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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #60 on: June 15, 2018, 11:59:47 AM »
The hell are you guys talking about? hahaha

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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #61 on: June 15, 2018, 12:12:21 PM »
Now I'm a pro! Need a fish deboned? No problem. The slipperiest noodles? I got em  :wink:

PP, this is the real test..



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Ooooh yeah you have to get the pressure just right.

Or use a spoon as most Koreans do...

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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #62 on: June 15, 2018, 12:51:43 PM »
Someone should tell Cambridge, as that's one of the questions in the first section of the IELTS speaking test. Female candidates might be being triggered on a weekly basis

Yeah, next time I'll specify that this isn't during a speaking exam and that the answers I'm getting pushed to provide aren't appropriate to the "context" behind the question. It's not like every other adult wouldn't already assume that or anything, or that I hadn't provided you with enough info for you to get that whatever you're trying to imply isn't the case of my complaint.

A city or general dong answer should be enough in most cases... but what if over 50% of the time you're asked the question you get pushed for the specific name of your street? Why dafuq would a stranger need to know that? Follow that up with "Do you live alone?" getting asked a good chunk of those times as well, and a person tends to get their guard up. I don't care if it's just "harmless" curiosity that's driving it, it's still inappropriate and annoying as hell to deal with.

But sure, you can try to convince everyone here that this is a perfectly acceptable social norm and nothing bad has ever happened to anyone naive enough to answer it.
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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #63 on: June 15, 2018, 01:09:31 PM »
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But sure, you can try to convince everyone here that this is a perfectly acceptable social norm

Asking someone where they live is a perfectly acceptable social norm. You added the context and extra questions later.

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« Reply #64 on: June 15, 2018, 01:24:06 PM »
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But sure, you can try to convince everyone here that this is a perfectly acceptable social norm

Asking someone where they live is a perfectly acceptable social norm. You added the context and extra questions later.
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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #65 on: June 15, 2018, 01:29:02 PM »
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But sure, you can try to convince everyone here that this is a perfectly acceptable social norm

Asking someone where they live is a perfectly acceptable social norm. You added the context and extra questions later.
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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #66 on: June 15, 2018, 01:49:48 PM »
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But sure, you can try to convince everyone here that this is a perfectly acceptable social norm

Asking someone where they live is a perfectly acceptable social norm. You added the context and extra questions later.

Okay, thanks for misrepresenting my argument again, totally establishes you as an authority and everything. Asking someone what street they live on is NOT a perfectly acceptable social norm. And I provided you with enough info prior to your statement that I had to respond to with that wonderful piece of common sense for you to have enough reason not to make those comments in the first place.

The point of the thread was to list questions that you find stupid or annoying. I did that.

You zeroed in on one because it triggered you. I humored you and provided you with extra info for why I myself specifically find it a stupid question even though it's a fairly well-known gripe that many expats here in Korea share for various reasons. You followed up with a not-so-subtle implication that this was another case of hysterical and irrational female fear (premeditated, you were just looking for an excuse to shit it out), despite being provided with enough info to put 2-and-2 together and also being a fellow expat who has lived in Korea long enough to know the many reasons why someone might find the question annoying. But you only cared about the one, which you approached with a loaded question of your own, and you were so quick to try to plug your agenda and invalidate MY reasons for finding the question annoying that you completely ignored the details I provided before.

No one else had a problem with the question. No one else had a problem with understanding why an expat would find that question annoying or problematic. No one else is trying to pick a fight over it. No one else has been acting like a condescending dick about it. You didn't approach this like a person who was honestly just trying to understand. You approached it like a straw man.

The problem really is just you.
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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #67 on: June 15, 2018, 01:50:24 PM »

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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #68 on: June 15, 2018, 01:58:37 PM »
Now I'm a pro! Need a fish deboned? No problem. The slipperiest noodles? I got em  :wink:

PP, this is the real test..



Doh-two-rhee-muck

Ooooh yeah you have to get the pressure just right.

Or use a spoon as most Koreans do...

I just stab it. 

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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #69 on: June 15, 2018, 02:07:56 PM »
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But sure, you can try to convince everyone here that this is a perfectly acceptable social norm

Asking someone where they live is a perfectly acceptable social norm. You added the context and extra questions later.

Okay, thanks for misrepresenting my argument again, totally establishes you as an authority and everything. Asking someone what street they live on is NOT a perfectly acceptable social norm. And I provided you with enough info prior to your statement that I had to respond to with that wonderful piece of common sense for you to have enough reason not to make those comments in the first place.

The point of the thread was to list questions that you find stupid or annoying. I did that.

You zeroed in on one because it triggered you. I humored you and provided you with extra info for why I myself specifically find it a stupid question even though it's a fairly well-known gripe that many expats here in Korea share for various reasons. You followed up with a not-so-subtle implication that this was another case of hysterical and irrational female fear (premeditated, you were just looking for an excuse to shit it out), despite being provided with enough info to put 2-and-2 together and also being a fellow expat who has lived in Korea long enough to know the many reasons why someone might find the question annoying. But you only cared about the one, which you approached with a loaded question of your own, and you were so quick to try to plug your agenda and invalidate MY reasons for finding the question annoying that you completely ignored the details I provided before.

No one else had a problem with the question. No one else had a problem with understanding why an expat would find that question annoying or problematic. No one else is trying to pick a fight over it. No one else has been acting like a condescending dick about it. You didn't approach this like a person who was honestly just trying to understand. You approached it like a straw man.

The problem really is just you.

Tch, tch always with the profanities, personal attacks and amateur psychology.

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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #70 on: June 15, 2018, 03:12:25 PM »
Tch, tch always with the profanities, personal attacks and amateur psychology.

Don't kid yourself, this was always about you.

Don't dish out what you can't take. When you approach people with fighting words, it doesn't matter how you dress them up: they're still going to get treated like fighting words. You're not the only one who's allowed to call people out on their bullshit. You're just really bad at it.
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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #71 on: June 15, 2018, 03:39:44 PM »
My opinion on most of these questions- If this is all it takes to get you bent out of shape, you need sterner stuff.

I get that being asked "Can/Have/Do you...?" for the 100th time can be wearying, but it's the kind of weary that's in and out of my mind after about 2 seconds.

And this will of course be followed by the inevitable "How come Koreans don't talk to me?!?!?!" thread or "How come no one smiles?" or some other inane complaint relating to a lack of attention.

I mean, considering our average level of Korean, I'm not sure many of us would be asking deep or unique questions if our colleagues only spoke Korean and we tried to make conversation.

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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #72 on: June 15, 2018, 04:26:15 PM »
My opinion on most of these questions- If this is all it takes to get you bent out of shape, you need sterner stuff.

I get that being asked "Can/Have/Do you...?" for the 100th time can be wearying, but it's the kind of weary that's in and out of my mind after about 2 seconds.

And this will of course be followed by the inevitable "How come Koreans don't talk to me?!?!?!" thread or "How come no one smiles?" or some other inane complaint relating to a lack of attention.

I mean, considering our average level of Korean, I'm not sure many of us would be asking deep or unique questions if our colleagues only spoke Korean and we tried to make conversation.

Most of these things are exactly like the things minorities back home call micro aggressions. E.g. asking a dark skinned person where they're from or an Asian person if they're good at maths. If you find them mildly irritating, fair enough, if you want to ban them or go online and make youtube videos/whinge about them exhaustively, people will lose patience pretty quickly.
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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #73 on: June 15, 2018, 07:02:51 PM »
Where do you live?
Do you live alone?
How much money do you make?


These questions never fail to urk me. They aren't the worst I've been asked, but they're the worst of the most common.


Or: What's your phone number?


At which point I usually explain that I don't give out my number to anybody unless I've known them for a while. Which basically ends the conversation.

Its a pity because some of the times they are genuinely being friendly, its just that you don't know what they'll do with the information.
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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #74 on: June 15, 2018, 07:04:05 PM »
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Where do you live? What street?


This one goes out to Eggieguffer.
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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #75 on: June 15, 2018, 07:57:51 PM »
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Where do you live? What street?


This one goes out to Eggieguffer.

Where you live? Generally fine.


What kind of answer is that?

I asked where you live.

Tell us your street and danji as well.
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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #76 on: June 16, 2018, 12:04:16 AM »
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Where do you live? What street?


This one goes out to Eggieguffer.

Where you live? Generally fine.


What kind of answer is that?

I asked where you live.

Tell us your street and danji as well.

Where you live? Generally fine. unless preceded by, 'I come your house tomorrow'/asked by some weirdo on the internet.

Is that the best you can do, repeat yourself like a parrot?

Trolls on here used to actually have wit, lol.
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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #77 on: June 16, 2018, 02:16:20 AM »
Q: Do you know soju???

A: I've lived here  3 years and I've never heard of it even once! Please do tell!  -_____-

In this case it might be phrased more as an invitation than a question...

It has been used as both. If it seems like an invitation I usually say I'm allergic to alcohol. Especially that time it was a 50 year old dude at the bus stop.

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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #78 on: June 16, 2018, 02:19:24 AM »
"Why you no marry?"

Anyone single and in their mid thirties or older will get this a lot.

I used to get this question often, but now.... not so much. 

I just tell the kids that I'm old, fat, and ugly so no man wants me.  Makes the CT laugh.

When they ask me I say "Ew, boys are stupid". They love it lol

I always say that husbands and boyfriends are too much trouble, and that I'll be single for life. Never fails to get the girls and maybe half of the boys laughing, while the other half of the boys just kind of have that, "Yeah, right, EVERYONE wants to be dating someone" look.

One of my male middle school students (super smart and also super smart ass). Asked where is my boyfriend. "Why don't you have a boyfriend teacher? Oh you got kicked right? I can tell."

"...You know I control your grade?"

"Ah teacher you kicked him!"

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Re: Stupid questions Koreans ask
« Reply #79 on: June 16, 2018, 02:20:30 AM »
Where do you live?
Do you live alone?
How much money do you make?


These questions never fail to urk me. They aren't the worst I've been asked, but they're the worst of the most common.

Q: Do you know soju???

I never get asked if I know soju, they always ask me if I drink it. xD

People who talk to me don't know the word for "drink" apparently.