I grab your crotch while doing it. ;D

Now that reply is flirting.


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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4601 on: April 05, 2017, 10:52:02 AM »
Woah, I knew this would blow up.  First off, no one said women aren't into casual relationships.  And I wasn't implying that men take this approach to women who clearly aren't interested. But clearly you don't understand that women rarely if ever show overt interest to men. They never come up to us and say 'Oh let's go back to my place.' or 'Oh I like you.' We get little to nothing. So when guys do things that come across as stupid to you, it's because we have no idea what she's thinking unless she tells us clearly. We might think she likes us because she smiles at us.  Once again, I'm not condoning the hail mary pass, I'm just saying I understand why as a man.

PS if this approach didn't work, tinder wouldn't exist.  No one is saying to come across as a pervert.

While I can understand where you're coming from here, I don't agree with this.

It's just that some people are better at reading than others. It comes back to social skills and reading social cues. Most women who are interested give some pretty clear signs, even when they're being "subtle." For guys who really can't seem to identify them, researching the internet is a good first step. You don't need to be overt to send out signals.

In short, a smile is not enough to make an assumption about casual sex. People smile when they're being nice. That's it.

But if you've been flirting with the woman for a while and she's been reciprocating (real flirting -- just talking to a woman about her day is not flirting, a lot of guys and gals could learn a thing or two about how to flirt), and she's giving you the bedroom eyes, making a respectful proposition wouldn't be out-of-line.

Also, a person's approach for sealing the deal could also make or break the vibe. A woman (or man) could totally be interested in the beginning but may lose that interest if you come off too strong or disrespectful.

I'm not disagreeing with you but flirting doesn't mean anything.  It doesn't mean she's interested. I've had women with boyfriends flirt with me, I've had single women flirt with me. Women who are interested in me, women who aren't. Some people just like the back and forth and don't plan on taking it further.

I guess my underlying point here is that just because you are upfront and interested in something casual, does not mean you are scuzzy, a loser, socially inept or any of the other labels that the girls in this thread are attaching to it.  Obviously there have been some bad experiences on Sevenpm's part that she's reacting so negatively.  But, just because I said I understand why guys might be straight and to the point does not mean that approach equates to being a creep.  I don't appreciate that label being thrown around nor do the other men in this thread.  Can't we just have a civil discussion about a tantalizing topic without resorting to insults?

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4602 on: April 05, 2017, 10:54:44 AM »
I'm grateful those days are long over :)

Forward women were always a real turn off to me, as something about that aggressiveness was off putting.

They weren't "crazy", but they didn't follow the "normal" conventions, so I would always RUN from that type.

Some guys might like it, like some enjoy shooting fish in a barrel, but if you don't wish to be stocked later, it's best to avoid ;)

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4603 on: April 05, 2017, 11:02:53 AM »
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But clearly you don't understand that women rarely if ever show overt interest to men.  They never come up to us and say 'Oh let's go back to my place.' or 'Oh I like you.' We get little to nothing.

Actually they do this all the time, sorry you haven't had your share.

I should rephrase, I'm not talking about the kind that lock themselves in a room with you and then try to seduce you by force. I guess I mean we don't often have women take the initiative with things. It's up to us to make the moves.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4604 on: April 05, 2017, 11:16:26 AM »
I'd let Chinguetti Ajumma Smash me.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4605 on: April 05, 2017, 11:25:44 AM »
CO2, please just hurry up and have sex so this thread can return to normal.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4606 on: April 05, 2017, 12:04:46 PM »


This may be one of the most insultingly stupid things I've seen in a while. I can not understand how a room full of advertising people could sit down in 2017 and watch this and think "this is great. People are going to eat this shit up".


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« Reply #4607 on: April 05, 2017, 12:13:22 PM »
I'd let Chinguetti Ajumma Smash me.

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« Reply #4608 on: April 05, 2017, 12:19:47 PM »


This may be one of the most insultingly stupid things I've seen in a while. I can not understand how a room full of advertising people could sit down in 2017 and watch this and think "this is great. People are going to eat this shit up".

Yeah that was pretty bad. From now on it's only gonna be "Coke" for me. Do you have Coke?  ;D


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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4609 on: April 05, 2017, 12:32:53 PM »


Yeah that was pretty bad. From now on it's only gonna be "Coke" for me. Do you have Coke?  ;D


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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4610 on: April 05, 2017, 12:40:50 PM »
I'd let Chinguetti Ajumma Smash me.

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Are you sure about that, it sounds like a pretty unpleasant experience for you. xD

But okay, if that's what you're into...

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4611 on: April 05, 2017, 12:44:47 PM »
I'd let Chinguetti Ajumma Smash me.

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Are you sure about that, it sounds like a pretty unpleasant experience for you. xD

But okay, if that's what you're into...



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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4612 on: April 05, 2017, 12:54:06 PM »
Was it you who started this justifying bad behavior? Honestly I didn't double check names so I may have been overly harsh on someone else.

Yeah, that's me, probably.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4613 on: April 05, 2017, 12:55:34 PM »
Yeah that was pretty bad. From now on it's only gonna be "Coke" for me. Do you have Coke?  ;D

an oldy but a goodie. this edit of it is really good


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« Reply #4614 on: April 05, 2017, 01:01:44 PM »
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4615 on: April 05, 2017, 01:04:54 PM »
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4616 on: April 05, 2017, 01:29:05 PM »

"Ah Snap! Something went wrong while displaying this webpage."

Been having the same problem all day, as have other people in my town.  Is it possible for the schools to block a whole browser?
Firefox is still working, though!

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4617 on: April 05, 2017, 01:47:13 PM »
Well, let me try to add to this discussion about casual sex and relationships and whatnot.

I think there's an underlying issue that's not being addressed because we're arguing with individual attitudes and we have to explain why it's not okay to behave a certain way in situations. Because, god damn, I don't know if it's good or bad that I feel empathy for a lot of these guys. I remember being bullied and attacked over these kinds of things and how some people made me feel gross and unwanted in almost every conceivable way.

This shit haunts you for the rest of your life.

I hate it that there's something that makes some guys feel like losers because they can't "get any." Though, I don't want to say it's just guys, I know that there are probably a lot of girls who get shamed over the same kinds of things too. Maybe there are differences...I'm not sure, but I think the same principle still applies.

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I think people getting mad because they can't get laid or even just not being able to have a relationship is more of a symptom of how are society is working. Maybe if we can look at it from that perspective, we can have a half way decent answer to this.
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4618 on: April 05, 2017, 02:04:44 PM »
I hate it that there's something that makes some guys feel like losers because they can't "get any." Though, I don't want to say it's just guys, I know that there are probably a lot of girls who get shamed over the same kinds of things too. Maybe there are differences...I'm not sure, but I think the same principle still applies.

Generally males have been/are encouraged to "get laid" and "become a man" whereas generally females have been/are shamed for losing their virginity [before marriage].  Though this is changing somewhat these days. 

As if having sex somehow makes you become a mature adult. 

Anyway, at some point you have to learn to stand on your personal ideals rather than seeking for mainstream society's approval.  Perhaps I've just been fortunate but the people I grew up/chose to hang out with didn't shame each other for such a thing as silly as whether or not you've had sex or how often or whatever.  I like to think that the majority of people are not douchetards who bully each other for any random reason.  Other than an occasional prick, I feel as though most people I grew up with were pretty mild mannered. 

If you want sex and/or a relationship, fine, I get that.  But the moment anyone starts to view their desire as more important than another's right to decline said desire is very problematic.  It's normal to want such things-- just don't feel as if you are entitled. 

(I'm just speaking general thoughts based on your comment and not personally directing any of this at you, fyi.)

EDIT:  Also, if this has become such a big thing in one's life then maybe one is in need of more hobbies and ways to find personal fulfillment/betterment other than seeking to score. 
« Last Edit: April 05, 2017, 02:10:31 PM by yirj17 »

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #4619 on: April 05, 2017, 02:17:46 PM »
Has anyone in this debate ever said at any stage that it was OK to continue pestering/grabbing a woman  after she's turned you down? if they did I can't remember. The original issue I seem to remember was about propositioning someone for sex. I assumed if the woman in question said no, you'd move on to the next one. I've never tried this myself but I guess the idea behind it is to cut to the chase. Getting the nod to buy her a drink, have a dance, go back to yours etc...still might ultimately come to nothing so you try to save yourself the bother of going though those stages.

I made a comment about 'hitting' on women with boyfriends but I didn't actually mean in the stranger in a night club type scenario. I was thinking of the type of situation when you try it on with someone you already know, they tell you they have a boyfriend but keep giving off signals/flirting so you have another go.

 



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