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Offline Maclean

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How do you feel about being deeply bowed to?
« on: September 15, 2017, 12:44:57 PM »
At times it makes me quite uncomfortable. Especially when someone does the full bow from the waist. I feel uncomfortable when a student does it, but there's a teacher at my school who does it to the other teachers including myself. He's very nice (although I suspect a tad simple), and he actually put his arm across his stomach and does the full bow. It makes me uncomfortable. It offends my sense of egalitarianism.

I actually try to avoid him. ;D
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Offline yirj17

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Re: How do you feel about being bowed to?
« Reply #1 on: September 15, 2017, 01:16:33 PM »
I think it's a fun part of the culture.  Only some of my kids do the full bow from the waist, which I find cute. 

Do you bow in return [to the adults]?  They're just being polite.  I actually prefer it to shaking people's hands.  A male friend from back home once revealed that apparently a lot of males don't bother washing their hands after taking a whizz.  And this was from a moderate germaphone  :undecided:  I don't trust people's hygiene habits. 

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Re: How do you feel about being bowed to?
« Reply #2 on: September 15, 2017, 01:21:45 PM »
Doesn't bother me.

Unless it's some kid doing a super exaggerated bow just to be a sarcastic little dipshit then... yeah, I'm looking at you Geun Ho  >:( lol

Otherwise I'm with yirj17, it's better than shaking hands as is usually little more than a head nod and slight forward motion anyway. No offense meant or taken, in my opinion.

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Re: How do you feel about being bowed to?
« Reply #3 on: September 15, 2017, 01:31:41 PM »

Otherwise I'm with yirj17, it's better than shaking hands as is usually little more than a head nod and slight forward motion anyway. No offense meant or taken, in my opinion.

No-one's implying that offence is given or taken.  And I'm obviously not referring to the slight nod. I do that a dozen times a day without thinking. I'm talking about the full bow as if I'm the king of Siam. I wouldn't bow at the waist to anyone, and I'm not entirely at ease at being bowed to like that either.

I think Seinfeld got my meaning. ;D

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=57bNmzepNkM

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Re: How do you feel about being bowed to?
« Reply #4 on: September 15, 2017, 01:52:27 PM »
How long have you been in Korea?  Three days, four days, forty minutes?

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Re: How do you feel about being deeply bowed to?
« Reply #5 on: September 15, 2017, 02:11:19 PM »
I've nothing against bowing. I do it instinctively, even when I'm back in Canada. It's second nature to me, and preferable to an unhygienic handshake (which for obvious reasons I'm glad never caught on in Korea).

The full bow is something else altogether.

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Re: How do you feel about being bowed to?
« Reply #6 on: September 15, 2017, 02:20:07 PM »
How long have you been in Korea?  Three days, four days, forty minutes?

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Re: How do you feel about being deeply bowed to?
« Reply #7 on: September 15, 2017, 02:44:45 PM »
Everyone gets the same bow from me, be they the Queen or a cardboard-collection Adjumma.

It's a combination of an informal bow with a bit of a Newfoundland "nod-and-wink".

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Re: How do you feel about being deeply bowed to?
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Re: How do you feel about being deeply bowed to?
« Reply #9 on: September 15, 2017, 03:54:09 PM »
It usually means someone's done something bad to me like flying out of a blind alley in their car and nearly crashing into my car.

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Re: How do you feel about being deeply bowed to?
« Reply #10 on: September 16, 2017, 05:52:12 PM »
weird. :huh:

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Re: How do you feel about being deeply bowed to?
« Reply #11 on: September 17, 2017, 10:57:50 AM »
He's very nice (although I suspect a tad simple)


Get down off your high horse.

You're making the mistake of many to assume that people who are nice must be stupid.

Would you have the humility to treat others with generosity and dignity? judging by your posts it seems not.
Catch my drift?

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Re: How do you feel about being deeply bowed to?
« Reply #12 on: September 17, 2017, 12:27:48 PM »
He's very nice (although I suspect a tad simple)


Get down off your high horse.

You're making the mistake of many to assume that people who are nice must be stupid.

Would you have the humility to treat others with generosity and dignity? judging by your posts it seems not.

And you are making the mistake that the statement implied a link.


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Re: How do you feel about being deeply bowed to?
« Reply #13 on: November 14, 2017, 03:36:18 PM »
Though Korea is very Confucian-oriented in terms of social hierarchy, perhaps just think of bowing as a way of saying "Hey, I acknowledge you" or "Hello, I see you."

I find myself bowing instinctively and not necessarily a deep full bow but something almost like a head nod. It's part of the culture and I don't think it symbolizes intent against egalitarianism but rather respect.

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Re: How do you feel about being deeply bowed to?
« Reply #14 on: November 14, 2017, 03:58:08 PM »
Does anyone else do the slight nod + wink combo if they're sitting and can't bow? I have no idea if it's rude; no one has ever said anything about it.

Then again, I'm the youngest in my office, so I think even when I mess up Korean etiquette they just find it cute.

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Re: How do you feel about being deeply bowed to?
« Reply #15 on: November 16, 2017, 11:29:03 PM »
It took some getting used to. The first time it happened I bowed back and then roundhouse kicked the man in the head. 5 years of competitive Karate is hard to shake off.