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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #3160 on: December 05, 2016, 01:52:26 PM »

People are shite. Grown ass adults are shite. Foreigners pestering me "where are you from?" after I've already spoken enough to show an American midwestern accent and said I'M FROM THE USA. "Oh, but you look [insert Asian ethnicity here]." "Oh but where are you really from?" Cause apparently the default American is just a white person.

Things like this make me more than content to remain on my island. Honestly, the last two weekends I have dealt with this rubbish.  >:(

I often get asked, "Are you [European ethnicity]?"  and have no hurt feelings whatsoever.

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« Reply #3161 on: December 05, 2016, 02:00:27 PM »
I hate when the students let out these long drawn out groans when I tell them to open their notebooks. I mean come on, it's school. Of course you are going to have to do some work for crying out loud.

Kids are shit.

People are shite. Grown ass adults are shite. Foreigners pestering me "where are you from?" after I've already spoken enough to show an American midwestern accent and said I'M FROM THE USA. "Oh, but you look [insert Asian ethnicity here]." "Oh but where are you really from?" Cause apparently the default American is just a white person.

Things like this make me more than content to remain on my island. Honestly, the last two weekends I have dealt with this rubbish.  >:(

I hate that. I know it's just because they are super ignorant, so most of the time I let it slide, but the worst is when people narrow their eyes after you respond like you're lying after and press you further, as if they think they have a better idea of where you're from than you do. I've had people ask me "then where are your parents from?" "America" "then your grandparents?" "America and Canada..."

I don't get annoyed anymore when people don't think I'm from the USA at first glance, but how they respond after I tell them is the problem.

Only once have I had someone actually apologize for making an inference based on my skin color/stereotypes, a nice old Japanese man actually said sorry when he realized he had picked me out of a group of Americans as the only non-American, and his wife continued to chastise him after for not knowing any better.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #3162 on: December 05, 2016, 02:03:31 PM »
@JNM. There are generally two types of people when it comes to this. Here are some examples:

"Where are you from?"
"America."
"Oh cool. What's your ethnicity, if you don't mind my asking?"
"Oh my parents are from [blah blah blah]."
"Cool. I'm from [blah blah blah]."
*pleasant conversation ensues*

Then there's THIS type:

"What are you?"
"Sorry?"
"I mean, where are you from?"
"Oh, I'm from America."
"No, where are you really from?"
"...I'm from America. [insert state]"
"No, I mean where were you born?"
"...I was born and raised in America."
"No, I mean where are your parents from?"
"..."

Jesus. The latter kind of person is extremely annoying and always looks smugly satisfied after confirming that my ancestors are not from America. Well putz, unless your ancestry is native American, your ancestors weren't originally from 'murica either.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #3163 on: December 05, 2016, 02:06:35 PM »
I hate when the students let out these long drawn out groans when I tell them to open their notebooks. I mean come on, it's school. Of course you are going to have to do some work for crying out loud.

Kids are shit.

People are shite. Grown ass adults are shite. Foreigners pestering me "where are you from?" after I've already spoken enough to show an American midwestern accent and said I'M FROM THE USA. "Oh, but you look [insert Asian ethnicity here]." "Oh but where are you really from?" Cause apparently the default American is just a white person.

Things like this make me more than content to remain on my island. Honestly, the last two weekends I have dealt with this rubbish.  >:(

I hate that. I know it's just because they are super ignorant, so most of the time I let it slide, but the worst is when people narrow their eyes after you respond like you're lying after and press you further, as if they think they have a better idea of where you're from than you do. I've had people ask me "then where are your parents from?" "America" "then your grandparents?" "America and Canada..."

I don't get annoyed anymore when people don't think I'm from the USA at first glance, but how they respond after I tell them is the problem.

Only once have I had someone actually apologize for making an inference based on my skin color/stereotypes, a nice old Japanese man actually said sorry when he realized he had picked me out of a group of Americans as the only non-American, and his wife continued to chastise him after for not knowing any better.

If I don't sense ill intent or malice behind the questions, I don't mind if it's an honest mistake or even badly phrased. I can tell when a person is genuinely just interested versus trying to label me as "other"

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #3164 on: December 05, 2016, 02:11:32 PM »
I hate when the students let out these long drawn out groans when I tell them to open their notebooks. I mean come on, it's school. Of course you are going to have to do some work for crying out loud.

Kids are shit.

People are shite. Grown ass adults are shite. Foreigners pestering me "where are you from?" after I've already spoken enough to show an American midwestern accent and said I'M FROM THE USA. "Oh, but you look [insert Asian ethnicity here]." "Oh but where are you really from?" Cause apparently the default American is just a white person.

Things like this make me more than content to remain on my island. Honestly, the last two weekends I have dealt with this rubbish.  >:(

I hate that. I know it's just because they are super ignorant, so most of the time I let it slide, but the worst is when people narrow their eyes after you respond like you're lying after and press you further, as if they think they have a better idea of where you're from than you do. I've had people ask me "then where are your parents from?" "America" "then your grandparents?" "America and Canada..."

I don't get annoyed anymore when people don't think I'm from the USA at first glance, but how they respond after I tell them is the problem.

Only once have I had someone actually apologize for making an inference based on my skin color/stereotypes, a nice old Japanese man actually said sorry when he realized he had picked me out of a group of Americans as the only non-American, and his wife continued to chastise him after for not knowing any better.

If I don't sense ill intent or malice behind the questions, I don't mind if it's an honest mistake or even badly phrased. I can tell when a person is genuinely just interested versus trying to label me as "other"

I understand you.

My point was just that sometimes people are looking for a fight, and see malice where there is none.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #3165 on: December 05, 2016, 02:15:23 PM »

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« Reply #3166 on: December 05, 2016, 02:15:43 PM »
There was this guy on my floor freshman year of college who had a Jamaican accent

 :smiley: : Where are you from?
 :wink: : Michigan
 :undecided: : huh? really?
 :wink: : Yep, Kalamazoo
 :blank: : Uhh, where's your accent from?
 :wink: : Michigan

You could tell he got a real kick out of it, because most people couldn't immediately tell it was a Jamaican accent, just that it was definitely NOT from Michigan

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« Reply #3167 on: December 05, 2016, 03:01:03 PM »


Completely 100% unrelated: I genuinely wish I could quit smoking, but I just don't have the will to do it because I enjoy it so much. I generally spend the last 50% of my day looking forward to the cigarette I'll have when I get home. Sucks that it's so bad for you and such a gross smell on your clothes / breath / hair / everything.

OMG me too!!!! I look forward to that 5pm cigarette like a kid at Christmas!!!

Feel your pain. I smoked a packet a day at my peak, 5 years clean.

1 - Gym, with Death Metal/Gangster Rap in your ears.
2 - You've learned to associate stress with smoking, retrain your brain.
3 - Stay away from people and situations where you smoke the most
4 - Gym some more
5 - Did I mention gym?

I agree with 2 but not the others. if you're a social person stopping going out drinking with mates is just going to make your life more miserable, when it'll already be tough. As for all the gym references IMO that's like telling someone to quit smoking by taking cold showers or drinking their own urine.

I'd say give yourself lots of treats, count the days and tell yourself it'll get much easier after the first week.

No, going to the gym is literally the best stop-smoking help you can get, that doesn't involve nicotine.

When I have a good workout, I usually don't get cravings for at least an hour or two after I finish. If you combined that with active effort and desire to quit, you'd be in a really good position to be successful.

Plus, giving yourself 'lots of treats' when you're trying to quit smoking means you're going to be snacking non-stop for most people, which will lead to weight gain, which will lead to (possibly) being angry at yourself and that's going to sour your positive outlook right quick.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #3168 on: December 05, 2016, 03:17:05 PM »
Tried showing a movie to my third graders, as that seems to be the trend around school and I knew I had no chance at trying to learn 'em anything if they're watching fail videos in all their other classes.

So of course I get the "no you must teach" spiel. Okay, fair enough. I whip up a set of riddles. They dig those. Then I'm told, "Oh I think these are too hard for them."

 :rolleyes:

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« Reply #3169 on: December 05, 2016, 03:36:38 PM »
Tried showing a movie to my third graders, as that seems to be the trend around school and I knew I had no chance at trying to learn 'em anything if they're watching fail videos in all their other classes.

So of course I get the "no you must teach" spiel. Okay, fair enough. I whip up a set of riddles. They dig those. Then I'm told, "Oh I think these are too hard for them."

 :rolleyes:

Of course.

I have zero problem (actually I like it) when a competent and motivated co-teacher makes suggestions, or even flat-out vetoes something I want to do, as long as they're a good teacher themselves and it's actually a good idea.

But when someone assumes they know the students' abilities more than any foreigner ever possibly good and is super nitpicky even with a competent NSET, that's just terrible.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #3170 on: December 05, 2016, 03:41:03 PM »

People are shite. Grown ass adults are shite. Foreigners pestering me "where are you from?" after I've already spoken enough to show an American midwestern accent and said I'M FROM THE USA. "Oh, but you look [insert Asian ethnicity here]." "Oh but where are you really from?" Cause apparently the default American is just a white person.

Things like this make me more than content to remain on my island. Honestly, the last two weekends I have dealt with this rubbish.  >:(

I often get asked, "Are you [European ethnicity]?"  and have no hurt feelings whatsoever.

This. People looking for fights take normal social interactions and turn them into some race relations microcosm. Instead of you know, just answering the question in the same way everyone else does.

There was this white guy on my football team back in high school. Going around we asked it and everyone answered normally. He responded Canadian and refused to state his ancestry because he identified as Canadian.

He was as much of a jackass as anyone of any other race that does the same thing.

Just normal social interaction for North Americans. Not answering this question is akin to telling someone how horrible your day is when they ask how you're doing. No one actually cares.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #3171 on: December 05, 2016, 03:43:26 PM »
Tried showing a movie to my third graders, as that seems to be the trend around school and I knew I had no chance at trying to learn 'em anything if they're watching fail videos in all their other classes.

So of course I get the "no you must teach" spiel. Okay, fair enough. I whip up a set of riddles. They dig those. Then I'm told, "Oh I think these are too hard for them."

 :rolleyes:

Of course.

I have zero problem (actually I like it) when a competent and motivated co-teacher makes suggestions, or even flat-out vetoes something I want to do, as long as they're a good teacher themselves and it's actually a good idea.

But when someone assumes they know the students' abilities more than any foreigner ever possibly good and is super nitpicky even with a competent NSET, that's just terrible.

Yeah, same. In my experience it's the near-fluent co-ts who help me out and give suggestions). The ones who pull the "Oh this is too hard but I have no real input of my own" are basically saying, "Well this confounds me and makes me feel insecure about my own abilities as I am not capable of understanding this shit." Ugh.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #3172 on: December 05, 2016, 03:44:33 PM »
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No, going to the gym is literally the best stop-smoking help you can get, that doesn't involve nicotine.

When I have a good workout, I usually don't get cravings for at least an hour or two after I finish. If you combined that with active effort and desire to quit, you'd be in a really good position to be successful.

Plus, giving yourself 'lots of treats' when you're trying to quit smoking means you're going to be snacking non-stop for most people, which will lead to weight gain, which will lead to (possibly) being angry at yourself and that's going to sour your positive outlook right quick.

Well, different things probably work for different people. I hate going to the gym, so telling me to do something I hate to replace something I like, wouldn't be very persuasive. When I used to smoke and play sports the first ciggie after a game of football was like having one after a good meal. Sometimes I couldn't wait and had one at half time, in the same way I would sometimes smoke between courses.   

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« Reply #3173 on: December 05, 2016, 03:48:55 PM »
Tried showing a movie to my third graders, as that seems to be the trend around school and I knew I had no chance at trying to learn 'em anything if they're watching fail videos in all their other classes.

So of course I get the "no you must teach" spiel. Okay, fair enough. I whip up a set of riddles. They dig those. Then I'm told, "Oh I think these are too hard for them."

 :rolleyes:

Of course.

I have zero problem (actually I like it) when a competent and motivated co-teacher makes suggestions, or even flat-out vetoes something I want to do, as long as they're a good teacher themselves and it's actually a good idea.

But when someone assumes they know the students' abilities more than any foreigner ever possibly good and is super nitpicky even with a competent NSET, that's just terrible.

I've never had a problem with a CT vetoing my ideas. In 99% of cases what they are thinking is better.

What drives me up the wall is when they veto something and have no alternate suggestions of any kind.

CT: I don't like this.
Me: Cool, what do you have in mind?
CT: (silence).

Even a basic, 'the kids need more practice with X' is helpful.

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #3174 on: December 05, 2016, 03:49:52 PM »
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"Where are you from?"
"America."
"Oh cool. What's your ethnicity, if you don't mind my asking?"
"Oh my parents are from [blah blah blah]."
"Cool. I'm from [blah blah blah]."
*pleasant conversation ensues*

For a lot of people words like 'ethnicity' are not really part of their everyday vocabulary and besides which it's only a matter of time before asking someone's ethnicity will be considered a microagression and you'll be back to square one. Perosnally I can't see how anyone would be offended by someone saying 'you look a bit Asian, is that where your parents came from? but I guess I'm a dinosaur these days.

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« Reply #3175 on: December 05, 2016, 03:56:24 PM »
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"Where are you from?"
"America."
"Oh cool. What's your ethnicity, if you don't mind my asking?"
"Oh my parents are from [blah blah blah]."
"Cool. I'm from [blah blah blah]."
*pleasant conversation ensues*

For a lot of people words like 'ethnicity' are not really part of their everyday vocabulary and besides which it's only a matter of time before asking someone's ethnicity will be considered a microagression and you'll be back to square one. Perosnally I can't see how anyone would be offended by someone saying 'you look a bit Asian, is that where your parents came from? but I guess I'm a dinosaur these days.

Maybe you can't see why anyone would be offended because you're white  :wink:

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« Reply #3176 on: December 05, 2016, 03:59:12 PM »
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"Where are you from?"
"America."
"Oh cool. What's your ethnicity, if you don't mind my asking?"
"Oh my parents are from [blah blah blah]."
"Cool. I'm from [blah blah blah]."
*pleasant conversation ensues*

For a lot of people words like 'ethnicity' are not really part of their everyday vocabulary and besides which it's only a matter of time before asking someone's ethnicity will be considered a microagression and you'll be back to square one. Perosnally I can't see how anyone would be offended by someone saying 'you look a bit Asian, is that where your parents came from? but I guess I'm a dinosaur these days.

The problem isn't that people are curious about someone's ethnicity; the problem is when they refuse to accept the answer that they're given. If I tell someone that I'm American, and they go on to ask me where I'm really from (implying that I'm not actually American), that's when there's a problem.

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« Reply #3177 on: December 05, 2016, 04:01:16 PM »

People are shite. Grown ass adults are shite. Foreigners pestering me "where are you from?" after I've already spoken enough to show an American midwestern accent and said I'M FROM THE USA. "Oh, but you look [insert Asian ethnicity here]." "Oh but where are you really from?" Cause apparently the default American is just a white person.

Things like this make me more than content to remain on my island. Honestly, the last two weekends I have dealt with this rubbish.  >:(

I often get asked, "Are you [European ethnicity]?"  and have no hurt feelings whatsoever.

This. People looking for fights take normal social interactions and turn them into some race relations microcosm. Instead of you know, just answering the question in the same way everyone else does.

There was this white guy on my football team back in high school. Going around we asked it and everyone answered normally. He responded Canadian and refused to state his ancestry because he identified as Canadian.

He was as much of a jackass as anyone of any other race that does the same thing.

Just normal social interaction for North Americans. Not answering this question is akin to telling someone how horrible your day is when they ask how you're doing. No one actually cares.

When I say I'm from America, I am answering "in the same way as everyone else does." When people press further, asking "where were you born?" I answer honestly and tell the city/state where I was born and raised. When someone presses further with "No, where are your parents from?" then it clicks that they're really asking "What's your ethnicity?"

If they "don't care" then why don't they just drop it? Or make their initial question clearer? "What's your ancestry/ethnicity/background?" or "What are your roots?"

There most certainly are people who are just genuinely interested in ancestry. I have no problem with that. But there are other people who seem to want to imply that I'm "not really American" even though we're supposed to be a "melting pot." Or better yet, the people who want to have "won" at guessing my ethnicity.  :rolleyes:

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« Reply #3178 on: December 05, 2016, 04:06:54 PM »

People are shite. Grown ass adults are shite. Foreigners pestering me "where are you from?" after I've already spoken enough to show an American midwestern accent and said I'M FROM THE USA. "Oh, but you look [insert Asian ethnicity here]." "Oh but where are you really from?" Cause apparently the default American is just a white person.

Things like this make me more than content to remain on my island. Honestly, the last two weekends I have dealt with this rubbish.  >:(

I often get asked, "Are you [European ethnicity]?"  and have no hurt feelings whatsoever.

This. People looking for fights take normal social interactions and turn them into some race relations microcosm. Instead of you know, just answering the question in the same way everyone else does.

There was this white guy on my football team back in high school. Going around we asked it and everyone answered normally. He responded Canadian and refused to state his ancestry because he identified as Canadian.

He was as much of a jackass as anyone of any other race that does the same thing.

Just normal social interaction for North Americans. Not answering this question is akin to telling someone how horrible your day is when they ask how you're doing. No one actually cares.

When I say I'm from America, I am answering "in the same way as everyone else does." When people press further, asking "where were you born?" I answer honestly and tell the city/state where I was born and raised. When someone presses further with "No, where are your parents from?" then it clicks that they're really asking "What's your ethnicity?"

If they "don't care" then why don't they just drop it? Or make their initial question clearer? "What's your ancestry/ethnicity/background?" or "What are your roots?"

There most certainly are people who are just genuinely interested in ancestry. I have no problem with that. But there are other people who seem to want to imply that I'm "not really American" even though we're supposed to be a "melting pot." Or better yet, the people who want to have "won" at guessing my ethnicity.  :rolleyes:

I actually had this conversation a couple of years ago:

"Your English is really good. Where are you from?"
"America, born and raised."
"Oh! Where did you learn English?"
"America.."
"Wow! If I only heard you talk, I would've thought you were American!"
"...(fuckyou)..."

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Re: RANTING/VENTING MEGATHREAD 3.0
« Reply #3179 on: December 05, 2016, 04:10:15 PM »
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Maybe you can't see why anyone would be offended because you're white  :wink:

I don't know whther you're joking or not but of course a white person could get asked the same question in a non white country. When I lived in Turkey, people were always speaking German to me.


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The problem isn't that people are curious about someone's ethnicity; the problem is when they refuse to accept the answer that they're given. If I tell someone that I'm American, and they go on to ask me where I'm really from (implying that I'm not actually American), that's when there's a problem

They wanted to know your ethnicity in the first place, they probably didn't know what the current politically correct way of asking that question was.
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