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Offline alpinelad

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Gay bros! Which dating apps do you use?
« on: June 19, 2017, 10:56:47 PM »
Hey guys. I am moving to South Korea in August as an EPIK teacher. I've never been one for bars or clubs much, so like a lot of people these days, I rely on dating apps to meet guys. Which ones are the most commonly used by gay guys in South Korea? Thanks for the advice!
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Re: Gay bros! Which dating apps do you use?
« Reply #1 on: June 20, 2017, 10:54:39 AM »
It's been a couple of years but Jack'd was more popular than Grindr last time I checked.

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Re: Gay bros! Which dating apps do you use?
« Reply #2 on: June 20, 2017, 10:54:55 AM »
I don't know about apps. I'm not gay so I can't speak for that either.

However, I do know there is a "gay club" in Itaewon right by the subway station that actually overcharges women but not men.

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Re: Gay bros! Which dating apps do you use?
« Reply #3 on: June 20, 2017, 12:36:39 PM »
Jong-no area has a lot of saunas geared towards the gay community. Also you'll find 'Homo Hill' around that area, lots of gay clubs etc. Jack'd is popular, Grindr is used mostly by waygooks. Oh also Jack'd lets you search other towns/areas to see who is online. After the whole military thing this year lots of people were nervous about being exposed via the apps but that tension seems to have died down.
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Re: Gay bros! Which dating apps do you use?
« Reply #4 on: June 20, 2017, 01:41:25 PM »
I'm not a guy nor gay but I thought I'd help anyways ;D. In Itaewon there is "Homo Hill" with lots of gay bars to go to and meet people and there are tons of gay guys there both Korean and foreign. Apps idk about. Good luck!

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Re: Gay bros! Which dating apps do you use?
« Reply #5 on: June 20, 2017, 02:46:05 PM »
"Homo Hill" That's charmingly alliterative. I know gays* don't say the clinical-sounding 'homosexual', but I can't imagine they say bigot-sounding 'homo' either. I know many gay people say 'queer', but is that something like the N-word among black people**, where people within the community can say it, but those outside of it cannot? What Me?-I'm-not-gay! term is in currency these days? I'm surprised I don't already know...


*Is 'gays' okay? Or should it be gay men/women? Kind of like Jewish-but-not-a-Jew?)

**Again, 'black/white people' is okay, but 'blacks/whites' sounds insensitive, and 'African-American' now sounds outdated.

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Re: Gay bros! Which dating apps do you use?
« Reply #6 on: June 20, 2017, 03:07:04 PM »
Grindr is fairly popular among foreigners and Koreans here. It's the only app I've used but I know that Jack'd is also popular.

"Homo Hill" That's charmingly alliterative. I know gays* don't say the clinical-sounding 'homosexual', but I can't imagine they say bigot-sounding 'homo' either. I know many gay people say 'queer', but is that something like the N-word among black people**, where people within the community can say it, but those outside of it cannot? What Me?-I'm-not-gay! term is in currency these days? I'm surprised I don't already know...


*Is 'gays' okay? Or should it be gay men/women? Kind of like Jewish-but-not-a-Jew?)

**Again, 'black/white people' is okay, but 'blacks/whites' sounds insensitive, and 'African-American' now sounds outdated.

I know you are trolling, but I'll take the bait. Gays have embraced the name Homo Hill somewhat ironically, but if you called me as a person a homo I'd knock your lights out.

Why not just say "a gay person" or "gay people"? Reducing any group of people to a single word just sounds terrible: "Blacks" sounds so much worse than "black people" just like "Jews" sounds much worse than "Jewish people".

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Re: Gay bros! Which dating apps do you use?
« Reply #7 on: June 20, 2017, 05:16:43 PM »
I don't think I was trolling, but I'm not really sure what exactly that term really means. To espouse a view you don't really subscribe to just for the sake of stirring up controversy? That's not what I was trying to do. I hope anything I said wasn't too incendiary either. It wasn't meant to be. I actually thought I took some pains to avoid being so, and admitted my ignorance if I still inadvertently was. I even mocked the use of the word "Homo". Most of my comments *are* throw away lines that don't really contribute to the conversation in a meaningful way, so if that's trolling, I could see how you might accuse me of trolling now, especially as my question was only tangentially related to the OP, but slight derail that it was, the question was sincere.


Really, that article that I linked to about Jewish people reclaiming the word Jew is what got me thinking about this, and perhaps made me unsure of the language I use. I used the word "queer" recently in a different thread as I feel like that's the term du jour these days, and nobody called me out or corrected me on it, but I did wonder afterward if that's something gay men and women use between themselves and is deemed offensive for outsiders. If queer is okay to use (again, queer as an adjective has a different feeling from the noun), it would be, if nothing else, a convenient shorthand. I don't want to reduce anyone's 'identity' to any one attribute, but Christian people don't seem to have any trouble with being called Christians, but saying 'a Jew' rubs people the wrong way. This probably has something to do with Jews', like 'homosexuals'', long history of oppression and discrimination. Funny that it's cool to say Muslims as a noun, though.

So, thanks for the answer. It seems like at this moment adjectival 'gay' is the way to go.
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Re: Gay bros! Which dating apps do you use?
« Reply #8 on: June 20, 2017, 05:36:25 PM »
I don't think I was trolling, but I'm not really sure what exactly that term really means. To espouse a view you don't really subscribe to just for the sake of stirring up controversy? That's not what I was trying to do. I hope anything I said wasn't too incendiary either. It wasn't meant to be. I actually thought I took some pains to avoid being so, and admitted my ignorance if I still inadvertently was. I even mocked the use of the word "Homo". Most of my comments *are* throw away lines that don't really contribute to the conversation in a meaningful way, so if that's trolling, I could see how you might accuse me of trolling now, especially as my question was only tangentially related to the OP, but slight derail that it was, the question was sincere.


Really, that article that I linked to about Jewish people reclaiming the word Jew is what got me thinking about this, and perhaps made me unsure of the language I use. I used the word "queer" recently in a different thread as I feel like that's the term du jour these days, and nobody called me out or corrected me on it, but I did wonder afterward if that's something gay men and women use between themselves and is deemed offensive for outsiders. If queer is okay to use (again, queer as an adjective has a different feeling from the noun), it would be, if nothing else, a convenient shorthand. I don't want to reduce anyone's 'identity' to any one attribute, but Christian people don't seem to have any trouble with being called Christians, but saying 'a Jew' rubs people the wrong way. This probably has something to do with Jews, like 'homosexuals', long history of oppression and discrimination. Funny that it's cool to say Muslims as a noun, though.

So, thanks for the answer. It seems like at this moment adjectival 'gay' is the way to go.

Point taken, I appreciate you trying to find the right word to use.

My takeaway - the English language is weird.

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Re: Gay bros! Which dating apps do you use?
« Reply #9 on: June 23, 2017, 04:13:37 AM »
So my take away from the responses is mostly Jack'd and Grindr (though it's more common among non-Koreans). Anything else?

Also, what is this "military thing" that had people worried about being exposed?

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Re: Gay bros! Which dating apps do you use?
« Reply #10 on: June 23, 2017, 09:55:38 AM »
Hey.
yeah Jackd and grindr are the most used by Koreans and other foreigners.
They do have their own app called Diggso... all in Korean though but they use it alot.

Here is an articale about what happened!
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/05/24/world/asia/south-korea-gay-soldier-military-court.html

Busan's scene is alot more chilled than Seoul! Daegu has an amazing group of members and they have alot of get togethers and things.
Nway the "scene" here is still very hidden and not spoken about but you will soon find a group if you are lucky enough to be in Seoul. I'm in Busan and struggling to make friends with other likeminded guys. Koreans tend to be really only into the most handsome of guys! But each to his own!

Have a great time in Korea!

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Re: Gay bros! Which dating apps do you use?
« Reply #11 on: June 24, 2017, 12:25:41 AM »
So, Jack'd, Grindr and may Diggso when I have learned some Korean. I guess that pretty much covers my bases? I am not much of a "scene" guy. I never feel super comfortable / welcome in those space cause I don't really drink or dance and I am a chub/bear kind of guy.

Really abhorrent this military rule!!! Wow. Completely homophobic. Very sad...

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Re: Gay bros! Which dating apps do you use?
« Reply #12 on: June 24, 2017, 12:40:29 AM »
The Korean military is NOT homophobic.  That is a gross misrepresentation, an open secret, like abortion as a regular means of birth control.

Sexual violence and sodomy are chronic and widespread.

Not too many openly speak about what goes on, while there are those that have shed some light on the situation.

Some liken it to what they imagine prison would be like, as man on man "action" is all around.

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« Reply #13 on: June 24, 2017, 08:08:30 AM »
It is never acceptable to punish adults for having consensual sex. Period. End of story. Sexual assault and rape are an entirely different matter. 

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Re: Gay bros! Which dating apps do you use?
« Reply #14 on: June 26, 2017, 10:42:15 AM »

The Korean military can be pretty homophobic. The new president is against gays in the military too as he thinks they "weaken" the military. So his quote on here said.

Source about the military: A few gay koreans who have done military service.

Korea is a pretty homophobic country all round. Last weekend in Daegu once again proved this.

To the OP. You can try Hornet too but I don't know if it's any good. 
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