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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #6080 on: July 03, 2017, 02:05:30 PM »
Dang, dude. I don't know how you have energy for that sort of biz.

Ain't nobody got time for drama like that.
Ain't no drama. Recent ex thinks I cheated on her when we were dating (which I can assure you, I did not) so she wants absolutely nothing to do with me and she's basically disappeared from my friend's group back into her Korean friend's group. A couple of my mates text her once in a while to see how she's doing, but she's fading pretty damn quickly from my life........................................

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #6081 on: July 03, 2017, 02:07:57 PM »
yeah no. **** that. i wouldn't be friends with someone like that.

I'm siding more with Kobayashi on this one.  She seems to be playing the field, so why is she doing online dating and chatting with your friends if she has another boyfriend.  She's playing the field, and doesn't really seem to be that bothered about the consequences or anyone's feelings, especially yours. 

This isn't going to work.  If you feel the need to write down on an internet forum to get other's opinions about this then you have unfinished business here.  Time may be a healer, but you really don't need her popping her up to bring it all back. 'Oh hey, how's it going?'  She doesn't sound like she's bothered, regardless of her checking out where you're at.  The worst thing is this'll start ruining your nights out, if you know you'll be meeting up later in the evening.  What about others cracking onto her?  How will you feel?  It just ain't worth it.  Also if you already been to a few bars, there's not going to be much to stop you from talking a 'bit more freely' when you are 'heavily refreshed', if you see what I mean.  Keeping your dignity is the important thing. The 'be chill' line doesn't work where alcohol comes into play. 

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #6082 on: July 03, 2017, 02:17:29 PM »
I'm siding more with Kobayashi on this one.  She seems to be playing the field, so why is she doing online dating and chatting with your friends if she has another boyfriend.  She's playing the field, and doesn't really seem to be that bothered about the consequences or anyone's feelings, especially yours. 

Y'all are going to think I'm delusional, but I do know more about this situation than y'all, even if I can recognise my own biases.

Regarding the tinder thing, Donald (shit, I put his real name in there and had to fix it to Donald again hahaha) had mentioned that she was being flaky as shit and I learned later she was only on for 5 days. She had her gay friend texting the guys for a laugh. This isn't to take away from the fact that seeing her surprised me quite a bit.

Regarding her talking to my friends, her boyfriend in Japan is these guys best mate. (Sam R's group that I've been gravitating towards)  She's not going around behind his back with all these men, they're all supertight friends for the last couple of years), he's in Japan, that's it. If anything, they'll be judging her if she starts getting messy with some guys at the bar.

I have no idea if she's playing the field, I don't. But the assumptions made by you (I'm not angry haha but they are assumptions) don't hold a lot of weight.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #6083 on: July 03, 2017, 02:23:17 PM »
I think it's far from necessary to be friends with her, nor would I even say you have to be friendly to her (distantly polite is good), but I do think that some exposure to her presence might help in the long run on the path to healing.  Get desensitized, in a way.

Rather than being surprised and jarred and flooded with emotions when she randomly pops up in person, which seems to be quite a likely thing given the overlapping friend circles. 

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #6084 on: July 03, 2017, 02:27:34 PM »
I think it's far from necessary to be friends with her, nor would I even say you have to be friendly to her (distantly polite is good), but I do think that some exposure to her presence might help in the long run on the path to healing.  Get desensitized, in a way.

Rather than being surprised and jarred and flooded with emotions when she randomly pops up in person, which seems to be quite a likely thing given the overlapping friend circles.

Yeah, I emailed her this morning and said I wasn't the nicest person for being a cold, distant guy on Saturday, it's just I'd made the effort not to see her and it failed. I just told her we need to sort this out. God only knows what that means, but we'll figure it out or we won't.

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Thanks to everyone for their input, even Kobayashi, lord knows I've felt like that on numerous occasions.
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #6085 on: July 03, 2017, 02:40:17 PM »
The bullying here makes me so angry. I do my  best to shut it down whenever I see it, and it's so frustrating how many teachers let it slide. We were doing a project in 5th grade, and we let the students pick their groups, and one boy was left over. He's very slow, but he's nice & tries hard. He gets picked on quite a bit, and during sports day the whole class blamed him for making them lose jump rope, even though it wasn't his fault.

My coteacher initially wanted to bribe a group into taking him, but I told her we shouldn't reward them for being decent human beings. The kids ended up doing RPS to see who got him, and the kids who didn't have to have him in their group scream-cheered. (Another rant: Why can't these kids breathe without screaming?) I got really angry at them for celebrating, and told them that they were bullies. I rarely get visibly angry in class, so they were pretty shocked. My coteacher was angry too, and translated what I said then got after them herself. One girl cried and another girl apologized later in class. The kids aren't going to get to choose their own groups anymore.

Another rant: Today we had a fire drill. It wasn't planned, so the kids and teachers didn't know about it. I'm not sure if it was just an accident or what, but anyway it went off at the end of  a 5th grade class. Some of the kids started running around the class like a chicken with its head cut off until my co ordered them back into their seats. She tried to call around to see if it was a real drill or not, but no one was picking up.

So we have the students get up and leave the room, and when we walked into the hallway the big heavy metal doors had automatically closed. We're the only classroom on that side of the school, and the door going to the stairwell and to the other side of the school had shut. The kids started freaking out thinking that we were trapped, but all they needed was a good shove. They calmed down and we lined up outside where everything ends up being fine. Moral of the rant is they need more unplanned drills so the kids don't lose it when they hear the alarm.
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #6086 on: July 03, 2017, 02:41:59 PM »
I swear, everyone at my main school LOVES to stand behind me. Last year, my desk was one window over and that was the window everyone loved to open and pour their drinks out at.

Now, they love to pour their drinks out and stare outside through the window directly behind me. I absolutely HATE having people standing behind me when I'm on a computer. It always feels invasive.

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« Reply #6087 on: July 03, 2017, 02:47:26 PM »
Now, they love to pour their drinks out and stare outside through the window directly behind me. I absolutely HATE having people standing behind me when I'm on a computer. It always feels invasive.

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« Reply #6088 on: July 03, 2017, 02:56:47 PM »
yay humidity!  :blank:

Right, since last Thursday, it has that walk outside and sweatsville starts, kind of feel.  Cue damp pillows in the early morning.

Yup. I constantly feel damp. Pillows feel damp, walls feel damp, everything is damp, and My hair is giant, I mean some kind of wookie thing going on here with my hair. Every year, I think, I will adjust. This is a lie.
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #6089 on: July 03, 2017, 02:57:36 PM »
yay humidity!  :blank:

Right, since last Thursday, it has that walk outside and sweatsville starts, kind of feel.  Cue damp pillows in the early morning.


My school is like a rainforest in the hallways  :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #6090 on: July 03, 2017, 03:06:50 PM »
I'm siding more with Kobayashi on this one.  She seems to be playing the field, so why is she doing online dating and chatting with your friends if she has another boyfriend.  She's playing the field, and doesn't really seem to be that bothered about the consequences or anyone's feelings, especially yours. 

Y'all are going to think I'm delusional, but I do know more about this situation than y'all, even if I can recognise my own biases.

Regarding the tinder thing, Donald (shit, I put his real name in there and had to fix it to Donald again hahaha) had mentioned that she was being flaky as shit and I learned later she was only on for 5 days. She had her gay friend texting the guys for a laugh. This isn't to take away from the fact that seeing her surprised me quite a bit.

Regarding her talking to my friends, her boyfriend in Japan is these guys best mate. (Sam R's group that I've been gravitating towards)  She's not going around behind his back with all these men, they're all supertight friends for the last couple of years), he's in Japan, that's it. If anything, they'll be judging her if she starts getting messy with some guys at the bar.

I have no idea if she's playing the field, I don't. But the assumptions made by you (I'm not angry haha but they are assumptions) don't hold a lot of weight.

so i might have missed a few posts here, but this girl was also on tinder chatting to people? so to summarize:

she gave you an ultimatum after you had a serious head injury and almost died.

broke up with you at the airport, after flying half way around the world to see her.

has a boyfriend overseas, and yet goes on tinder for .... shits and giggles?

gets her gay friend to mess guys on tinder around for shits and giggles.

dude, seriously, this is not the type of person i would want to associate with at all. even if there wasn't history between you. it sounds like you actually dodged a bullet when she broke up with you.

she keeps asking about you because you're being aloof and distant, and not talking to her is getting the little hamster wheel turning. "why doesn't CO2 want to talk to me, doesn't he like me anymore? does he think i'm a bad person?" and blah blah.

she wants to talk to you to get validation that you still like her. she wants to talk to you for HER, not for you.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #6091 on: July 03, 2017, 03:09:38 PM »
yay humidity!  :blank:

Right, since last Thursday, it has that walk outside and sweatsville starts, kind of feel.  Cue damp pillows in the early morning.


My school is like a rainforest in the hallways  :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

Hahahaha That is a perfect description!


The offices are ice boxes whilst the hallways are indeed rainforests.   :sad:  One of my schools has floors that seem to literally sweat.   :huh:

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #6092 on: July 03, 2017, 03:11:59 PM »
she keeps asking about you because you're being aloof and distant, and not talking to her is getting the little hamster wheel turning. "why doesn't CO2 want to talk to me, doesn't he like me anymore? does he think i'm a bad person?" and blah blah.

she wants to talk to you to get validation that you still like her. she wants to talk to you for HER, not for you.


Yeah, I've mulled this over, too. I'll give you points for this one.

Who doesn't want to be liked? hahaha God knows I'm guilty of being an attention whore.  :laugh:

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« Reply #6093 on: July 03, 2017, 03:19:28 PM »
I think Kobayashi's spot on.  Dodged a bullet.  Now onward and upward!

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #6094 on: July 03, 2017, 03:21:08 PM »
She does seem a little selfish. I can't really wrap my head around the whole breaking up at the airport thing, why did she wait? She should have broken up with you beforehand like any decent person would do. She sounds like romcom villain to be honest. But I think it would have been worse to continue the relationship when her heart wasn't in it :/

But the most important thing to do is to make sure she isn't in a position to upset you anymore! Make sure you protect yourself first!

It might feel a little good to indulge in these thoughts and convos because hey, she's talking about you to other people and maybe it feels exciting that she's still thinking about you and you're suddenly thrown together again... but the bigger picture is sometimes people just don't deserve our time! A balance between being able to see her while not feeling horrible and getting emotionally attached is important. Protect yo'self!

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« Reply #6095 on: July 03, 2017, 03:22:51 PM »
She does seem a little selfish. I can't really wrap my head around the whole breaking up at the airport thing, why did she wait? She should have broken up with you beforehand like any decent person would do. She sounds like romcom villain to be honest.

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So her life could be a Korean drama?

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« Reply #6096 on: July 03, 2017, 03:26:09 PM »
I need to ask my coteacher an important meeting tomorrow (which will cause me to miss a class) and he's been MIA from his desk since classes ended an hour ago.

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« Reply #6097 on: July 03, 2017, 03:32:36 PM »
yay humidity!  :blank:

Right, since last Thursday, it has that walk outside and sweatsville starts, kind of feel.  Cue damp pillows in the early morning.


My school is like a rainforest in the hallways  :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

Hahahaha That is a perfect description!


The offices are ice boxes whilst the hallways are indeed rainforests.   :sad:  One of my schools has floors that seem to literally sweat.   :huh:

Oh gawd, I remember my first year here, we had a school that had sweaty floors, I was never able to figure out why!!! This school does not have that, but it does smell like a combination of a urinal and a wet dirty dog right now.....
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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #6098 on: July 03, 2017, 03:37:12 PM »
People rave about Skyscanner, but Ive never had any luck with it. Ill find a flight for a reasonable amount, click to go to that website, and it will say something like In the 5 seconds since you clicked on that link that flight is no longer available. But here are some other flights for $500 more, sucker.

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« Reply #6099 on: July 03, 2017, 04:28:15 PM »
People rave about Skyscanner, but Ive never had any luck with it. Ill find a flight for a reasonable amount, click to go to that website, and it will say something like In the 5 seconds since you clicked on that link that flight is no longer available. But here are some other flights for $500 more, sucker.
For the most part, all the big flight aggregators are similar. I like how Hipmunk lays out out. Skyscanner is kind of disappointing to me. Actually, I use Expedia a lot, too. And when I'm travelling domestically in SE Asian countries, I just use the local LCC websites, which is by far the cheapest option.

I just use expedia or google flights and then check around on the individual airline websites. I tried using something like Skyscanner before but it would show prices before factoring tax and fuel surcharges and whatever else, which was not to my liking.